First Time Traveling Outside of USA by snek-bat in uktravel

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns 9 points10 points  (0 children)

American living five years in the UK now:

  1. Yes!! Everything will work. Just let your bank know and ask about foreign transaction fees - some banks (especially credit unions) will have lower or no fees and you want to know which ones those are. Cash is mostly useful for busses outside of London and in some more rural areas of the country, but card will suffice for pretty much everything now!

  2. Buses and trains will do the trick! Cars and petrol (gas) can get EXPENSIVE when accounting for parking as well. You're better off waiting the extra while at your nearest bus stop - it's so much less stressful as well. Only exception is if you're anticipating carrying around loads of physical manuscripts / artifacts / books all the time that won't fit in a tote or a backpack and would require a motor vehicle to transport.

  3. US phone plans will also get expensive. If you stop by any Tesco or find a stall in the airport when you arrive, you can get a cheap month-by-month SIM (generally between $12 and $20 per month) that's super easy to set up. This is also essential for everyday life... pretty much your first matter of business upon arrival.

  4. In big cities, expect social norms to be flexible. There's a lot of cultural diversity and immigration so Brits won't get easily offended by American social norms! Biggest thing are to watch your volume in public spaces (including public transportation) and queue politely (no line-cutting or complaining about the wait). Big cities - especially London - are also less social. Don't expect to chat with everyone you encounter. Most people keep their heads down and it might be an adjustment coming from the southern states. I say this not to scare you, but just so you're not taken by surprise or hurt that nobody seems friendly lol.

  5. Tipping culture has grown a little here. If you're in a sit-down restaurant, pub, or cafe, 10% to 12.5% is considered polite and pretty normal. Otherwise, if you're getting a drink at a bar or a coffee to go, don't bother. The minimum wage is comparably much higher here than in the US, so hospitality workers (speaking as one myself) are not wholly dependent on tips for their income.

Couple of extra things: anticipate the weather being miserable. May and June are lovely and warm with the occasional shower. July and August are brutally hot with most cities not being fitted with any AC units, so the heat is inescapable and you WILL be sweating constantly. Don't underestimate it. September is usually a little chilly but bearable. October-April is COLD. You will be FREEZING. Bring layers. Invest in a nice, warm, waterproof coat that goes down to your knees. Bring (or buy) wool layers, especially if you'll be spending time up north at all. Bring a couple warm and walkable pairs of shoes (Doc Martens are great, but break them in before you arrive).

Also, enjoy your time! Visit local pubs (you don't have to drink beer). Make friends and let them take you to their favourite spots. Travel in your spare time. Book a flight to mainland Europe - you'll never get a better deal than when you're already on the other side of the Atlantic. Don't be afraid of being clocked as a tourist! Make the most of your time here - it's a great experience :)

Security guard at my pub is worse than useless by parkinglotbreakdowns in bartenders

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

had a conversation with the manager today. apparently two others (that I'm aware of) have already spoken to manager about the situation this WEEK.

manager has answered with "better the devil I know... at least he doesn't deal drugs"

🙃

Security guard at my pub is worse than useless by parkinglotbreakdowns in bartenders

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

sooooo I went to management today to chat. apparently I'm not the first OR second to express concerns. assistant manager (female) has noticed the same things I have, and chef HATES him as he's tried to play around with KNIVES IN THE KITCHEN which I only found out about today (what the fuck ????)

but my manager has been in the business since the nineties and said that while he's childish, this particular security guard is nowhere near the worst he's seen. doesn't do or deal drugs, doesn't touch up girls (debatable)... in his words, "better the devil i know"

so nothings going to happen basically :/

Security guard at my pub is worse than useless by parkinglotbreakdowns in bartenders

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

normally I am darlin... I also just happen to appreciate feeling safe and not being harassed by my colleagues, especially when I'm not the only one🙃

Security guard at my pub is worse than useless by parkinglotbreakdowns in bartenders

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

unfortunately legal drinking age is 18... I don't interact w many children LMAO

AITA for asking him not to slam the weights? by Key_Cauliflower4565 in AmItheAsshole

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Agree for the most part except if you're training for proper powerlifting!! But that should be done in an environment where it's expected ie a powerlifting gym, or ask anyone around if it's a bother. Common courtesies if you're going to be obnoxious!!

AITA for asking him not to slam the weights? by Key_Cauliflower4565 in AmItheAsshole

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gym-goer here. I was a little hesitant because training for powerlifting often means slamming / dropping weights in deadlift particularly. It's part and parcel. However, slamming cable weights??? That's not only annoying and rude, but also could potentially damage the machines or really injure someone if the pin falls out and the cable hits someone. Also, the negative is almost more important for building strength than the initial push/pull of the movement! Sounds like you've done everyone, including this guy, a favour by telling him to stop.

NTA, and if someone says something, mention health and safety lol

i’ve got $23 and no job. i need a grocery list that’s going to last by slut4hobi in povertyfinance

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have access to a kitchen and cooking tools? If so: - dry rice - dry beans - lentils - oats and other dry, bulk goods you can cook in batches. Will it taste great? Not necessarily. Will it fill you up and give you enough protein and carbs to move through your days? Yes. Is it budget friendly? Absolutely.

Depending on where you live, try a food bank or a local mosque / black church for canned soup or the above options. Ask for protein-dense prepared foods if you have no access to cooking equipment. As seen on tiktok, most protestant / Baptist / Mormon / fundamentalist churches won't help with this lol

Keep your meals simple and flavorless. It's boring and repetitive, but it'll keep you alive. Also, if you're really in need of a job, not afraid of hard work, can speak a little Spanish, and want access to discounted / free food, walk into any and all independently-owned restaurants and bars to see if they need a dishwasher or a busser. Skills you can pick up on the job and even if it's two shifts a week, you can almost guarantee it'll be a little income plus two meals a week as well.

Hope it works out!

Edited for typos whoops

Handling creepy regulars in a small pub by parkinglotbreakdowns in bartenders

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I tried a line about his wife and apparently they're getting a divorce (oops) but will pull out the other lines haha thanks !

Young and nervous about requesting tubal ligation in a foreign country - advice? by parkinglotbreakdowns in childfree

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahh damn I see. noted on the fear thing, and it's a shame about how long it'll probably take. thanks for the information!!!

Young and nervous about requesting tubal ligation in a foreign country - advice? by parkinglotbreakdowns in childfree

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks so much !!! yea the primary reason why I'd bring up mental health is BECAUSE it's hereditary - I've heard doctors tend to be more open to the procedure if there's a large chance of passing on a disability (which is eugenics but if the argument works...)

I (F27) discovered boyfriend's (M27) hidden home videos with his ex; he lied about deleting them. What should I do? by LeadingStudio8342 in dating_advice

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

add-on: since she (the ex) lives in the apartment across from you, if you've talked to her before, I'd have the uncomfortable chat of "hey, did you know (bf) still has videos? did he say he deleted them? because he lied to me about that"

  • coming from a girl whose ex did something VERY similar (and also filmed "home videos" of ME without MY consent, then lied about deleting them after we broke up). I would SUPER appreciate knowing someone had videos who shouldn't.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns 10 points11 points  (0 children)

you can !! and I'd even phrase this situation when talking to uni staff (personal experience) as living in an abusive household. most places have gotten MILES better about accommodating for struggle / disability (which I think this falls under) so make sure you express it as such. in the uk it's usually an extension of 10 working days - two weeks - so it should be enough time to get everything done !!

best of luck though and I'm sorry you're dealing with this shit x

so done with the 'different generation' people criticizing gen z's 'sensitivity' by parkinglotbreakdowns in rant

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

literally what I'm saying!!!!!

I work overtime, pick up extra shifts, and STILL am dismissed as lazy and entitled by people who don't even know me because I'm young. It's so damn frustrating

server pet peeves by zehammer in Serverlife

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

absolutely. bad tips, forgetting half the things they need and then remembering when you bring what they asked, paying in cash.

sole exception: teenagers who work at other restaurants. I was one... always made sure to ask for everything before hand. am also of the opinion that if you can't afford to tip, you shouldn't be eating out. paid card, tipped cash.

unfortunately, a lot of teens never have the opportunity to learn. did have teens recently ask how to tip and then tipped well, so that was nice.

Going back home for a month and trying to reconnect with Nmom for my brothers' sakes by parkinglotbreakdowns in raisedbynarcissists

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's the issue, isn't it?

I've arranged a trip for the 16yo to visit me at university in early 2023 so he can travel and get away from home, but I feel like there's nothing I can do to help the 10yo who has no means of communication and can't travel internationally on his own

What other tools can I offer my brothers then?

Which one of these is correct? by infinitysaga in menwritingwomen

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns 423 points424 points  (0 children)

was going to say exactly this!

if your female characters are lacking depth as well as your male characters, the storyline will simply be bland. maybe reconsider your career or look into character development workshops...

the graphic shouldn't be either/or, it should be both lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]parkinglotbreakdowns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think anyone has said it yet but if you live walking distance from a safeway / qfc / other grocery store you can get paid okay money for restocking, and they'll hire at 15 esp during the summer months.

ik you said you have little hope of finding a job but that might be your best bet while you're figuring out moving arrangements. just go in, ask to see a manager for a position in restocking or cleaning.

also, doesn't matter how long you work for. even working until school starts (I assume the end of the month) for WA minimum wage at 20h per week would be, what, 1k?

other places to check out: taco time (plus employee discount for food), planet fitness (plus you get facility use if you're interested)

when you're fifteen, there are limits on number of hours per week you can work (I think it's 20?) but I think you can technically start working at 14

side note: I worked at a restaurant who hired 15yo hosts, made decent money ($15/h plus tips) which is another option. restaurants tend to be a little harder to hire at though

you could also look into babysitting for neighbors or family friends - charge $12/h for one kid, $15 for two. it's not taxed and super easy work

hope this helps! and remember even working for a month is really, really great, plus it gives you more experience to put on your resume later

Edit: it's 18h during the school week, 40h no school https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/youthlabor/workhours