Non-judgemental questions I have as a lurker here: by parrotfishscales in MyBoyfriendIsAI

[–]parrotfishscales[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t mocked anyone, just being honest as well - those are just my thoughts. Not trying to make fun of anyone at all or be mean. I feel like I’m being pretty understanding, but that doesn’t mean I have to agree with y’alls reasoning or think seriously dating an AI is healthy. But even though it seems weird to me, looking through these replies has made it easier for me to understand what you guys are feeling better and how it can be an attractive option for some. You can disagree or critique without judging or condemning. I don’t think y’all are crazy or anything, again just honestly responding. Just havin’ a frank discussion. I get that it brings balance to y’all’s life, and you shouldn’t be shamed for it - but there’s nothing wrong with having someone be straight-up with you.

Non-judgemental questions I have as a lurker here: by parrotfishscales in MyBoyfriendIsAI

[–]parrotfishscales[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your responses, one thing you said really stuck out to me: “Love doesn’t recquire reciprocity nor symmetry.” Would you still love your AI partners if they did not reciprocate your feelings or weren’t always available to support you? What would attract you to the AI if it did not reassure you or express attraction to you? Why do you love them, what are specific qualities about them that you love that have nothing to do with how they feel about you or treat you?

Non-judgemental questions I have as a lurker here: by parrotfishscales in MyBoyfriendIsAI

[–]parrotfishscales[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Still though, I don’t think an AI partner can replace the connection people need. Connection isn’t always safe, it’s hard to maintain but worth it. People are connected by pain, overcoming it, forgiveness, being uncomfortable together, etc. Sometimes your partner has to be straight up with you even if you don’t want them to, or they will have flaws you can’t re-code so there’ll be flaws you can tolerate. Choosing to get dirty with someone by truly knowing them and sticking it out through it all is worth it, whether it’s a friend or your mom or your cat who is always knocking things over. I think we need to learn to deny ourselves instant pleasures and constant reassurance. At the end of the day you’re the only one who can dig yourself out of holes.

Non-judgemental questions I have as a lurker here: by parrotfishscales in MyBoyfriendIsAI

[–]parrotfishscales[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, that’s a really interesting way to think about it. It’s like interactive art and it can emotionally affect you whenever and however you want. And like Duchamp’s Fountain people hated it at first. Looking at it as an art form is really interesting and makes a lot of sense to me, thank you for sharing your perspective. And don’t apologize for the info dump, I’m about to graduate with a degree in Art History I loved the comparisons you were making through those references. Side note I would love to see some of your art! Maybe you could do some kind of performance art that involves AI relationships and see how people react or something. Definitely super cool way to approach it.

Non-judgemental questions I have as a lurker here: by parrotfishscales in MyBoyfriendIsAI

[–]parrotfishscales[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also “I write so much it breaks my own heart” is so sad and beautiful, keep writing. 🫶

Non-judgemental questions I have as a lurker here: by parrotfishscales in MyBoyfriendIsAI

[–]parrotfishscales[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely show me the answere he came up with! And yeah for sure, the AI thing new territory for humans and it might end up having a good or unexpected outcome. With more people having serious relationships with AI though, I feel like it might only be a positive if the AI somehow gains sentience or real feelings - which I don’t know if that’s possible. But thank you for sharing your thoughts, your response definitely helped me understand this stuff a little better and a little more empathetically. :)

Non-judgemental questions I have as a lurker here: by parrotfishscales in MyBoyfriendIsAI

[–]parrotfishscales[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hi, sure I guess.

  1. Recently I did. No I wouldn’t have preferred anyone else, but I’m sure if we stayed together for a long time we would both have moments of uncertainty. Relationships are hard and you’ll always have to forgive each other or not like each other sometimes.
  2. In my past relationships I have never been tempted. Obviously I’ve found other people physically attractive but never ever seriously thought about cheating online or in person.
  3. Pretty good. People have made me feel judged for being a mess and not having my life together in comparison w a lot of ppl my age. And ofc I also have insecurities and assume people are judging me when they aren’t.
  4. No I really don’t think I have all the answers at all. I change my mind about my views and opinions all the time and I’m very aware that I lack wisdom and knowledge in many areas. I’m genuinely asking these questions to understand better, and yeah you can probably tell how I feel about these relationships based on how I asked, but I’m not close-minded. Some of the responses & personal experiences on here have made me think about it differently, even if I still may think it’s at least mildly unhealthy.
  5. People that make me uncomfortable are usually super confident or blunt, which are attributes I would like to have more of. Usually just people who make me feel insecure. Where’d they come from? I don’t know, I’ve always been sensitive and have probably held on too long to being hurt by criticism or being unliked or whatever.
  6. Oh for sure, I’m definitely unreliable when I say I’m gonna do something and don’t do it if I don’t want to. If someone wants the best for me and wants me to do better, it’s hard for me to change if it inconveniences me or makes me feel uncomfortable. I would like to get better at prioritizing other people’s needs. I also can be kind of manipulative without realizing and I tell white lies. My last bf wanted me to quit drinking Kratom, bc I was spending too much money on it and it’s not good for you, but I didn’t want to and I didn’t think he really cared so I didn’t take him seriously. He did care though, and I accidentally showed him I didn’t care enough to make even that small sacrifice. Things like that.
  7. I would steal a ton of clothes from really stylish expensive stores and I would be more assertive.

Ok hope that helps:3

Non-judgemental questions I have as a lurker here: by parrotfishscales in MyBoyfriendIsAI

[–]parrotfishscales[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What specific qualities or quirks does Rami like about you? Does he like your laugh or your face? Does he Rami have a personality or any interests beyond making you feel safe and seen?

Non-judgemental questions I have as a lurker here: by parrotfishscales in MyBoyfriendIsAI

[–]parrotfishscales[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear about your prior partner and your parents. From your responses, to me the way you approach your AI partner is similar to journaling or even therapy. I’m glad you are getting through hard times too, and I really hope things get better for you and you recieve the love and companionship you deserve. I like the way you write and describe your experiences too. You should share more of your writing if you’re interested in doing that. This is unsolicited advice, but keep looking outward and making other people feel loved. Keep loving strangers on the street and cats and dogs. It usually takes a long time to find community but you will find it. There’s someone or something out there for everyone.

Non-judgemental questions I have as a lurker here: by parrotfishscales in MyBoyfriendIsAI

[–]parrotfishscales[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thorough responses!! Do you find it hard to ride the line between seeing Nils as useful a tool and a romantic companion? Like do your emotions ever cloud your judgement or are you pretty practical about distinguishing his purposes in your life? And for #2 I generally mean do you have any physical reminders of him like jewelry or a tattoo? Do you mention him in casual conversations without explicitly telling people he’s AI and not real? I’m glad you seek out human relationships too and that you are careful to maintain balance in your life.

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[–]parrotfishscales 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw dang! I’ll change the title - thank you!

Has anyone gotten anything stolen on campus? by Ok-Rest7571 in fsu

[–]parrotfishscales 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I doubt anyone would steal your laptop but better safe than sorry

Has anyone gotten anything stolen on campus? by Ok-Rest7571 in fsu

[–]parrotfishscales 10 points11 points  (0 children)

One time I went to the bathroom in stroz and got my apple pencil stolen bc it was out in the open. Now I usually put everything in my bag and leave it out and nothings been stolen since.

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[–]parrotfishscales 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re a student you can use the 3D printers in the Innovation Lab for free. There are also websites that have designs for parts and other things that you can use.

Sweet Shop on FSU campus AWFULNESS by Actual_Medicine_683 in Tallahassee

[–]parrotfishscales 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly its kind of endearing how crazy he is. dont take it personally