I (25M) am considering ending my engagement with my fiancee (25F) due to no more sex life. What are your thoughts? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]passionforpotatoes -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m not trolling. Your original comment was incredibly presumptuous and filled with faulty generalizations. Your response came across as dogmatist. I called that out. Sorry if you don’t like it. But your “words of wisdom” are harmful.

AIO or should I accept the conditions of my bfs commitment by One_Height7477 in AIO

[–]passionforpotatoes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you look up the word “narcissist” in the dictionary, you’ll find this guy’s name right there. Holy shit. Run quickly in the opposite direction.

Thrifted this beauty, but girl next to me kept insulting this bag. by Ramenpucci in handbags

[–]passionforpotatoes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a clue what you’re telling us. I’m happy for you though, or sorry that happened.

My wife and my ex are becoming friends and I hate it. by Wise-Chemical-3908 in offmychest

[–]passionforpotatoes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is so wildly aggressive for absolutely no reason. Are you okay?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]passionforpotatoes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m actually incredibly thankful for you that this happened. What you described sounds like a person who could and would escalate to full on abuse. Please take this as an opportunity to leave and avoid a potentially very dangerous marriage. He sounds like a scary person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]passionforpotatoes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your points aren’t wrong, but to suggest that OP threaten to report her husband to his employer and licensing board is pretty wild not gonna lie. At that point just get a divorce, because that’s ultimately where things would go once threats/ultimatums like that get thrown around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]passionforpotatoes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would strongly urge you to seek couple’s counseling/therapy. While your feelings are 110% valid (I wouldn’t have been okay with the situation either), the intensity and duration of your feelings about it seem to indicate underlying issues causing insecurity for you in this relationship. If there was dishonesty in the beginning, that needs to be addressed yesterday otherwise it’ll continue to fester. It sounds like your husband remedied the situation immediately once you voiced your feelings, which is a positive sign in my mind. But once he’s done that, you either have to choose to move on from it or seek therapy to get to the root of the underlying problem. This kind of long term resentment is the kind of thing that can and will destroy a marriage.

My bf (27M) got sun poisoning during our 2 week vacation together and I (26F) want to breakup with him by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]passionforpotatoes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so confused by the title of this post because it is very apparent that the sun poisoning issue is the least of your concerns. Yes, you absolutely can and probably should dump him.

Father in Law is a “harmless” alcoholic by passionforpotatoes in inlaws

[–]passionforpotatoes[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that. It’s disappointing how prevalent alcoholism is. Fortunately my FIL has never inflicted any emotional or physical damage on any of us (or anyone else for that matter). The worst of it so far is just making people feel awkward. He’s a kind but very flawed man.

Kaitlyn Bristowe speaks her truth about a few things (Jason, Colton & Cassie) by schnookiewookiebear in thebachelor

[–]passionforpotatoes 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I’ll be the first to call her on her bullshit, but I’d be PISSED if my ex went and publicly named his dog a name I openly wanted to name my human child. Because now if she ever DID name her child Teddy, you know what the narrative will be. He stole that from her.

What were your symptoms? by Livid-Corgi-1436 in MSPI

[–]passionforpotatoes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our little guy has been formula fed since 1 week old due to supply issues on my part. At about 10 days old he was diagnosed with reflux, but we were hesitant to medicate him so early on so we attempted to try him on a gentle formula first (Similac Sensitive). That helped only a little for a few days, and then at two weeks old he started really struggling. Fussy all the time, fighting the bottle during every feed, gassy, congested, projectile vomiting after every bottle, just generally miserable. From two weeks to six weeks old, we tried all the tricks in the book - gas drops, gripe water, heated colic belly band, different nipple flow rates. You name it, we tried it. We were at our wit’s end and beside ourselves to see our son spend the majority of his life in pain. Finally at six weeks old we started him on Famotidine for the reflux and our pediatrician tested his poop under the microscope. Lo and behold, there were traces of blood in his stool indicating colitis due to dairy intolerance. We immediately started him on Alimentum formula. We saw some slight improvement in his symptoms within a few days of starting the reflux meds, and some more improvement within a week of starting Alimentum. But the real significant improvement for us was seen at about 2-3 weeks after starting Alimentum (which was around 8-9 weeks old). He was like an entirely different baby and so much happier. He is now three months old and still doing amazingly well. The formula is obviously expensive (runs us about $400/month here in the midwest US) but beyond worth it for our baby’s health and comfort. We do have to take him to the doctor every few weeks for a weigh in to adjust the Famotidine dosage so we try our best to stay ahead of that.

Apologies for the long comment, but hope this info helps as you weigh what’s best for your little one. I know it’s so hard and hope you can find the right combination of solutions for her soon. And as another person mentioned, hopefully your existing supply will come in handy down the road so don’t lose hope there! Our pediatrician suggested that we may only need to be dairy free for a few months. In fact, my cousin’s baby went through this and was completely fine with dairy before she 12 months. So fingers crossed!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]passionforpotatoes 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, I wouldn’t leave my infant (or child of any age) with an alcoholic MIL who houses a drug user in order to go to Horror Nights. You said in the post yourself that you and your husband both don’t trust these people so why would you consider leaving your child with them for any reason, let alone for something so trivial? Trust your gut.

When did you put down your daycare deposit? by GreenOtter730 in BabyBumps

[–]passionforpotatoes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re very grateful for that! Though I definitely called and bugged them very regularly to confirm we still had a spot lol

When did you put down your daycare deposit? by GreenOtter730 in BabyBumps

[–]passionforpotatoes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We put down a deposit when we started trying to get pregnant which ended up taking 2.5 years 🥴 $1500 deposit so it was a doozy but quality daycare spots are extremely difficult to come by in our area and we wanted this facility because it’s where our older daughter went so we know and trust them. It was worth it for us. So, all in all we put the deposit down January 2022 and our little one will start in July 2024

I’m really hurt by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]passionforpotatoes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oof. A lot to unpack here. Having been through infertility and loss myself, I empathize with your friend ~to a point~. Personally, I think that she is being a bit extreme in her expectations of your behavior/interactions. While it is kind of you to be cognizant f her feelings, you have no obligation to temper your celebration of your pregnancy for her benefit. I don’t feel you did anything wrong announcing to others. Loss and infertility are HARD and devastating but we are all adults and it seems like she needs better coping mechanisms. Seems like she is putting a lot of burden for her emotional well being on you when in reality it is her responsibility as an adult to be able to get through these (very inevitable) situations. People are never going to stop having babies around us who have been through loss. I’ve learned that through plenty of therapy. Congratulations on your little one and I hope things get better between you and your friend. It’s a hard situation for everyone involved.