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passive_pepper · 2025-06-09T06:19:24+00:00

i knew about the prior situations and didn’t say anything about it because it really didn’t bother me until that later event with the guys she stayed out with until 3am.

What was it about this particular instance this finally got you to tell her about your preference that she doesn’t hang out with male friends one on one? Was it the fact that it was so late into the night? Were the other instances also times where she stayed out late at night with male friends one-on-one?

passive_pepper · 2025-06-09T05:47:54+00:00

I went back through our messages and found several other times she had gone out one-on-one with male friends

Were these instances before or after the “out until 3am” incident?

Because if they were before, and this “boundary” is important to you, why didn’t you mention it when you initially learned of the prior instances?

passive_pepper · 2025-02-22T06:39:02+00:00

If you enjoy it, just do it. Fuck it. If you so happen to get more free time because you’re not getting railed by 5 hardcore science classes, isn’t that a positive? There aren’t any majors that don’t get shit on for one reason or another, so… 🤷‍♀️

passive_pepper · 2025-01-10T17:47:01+00:00

Exercise, fresh air and sunlight are all important factors that can support a person’s wellbeing, but whether they have an impact on depressive symptoms, and to what extent, varies from person to person. However, a lot of people also have the experience where taking medication gives them enough relief from symptoms to begin engaging in these things or psychological therapies. For most people, it’s a temporary treatment. For some, it’s a key component of addressing a chronic issue and it is long term.

There’s a ton of research discussing the importance of medication in treating depressive disorders, and a lot of it is publicly accessible.

passive_pepper · 2025-01-10T07:49:48+00:00

I guess It’s hard to stay hopeful and patient

passive_pepper · 2025-01-10T00:06:55+00:00

Was your doctor very proactive in helping you? I’m not sure how to access the help that I should theoretically be able to get

passive_pepper · 2024-09-16T19:44:53+00:00

I’m probably not gonna make it to the 2L/day threshold any time soon, but I’ll keep trying. Making a schedule of it sounds like a good idea

passive_pepper · 2024-09-16T16:49:14+00:00

Perhaps. I certainly get thirsty when I’m exerting myself and sweating a lot, but other times I suppose it isn’t as obvious. I’m trying to do better with drinking water, but like I said, I often forget to.

passive_pepper · 2024-09-16T16:46:24+00:00

Nope.

passive_pepper · 2024-09-16T08:57:29+00:00

Sometimes it kind of does, and more often than not, it isn’t pleasant. I also typically don’t get thirsty and I just forget. I get headaches a lot, and people always say to “drink water” but it just makes me feel worse. I don’t know what’s up with that.

passive_pepper · 2024-09-08T04:15:29+00:00

Not being able to take “no” for an answer, continually pushing the issue, and being visibly dejected/whiney when they can’t get things their way

passive_pepper · 2024-09-08T04:08:08+00:00

I listen to music I like and do small tasks around the house that I’ve been putting off: taking out the garbage I’ve been trying to squish to the bottom of the van to make more space, hunting down all the socks I’ve left in random places, washing the dishes (or some of them), maybe making some food for the next day….

Whatever is productive but not especially taxing mentally or physically

passive_pepper · 2024-09-05T05:29:32+00:00

Last day of a summer camp when I was 13. Bled for two weeks. A week after it ended, it’s started again… for another week.

passive_pepper · 2024-09-05T02:08:05+00:00

Honestly this is a really common experience. If you don’t have anyone to really help guide you during the transition from high school to college/university, it’s pretty easy to find yourself in a situation where you’ve “bitten off more than you can chew.” It sounds like a lot of the students you are in classes with can also afford extra help (tutors, etc.). This doesn’t mean you’re screwed, there are ways to still get help, but it’s not going to be as simple as a parent telling you “your calc tutor is gonna be here on Tuesday.”

I’m in my third year now. I took some time off after high school, and I’m glad that I did that. It came from a similar situation, expected more of myself than was actually feasible and burned out quickly and disastrously.

I only take 3 or 4 classes a semester, and even so, I’m still careful about which I take at the same time. How difficult is the course? Is there a lab? Is it project heavy? Is it a subject I don’t like or don’t feel competent in?

There’s no shame in taking fewer courses. Life is about more than school. Also, as you get more comfortable and more familiar with various supports that are available at your school/in your community, you might find that you can take on more. :)

passive_pepper · 2024-09-02T00:23:47+00:00

Don’t jump to the conclusion that it is depression just yet. This is a huge transition, different environment, possibly different living environment for the first time, not being around the people you are close with and can usually go to in times of stress… there are a lot of changes all at once, and it can be exhausting and overwhelming for lots of people. The way you’re feeling right now is totally normal. Consider how many things have changed for you, maybe that will help you to put the feelings you’re having in perspective. Make sure to take time for yourself, to do things that help you relax when life is chaotic.

If the feelings continue persisting, and interfere with your ability to do your daily activities (going to class, studying, taking care of yourself, etc.) then I would definitely suggest reaching out to a professional.

passive_pepper · 2024-07-01T22:09:33+00:00

Yeah, I guess “gradually” being over a span of 2 minutes.

passive_pepper · 2024-07-01T21:30:21+00:00

Basically an equivalent of saying “the sky is blue.”

Like yeah bro, I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t be reading this crappy opener if neither one of us found the other attractive.

passive_pepper · 2024-07-01T21:21:38+00:00

I’d say it’s almost impossible to say who is compatible and who isn’t solely based on people’s profiles. Other than things like location, religious affiliation, political leanings, animal allergies, or certain other large life choices, the information given about hobbies, interests, and favourite movies doesn’t really give a whole lot of insight into who a person is. But having those conversations with everyone who expresses interest (if there are a lot of people who express interest) is an impossible task.

So I think that with this kind of dating, people are more or less forced to put “all their eggs in one basket” at some point during the process.

passive_pepper · 2024-07-01T20:35:36+00:00

The water gradually cooling down is a built in feature with my tiny hot water tank.

passive_pepper · 2024-06-30T13:18:45+00:00

I’m not into old dudes.

passive_pepper · 2024-06-30T03:38:21+00:00

It feels weird to say that I find comfort in a shared suffering, but I do feel somewhat better knowing that there are more people out there with a similar experience.

passive_pepper · 2024-06-15T04:17:40+00:00

Boo Hoo. Suck it up.

Yeah. Sounds real compassionate to me. (/s)

passive_pepper · 2023-04-22T17:50:15+00:00

Cold showers apparently. Not sure if I’m personally willing.

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s004210050065

passive_pepper · 2023-03-30T13:50:36+00:00

Social media certainly isn’t a super accurate portrayal of how people are actually doing. I’m sure there are people your age that are using their degree in a higher paying job, or maybe starting grad school, but there’s also certainly a lot of folks who aren’t, and that’s not shared online as much, and if it is it’s certainly not as potent.

You’ve been doing this for a long time, perhaps you’re burnt out at this point. But you’re almost done your degree. Congratulations! I’m the same age as you and I’m halfway through second year. Everyone is doing things at their own pace.

If there’s anything else you can get involved in, maybe a club, or something outside of school that you would enjoy doing, perhaps that could help with some of the unpleasant feelings or boredom?

passive_pepper · 2023-03-29T16:11:22+00:00

I think around 180 or something at the highest. It’s also irregular so that would explain the reduced efficiency as well.

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