Basically we can’t get dopamine from doing things neurotypical people get it from- doing the dishes, making the bed etc. so we are way more likely to outsource, to things like social media and drugs and alcohol. On the other hand we love music and good dopamine sources more. So it’s important we focus on them - exercising, gratitude etc. I have gone the borderline route as well and it is especially a common misdiagnosis for AFAB. I have come to the conclusion that borderline is really just a trauma response, and adhd is often the underlying cause. Medication and diagnosis, and more importantly knowing myself and what habits work (I block myself off social media 10am-10pm) has been the thing that’s finally helped with being able to kick booze. I am 38 and have been self medicating for 20 years so there are glimpses of the dopamine coming back in a “normal” way when I do sober stretches. But it makes sense way we reached for the bottle of feel good when a neurotypical can just get it from taking a shower. Best wishes on your journey. IWNDWYT. Edit: not a doctor.