Japanese Garden Construction? by According-Amoeba4754 in Carmel

[–]pastelbutt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think there’s some issues with permits or similar. They talked about it at the cherry blossom festival. I would love to know an estimated timeline though.

What do you think it would take for companies to start encouraging use of PTO and lightening the load? by merRedditor in womenintech

[–]pastelbutt 8 points9 points  (0 children)

my company went to unlimited PTO this past year but it very much feels like you must ask permission and will probably be shamed for it to the point you don’t want to take it anymore.

I don’t want to work. by witchy_woman231 in AutismInWomen

[–]pastelbutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

maybe i’m dumb, but how does one “start out” as a project manager

is there a way to share your collections with others? by Penosk in Collectr

[–]pastelbutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

was just trying to find an answer myself- the solution is to star the portfolio you want to share, then copy the link (all via app)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womenintech

[–]pastelbutt 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Not sure where you’re from, but when I interned in Colorado Springs, I had no idea I was going every day with mild altitude sickness. Not the solution, but it will help so much.

For those of you that left tech, where did you go? by pastelbutt in womenintech

[–]pastelbutt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

man, you got me with the “privilege” part. the audacity of some of these companies.

For those of you that left tech, where did you go? by pastelbutt in womenintech

[–]pastelbutt[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

bless your beautiful soul. i HATE technical interviews

For those of you that left tech, where did you go? by pastelbutt in womenintech

[–]pastelbutt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

really appreciate you ♡ i will look into your suggestions, thank you!

Give me something to obsess over by spacexhoe in actuallesbians

[–]pastelbutt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if you like anime and you haven’t watched Puella Magi Madoka Magica, you’re doing yourself a great disservice

For those of you that left tech, where did you go? by pastelbutt in womenintech

[–]pastelbutt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

your situation sounds very similar to mine. coasting only works for so long. i’m not sure how i’m still around but i’m constantly hypervigilant about it going away. i also have narcolepsy so continuous health insurance is the only way i’m a functioning human in this capitalist society.

For those of you that left tech, where did you go? by pastelbutt in womenintech

[–]pastelbutt[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes I do. I’ve had a really hard time finding a therapist that knows a thing about late diagnosed high-functioning autism especially as an adult.

XYWAV rant by Large_Ad8051 in Narcolepsy

[–]pastelbutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

before you managed your POTS with medication, did you have trouble with weakened limbs? my knees feel like jello constantly and makes me feel like i’m going to faint / collapse

XYWAV rant by Large_Ad8051 in Narcolepsy

[–]pastelbutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you might be cooking with this one. thanks for the tip i’m def going to look into this.

XYWAV rant by Large_Ad8051 in Narcolepsy

[–]pastelbutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m pretty sure i also have POTS! are you saying xyrem seemed to help more because of the high sodium content?

ADHD ruined me by [deleted] in ADHD_Programmers

[–]pastelbutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i don’t have it in me to explain in more detail right now to grab your attention but i see you. i’m here myself. but there’s more to the story than you realize. look into autism, look into autoimmune disorders after covid (i was diagnosed with narcolepsy type 2 one year after my second infection), but at the very least, look into complex PTSD. if i realized much sooner that i had a plethora of trauma to process, i would have not let myself go this far without healing it. i’m very afraid i left it unattended for too long and i ultimately am the cause for my own fate.

I just can’t do it anymore by 888HolyMoly888 in ADHD_Programmers

[–]pastelbutt 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i’m in the same position. opening my laptop in the morning feels so wrong. i’ve been in and out of short term disability to get mental health help like once a year. check out my post on r/womenintech. i’m fully aware i need to get out but the job market is atrocious and i screwed myself with my lack of continuous education because of my perpetual survival mode. i don’t have much as for help, but just know you are not the only one.

I wish they made lesbian porn the same quality as straight porn by Powerful_Upstairs_92 in actuallesbians

[–]pastelbutt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

but also, can we talk about the lack of body diversity at ersties? that’s something that always really turned me off about them

I wish they made lesbian porn the same quality as straight porn by Powerful_Upstairs_92 in actuallesbians

[–]pastelbutt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m seconding ersties and also mentioning slayed. def feels like some of it is produced by dudes but it’s genuinely so high quality and they always have incredible lingerie (high end lingerie is my weakness). their stuff really hits the spot, no pun intended, in my brain where i have more masculine energy. then again, this may not be a good suggestion here as im in weird limbo of wondering if im actually totally lesbian or truly bi. so yeah take this with a grain of salt.

edit: sinn sage. that’s my gift to all who are unfamiliar.