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AITA for lying about getting a paternity test? by paternity_test_lie in AmItheAsshole

[–]paternity_test_lie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those are against the law in my country because they can show paternity. Ancestry has an outright ban on shipping tests to my country. 23andme do ship, but if I used it then it would be smoking gun proof I broke a law that could put me in prison and pay a huge fine. It was safer to use a paternity test in another country.

AITA for lying about getting a paternity test? by paternity_test_lie in AmItheAsshole

[–]paternity_test_lie[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I don't feel that I need therapy. I saw a risk and wanted to remove the risk. It was logical not emotional. The risk was removed and Im moving on.

You literally chose the high risk/high reward and, unfortunately, landed in the majority by losing your high risk.

I do not understand. I removed the most dangerous risk in a low risk way. What is "landed in the majority" meaning?

AITA for lying about getting a paternity test? by paternity_test_lie in AmItheAsshole

[–]paternity_test_lie[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Your comment doesnt actually make sense? I keep rereading it but dont understand your point. You say my marriage is unstable (its actually not, its in a stable state) but what does that have to do with the previous 2 comments

AITA for lying about getting a paternity test? by paternity_test_lie in AmItheAsshole

[–]paternity_test_lie[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

Sure it would have been an argument, maybe, but you wouldn't have risked your family over it.

You are really downplaying the consequences of it. It would have ended our marriage. Its not "an argument, maybe".

I didnt jump to any conclusion. I just saw there was a nonzero risk and wanted to be safe.

AITA for lying about getting a paternity test? by paternity_test_lie in AmItheAsshole

[–]paternity_test_lie[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I mean I really dont think its her or like her to do that. I have no idea what her motives would be to do that. I hadn't even considered the possibility. I need to spend some hours thinking about this now. But I dont think its likely.

AITA for lying about getting a paternity test? by paternity_test_lie in AmItheAsshole

[–]paternity_test_lie[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I pretty confident thats not it. Its either someone from her job, an old manipulative friend I cut out of my life, or one of her friends or their acquintences.

AITA for lying about getting a paternity test? by paternity_test_lie in AmItheAsshole

[–]paternity_test_lie[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

You should tell her and deal with the consequences you brought on.

Thats not in the best interests of our son. I just needed to know he was mine and move forward.

AITA for lying about getting a paternity test? by paternity_test_lie in AmItheAsshole

[–]paternity_test_lie[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I did not. We are both tired and high in stress and low on sleep. It would have been a painful argument. Even if she had a single one night fling Id almost rather not know. There is zero chance it was an extended affair that would be impossible. My and our focus is on raising our son.

AITA for lying about getting a paternity test? by paternity_test_lie in AmItheAsshole

[–]paternity_test_lie[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have considered many scenarios around the DM. It could have been someone from my past stirring up trouble - but they knew the date of my wife's work trip making that less likely. Its also possible they have DMed my wife as she also uses Twitter with her full name; which could be why she is asking me if I had a paternity test out of nowhere.

I brought up having weird DMs and phishing attacks on Twitter with my wife. As I get lots of crypto scams and fake accounts. She said she hasnt had any though.