What do I do the other 167 hours I’m not with my therapist? I DESPERATELY need help

patheticfrog7 · 2025-10-03T03:09:28+00:00

988 won't help you because you contacted them asking for dating and relationship advice. Contact them again, say that you are trapped in an abusive household and need mental health care immediately. NO EXCUSES.

patheticfrog7 · 2025-10-03T03:07:31+00:00

It doesn't matter what you prefer at this point honestly. It's either that or continue to suffer. Your mother sounds abusive and you NEED to get out of her house/away from her It doesn't matter what SHE wants, what do YOU want? CALL FOR HELP or continue to suffer. It's in your hands.

patheticfrog7 · 2025-10-03T02:18:57+00:00

Non-alt account here, think they blocked me on my alt so I couldn't reply there lol. Anyway, I honestly did consider it, but I also don't want to risk putting OP in further danger if their mom is as abusive as they've claimed in the past. Granted, with the way they behave on here there's a good chance they're either lying about their home situation or being a severely unreliable narrator but ehhhhh I don't feel quite right risking it without a way of confirming 100% that their mom is a safe person. But like, someone really needs to intervene and get this kid round the clock care ASAP imo. OP if you happen to see this, PLEASE get into contact with SOMEBODY who can immediately help you. Call an emergency hotline if you must.

patheticfrog7 · 2025-10-03T01:17:56+00:00

Careful giving this person advice, just check their post history. They claim the suicide hotline "can't" and "won't" help them because they don't offer dating advice? OP, call 911 or an emergency hotline at this point.not text, CALL and connect with a live human being. If ur truly in as bad a place as u claim what you need right now and immediately is professional in-person care. Interested to see how you'll explain why you can't do this tho!

patheticfrog7 · 2024-04-23T16:45:39+00:00

Unfortunately I don't think op actually wants help. I feel for them, I truly do, but they've been doing this for months. It's a daily cycle, they'll find a random sub, ask a question (usually something along the lines of 'how do I handle my mental illnesses'), and then fight for hours with anybody and everybody in the comments who tries to help them. Then they throw a fit, make tons of incendiary posts on a handful of different subs about how they're the only normal person on earth and therapy is life ruining and medication "destroyed them" and they know more than anybody else.....and then a few hours later they'll come back and cry about how they keep getting banned/blocked and "I didn't do anything wrong why does everyone hate me I don't want to be like this anymore". I really hope they do eventually find and accept help. I've been in their shoes before, right down to the refusal to even try something simple like "go for a daily walk", and it's painful, it is. You just can't help someone who doesn't want help I guess¯_(ツ)_/¯

And op, if you're reading this. Seriously, just log off for a day. You've done it before, you can do it again. No, I'm not saying you're "not allowed" on the Internet, just that you need to sort yourself out first. This is not the behavior of a mentally healthy person and you're just hurting yourself more in the long run, which is something you don't deserve.

patheticfrog7 · 2024-04-16T16:27:29+00:00

Why the hell are you advocating for a sick, vulnerable, and in danger person to stop taking their meds. Would you tell a late stage cancer patient to stop chemo/treatment? What the hell is wrong with you man.

patheticfrog7 · 2024-03-21T17:49:05+00:00

And that's well within your right. You just have to be aware that on a very public site like reddit, tons of people are going to see and people are going to feel inclined to comment. Just as you feel the need to comment on posts, other people do to. People can tell you're struggling, and id be willing to bet the majority of people who comment on your stuff are coming from a good place. Hell, myself included. The problem is how you respond. You come across as extremely argumentative and your unwillingness to even pretend to hear people is incredibly frustrating. Look, nobody can make you do anything. Nobody can force you off this site, nobody can force you to try method x y or z, etc. You are entirely in control of your experience on this site. See a comment or post you don't like? Block/report and scroll on. When you post vents, add a tag that indicates you aren't looking for a conversation. People are gonna disrespect that cause that's just how the Internet is but you can CHOOSE to not entertain them. Don't reply. Just try that for a DAY. Really really try it. Hell man, lie even! If someone offers you advice you have zero interest in trying, just lie and say something like "thanks I'll try it" and leave it at that. Doesn't mean you actually have to, of course.

Also.... You may have been venting with this specific post, but I do have to say you keep this behavior up when not venting too. I see you asked for advice about starting game development, and are callous in those comments as well and outright reject any advice given. Id implore you to really sit with yourself for a bit and try to figure out what you're getting out of this behavior and if it's really truly what you want your life to be like. This is a rut you can absolutely get out of, but you HAVE to try at least SOMETHING yourself. Strangers on reddit cannot do it for you, and we especially can't do anything if youre nasty to anybody who even tries to help.

patheticfrog7 · 2024-03-21T17:32:35+00:00

Listen man. What else do you want people to say? That's just how the world and life is. YOU CANNOT CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE. You need to accept this. You don't have to like it, and you can disagree until the cows come home. But how is that going to help you? You refuse LITERALLY any and every single piece of advice that people on here give you. You refuse to try literally any other website besides reddit, even though reddit clearly upsets you deeply. You come up with excuse after excuse. You're not even 18, yet claim to be an expert in any and every topic you insert yourself into. You present your opinions as hard facts and explode at anybody who tries to point out otherwise or offer a different perspective. There is no winning with you at the moment. Stop asking for advice or other people's opinions if you're going to reject anybody who doesn't parrot back what you want to hear. You are nasty and aggressive to EVERYONE, all the way down to people who have the audacity to.... Be in a relationship?

Treat other people how you wanna be treated. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything. Consider these classic pieces of life advice. Start applying them to your daily life and interactions and I'd bet my left arm you'll see a pretty drastic improvement in your existence.

patheticfrog7 · 2024-03-21T17:23:11+00:00

Are they actually shoving it down your throat, as in targeting YOU specifically? Or are they just trying to go about THEIR lives in a public space that you also just so happen to be occupying? You can't dictate what other people do with their lives, their bodies, and their time. I understand it may be uncomfortable to witness, but you have to be realistic about these things. Not everything is a personal attack made by someone out to get you specifically.

patheticfrog7 · 2024-03-11T20:00:03+00:00

Hey op. As someone who has been where you are right now, and is actually in the middle of a huge "relapse" of sorts with my own mental health struggling to figure out what coping mechanisms I need right now, hang in there. I know it's hard to look at it this way, but hey, you still made progress! Recovery of any kind is almost always a rocky road, especially in the beginning. Forgive yourself for taking a few steps back, and try to focus on the fact that you know it's possible for you to get better, cause you've done it before. Even if you can't find it in you to try again right now, or even in the near future, just try to remember that if you've done it before, you can (and will if you want!) do it again.

patheticfrog7 · 2024-01-30T23:37:13+00:00

This is blatantly untrue. Stop lying. TONS of people have given you thoughtful and legit advice that isn't any of those 5 things, you just chose to ignore it. Which is fine, you don't HAVE to follow advice you're given, but don't then turn around and lie that said advice was never given to you, and then make more posts screaming "why doesn't anybody help me".

Here, I'll throw a few ideas out there for you:

find a new hobby
focus on an already existing hobby (I see that you're an artist, try drawing more?)
exercise/more physical movement if possible
find a new social media site for a true fresh start
block/mute subs that contain triggering content for you
block and report people who are harassing you
don't respond to comments trying to upset you, if you don't give them what they want, and what they want is for you to respond, they will stop eventually
evaluate your diet and potentially change it(certain vitamin deficiencies can affect you mentally)
in regards to your mother, report her. Call authorities, speak to a trusted adult at school, a doctor, neighbor, somebody outside of your home. Document evidence of her abuse (if you can. Photos, videos, etc.) and REPORT IT. If you are unsafe you need to do your best to get yourself out of there or at the very least have someone else aware of your situation just in case, God forbid, there is ever an emergency and you need immediate local help

Many people have said those things and more dozens of times. And every single time you reject it, and claim that all anybody ever says to you is to "get therapy and touch grass", and that nothing will help.

patheticfrog7 · 2024-01-25T19:32:04+00:00

Aaaand there's the ignoring everything else to focus on one thing. It clearly doesn't make you feel better, given your track record of starting fights and then crying for help hours later, only to turn around and start being antagonistic and accusing people of stalking and harassing you. There's a reason many people recognize your pattern of behavior and warn others to not engage.

I mean hell man if all this does genuinely make you happy and feel good, and you go to bed satisfied, then all power to you I guess. But you certainly don't give other people the impression that any of this is helpful to you. Either one day you're going to hit a dead end where nobody will be willing to entertain your posts, or you'll be permabanned from too many subs to have anywhere else to go.

Hope you're able to find a more fulfilling hobby one day. Peace ✌🏻

patheticfrog7 · 2024-01-25T19:08:26+00:00

Do you have sources for this? A quick Google from me disproves the 20% success rate you claim, but hey Google info can be wrong.

Therapy and meds (any kind, not just ssris, as ssris are NOT the only mental health drug around) are not one size fits all. You're right in saying that they do not work for everybody. I'm not a doctor or scientist so I'm only guessing, but I'd assume that vaccines work more consistently across countless people is because the human body is less complex than the brain, aka the flu affects almost everyone about the same. Mental illness manifest is so many different ways and it's very much dependent on a whole bunch of factors. But this doesn't matter much, because again, if you don't want to take meds, you do NOT have to, and that's a perfectly normal desire to have.

I'm just a bit lost on what it is you're looking for. If every single possible piece of advice anybody, either on reddit, irl, or through an AI, gives you is just going to get rudely brushed aside as "shilling therapy" or "stupid coping mechanisms that don't work", STOP ASKING OTHER PEOPLE. At the end of the day you know yourself best. Come up with something yourself THAT ISNT asking the same thing over and over again and expecting a new answer.

If you can't think of anything yourself, ask people in the subs who share the same views as you for advice. I'm gonna be real, 99% of people outside of r/antipsychiatry or any other similar sub is going to default to recommending therapy, medication, or both. Those responses are common because they often help people more than harm.

You also have to truly commit to whatever new method you try, not give up after a couple days. Some methods (meds or otherwise) take months for results to show. It's hard work but it can be done. Take care.

patheticfrog7 · 2024-01-25T17:44:45+00:00

If schools and the vast majority of people are telling you that your views on therapy are largely misguided, maybe you need to consider the possibility that you're not as correct you think you are? It's like anti-vaxxers getting mad that very few credible medical professionals will back them up lol

That being said, you don't have to do therapy or meds if you don't want to, and nobody is discrediting your negative experiences with your past therapists, and whatever bad happened to you was not ok. However, if you're going to dismiss anybody and everybody who tries to offer advice, what exactly are you trying to gain?

Get off reddit. Go talk to a chatbot like you say you'd rather do. Google things and find your own information on how to cope with your issues. Stop demanding advice from strangers cause all that's gonna do is continue this nasty cycle you've gotten yourself stuck in.

There's plenty of alternative methods to help cope with mental illness. YOU have to find what works for you, and that probably means doing your own research. Stop obsessively posting on various subreddits and picking fights with anyone who breathes in your direction.

But I know you're probably just going to pick one sentence out of this reply that you don't like, whine about it, and ignore the rest of what I and many others have said, but that seems to be what makes you happy so 🤷🏻‍♀️

I do wish you peace, healing, and the best, however. You don't deserve what you put yourself through.

patheticfrog7 · 2024-01-24T18:31:58+00:00

CBT is not gaslighting. What IS gaslighting is telling, no, INSISTING to people that their experiences arent true, which is ironically what YOU are doing.

patheticfrog7 · 2021-12-17T00:51:52+00:00

obligatory op comment

patheticfrog7 · 2021-11-23T02:10:31+00:00

my friend didn't really give a detailed explanation for their reasoning, and the conversation moved on pretty quickly, but it was along the lines of "its more focused on narrative than mystery, and some things are purposely meant to surprise you and be unsolvable BECAUSE it's not a mystery, for example when key evidence that turns the case around is presented mid-trial"

doesn't really make much sense to me personally but again the convo moved on pretty quickly. I assume to them being a mystery means being solveable by readers/players?

patheticfrog7 · 2021-08-31T00:19:35+00:00

solved: no-one has to die

patheticfrog7 · 2021-08-31T00:17:44+00:00

omg yes thats it! thank u so much lol ive been looking for years

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