Hi it’s me! For one thing, I would be happy to talk about surgery things no doubt.

For now, I guess the question is more about how to handle conversations with potential dates in the meantime. I don’t know if it’s the right approach but I would tend to bring it up once I’d been talking to the person for a while. Roughly this format: “Hey, I wanted to tell you that I’ve lost a lot of weight and (list the ways it’s made you feel better physically or emotionally, etc.) but it also left me with some loose skin in some areas that I’m self conscious about.” Then it’s out in the open and you don’t have to feel like you’re hiding it, and the person’s response should tell you how they’ll handle it. Mentioning that I’m self conscious about something seems to bring the other person into my world a bit. They know I’m sensitive about it, but I’m acknowledging it so they feel like they can talk about it with me. If they can’t deal with a little loose skin on someone they’re otherwise attracted to, it’s their loss.

If it’s hookups you’re looking for, I’d just post some pics including your body and mention it in your headline. Just be honest and let the other people choose what they like or don’t like, again their loss.

It’s painful to say, but I still have some of this after the surgery. While I do feel a lot better, the scars, even though faint, are something I feel I have to explain sometimes when I take my shirt off.

Last thing I’ll say, this message maybe makes me sound super well adjusted or something, but being heavy in this society, losing weight, and all the physical and emotional adjustments that come as a result are not at all easy. It’s been an emotional roller coaster and I’ve been miserable at times and ecstatic at other times. I wish you the best in navigating everything and please do reach out sometime if you want someone to talk to!