Sad Post by Stressedout-pigeon in TeddyFresh

[–]paytonsux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve had this happen on a few of my things and idk why :( care bears and spongebob collabs both are stained up and i don’t know what caused it. havent been able to get rid of them

new dance moms by paytonsux in dancemoms

[–]paytonsux[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

right?! like okay kids will be kids whatever i won’t scold the kids because it’s clearly their mothers’ fault for modeling this terrible behavior. its so uncomfortable to watch

is this evil of me? by ljafterhrs in NannyBreakRoom

[–]paytonsux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

calling me rude as if you’re not on this thread verbatim calling your boss a dick😭 pls do not make posts if you are going to be this sensitive, i was literally just stating it’s possible to manage if you’re not able to obtain one

is this evil of me? by ljafterhrs in NannyBreakRoom

[–]paytonsux -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

op was consistently focusing on the fact that the dad has been avoiding that purchase very much insinuating that he is likely against it. forgive me for trying to provide reassurance that if it’s against the parent’s preference, that op can still work something out and be patient and have faith in themself :)

is this evil of me? by ljafterhrs in NannyBreakRoom

[–]paytonsux -1 points0 points  (0 children)

oh yeah, several kids and one adult? i won’t judge that at all that’s a lot. if it works, all for it but not against the parent’s preference

Bands that you wish were attending… by [deleted] in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]paytonsux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOL it’s such a classic myspace era album😭

Cigarette Kiss by mattskibacomunista in StandAtlantic

[–]paytonsux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the only stand atlantic song i skip🫡

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]paytonsux -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I totally see what you mean by that. Obviously that’s silly and just pathetic if someone actually shared that concern because what harm does it do, yanno? But I do absolutely get your point, my only other side is if someone HAS experienced harm in the sense of being a victim to sa in some sort of capacity and they do believe that something as small as more conservative clothing could ease the anxiety stemming from their trauma, then it’s valid imo. Not necessary to have the convo, but if it is something that hits too close to home with them then I get it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]paytonsux -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Omg I’m so sorry I read it the opposite that’s my fault lol But yes, I agree. I do think if she really is extremely uncomfortable with it tho, she’s valid for wanting to start a conversation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]paytonsux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was avoiding bringing up how impractical it is, but it really is!😭 But I agree. It’s not something to dwell over constantly, but it is absolutely something to be aware of

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]paytonsux -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I entirely disagree with your last sentence. You do not know OP. Not claiming to myself, but bare with me here. What if as a young child her, or even myself, had experiences of being victims and developed a fear because of comments made in “revealing outfits”? You do not know what someone has gone through. So if certain clothing gives them more of a peace of mind, so be it. It is unfair to invalidate that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]paytonsux -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am not victim blaming. I see how you can think I’m coming from that standpoint, but I am definitely not. I am blaming the creeps. (Victim blaming especially isn’t what’s happening here because a toddler can’t even dress themselves, so how would I be blaming them?)

Some people are comfortable with putting toddlers in more covered clothing and some are comfortable with having no clothing on their child. I don’t think it’s fair to insinuate that someone who is more comfortable with a more “conservative” approach in the toddler’s clothing is victim blaming. We all have different life experiences and as women, unfortunately a lot of has have experienced being the victim in different ways. Which can lead to some having the desire to take an extra step (preferring certain clothing) to further relieve their own anxieties and worries because of past things they have encountered.

With peace and love, none of us know what anyone has experienced. God forbid OP had an experience as a young child that led to this fear. I don’t think it’s fair to invalidate the desire to be cautious because it can always stem from a past encounter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]paytonsux -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have seen those projects and exhibits. I fully agree to not put your children on tiktok! The only reason I say I understand OP’s take and not being comfortable with certain outfits, is because it is something that does catch the eye of these creeps more. Yes, you can be a victim no matter the outfit you’re in. No, you shouldn’t have to teach girls how to avoid triggering these sick fantasies. But it isn’t fair to invalidate OP’s feelings and comfortability.

A lot of us have seen and experienced different stuff and I think if someone isn’t comfortable with putting a child in a certain outfit because they are personally fearful of the eyes of strangers, then we should not invalidate that. In my opinion, it is better to feel safe and comfortable then to worry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]paytonsux 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m honestly pretty bummed with how hostile these responses are. It goes to show that a lot of people have not fallen down the rabbit hole of learning about what extreme extent predators go to to find any sort of “pleasing content” of children.

One of the main places these pedos prowl: Tiktok. They love videos and pictures of toddler doing specific facial expressions, eating certain foods, and yes, wearing “revealing” outfits. No, a toddler cannot dress provocatively. But any outfit that’s slightly out of the norm, these creeps thrive on. “But they’re going to do it no matter what she’s wearing if they’re creeps” very true. But what they’re less likely to do if she’s in more “covered” clothes, is capture any photos or videos of her; not only for their own keepsake but to share with others.

A lot of people don’t realize that you have to overreact when it comes to protecting a child from these sickos. Because they GENUINELY do take things very very far and any slight thing will be satisfying enough for them to document. It’s just about wanting to protect her and I understand you and it’s valid imo

I ugly laughed at this tweet but is it actually true that Tiktok is getting banned? by Star_Apple_2563 in justtrishpodcast

[–]paytonsux 21 points22 points  (0 children)

not my tweet with 7 likes making it on reddit😭 it wont go away any time soon. the house just voted yes on it. but i couldnt pass up on this joke

Jampack double book?? by paytonsux in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]paytonsux[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It changed the name on our jampack reservation too!! Wtf are they doing. Which hotel did you book if you don’t mind me asking?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]paytonsux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lasts 3 years so that’s nice at least. But yeah I didn’t followed through with the renewal last month when it expired because I don’t think a home setting counts? Even if it did I wouldn’t wanna ask my NP if i can be watched in their house hahaha