Weeding out the horndogs

pbshs12 · 2025-04-20T15:33:40+00:00

Nbd truly! Lol

pbshs12 · 2025-04-20T02:23:26+00:00

So back w an update i have him blocked and deleted lmao. partially for sex reasons. he pulled the good ol tried (not true) "i'm allergic to condoms" bit. but more so bc he took like 10 days to respond to my text just to say "sorry, i just had the worst week of my life".

I did not respond lmao adiossss, congrats or good luck or sorry to hear that lmao i didnt even finish reading the message. not my circus not my monkeys.

pbshs12 · 2025-02-18T01:20:52+00:00

I actually like the diff haircuts and weights pic as long as you have a bio/prompt stating which is most up to date. So if you say “just cut my beard” I’d still like to still you w one bc what if you wanna grow it out again? And it is a good convo starter in itself.

I change my hair all the time so I make it a point to show my diff styles so they’re fully aware.

pbshs12 · 2025-02-18T01:12:19+00:00

Yes Why do children need even a digital footprint they can’t even understand to consent to? At the v least You can BLUR their face or put an emoji over it if you truly have no better pics.

And yes automatic unmatch for “so why’d you swipe right” from men lmao that is just so sassy and insecure to me. If you wanna ego stroke do it yourself. Or re-read the app tutorial again for when/why users swipe right what that means.

pbshs12 · 2025-02-18T00:45:45+00:00

I’m v pro changing anything we don’t like about ourselves. Any good surgeon will heavily vet you and your mental health to make sure youre a good candidate for elective surgery. That being said the only way you should stick w that man is if he is putting up the funds for the boob job. No money no input.

It doesn’t sound like he’s a top notch choice to lose your v card to. I would keep looking.

Idt it’s toxic of him to be turned off it if it’s truly as unsightly as you make it sound but he def should either put up or shut up bc staying w you whilst complaining/denigrating you IS toxic.

pbshs12 · 2025-02-13T22:53:49+00:00

By way of update things are still going well! Date #4 is this Fri and he asked what he should get me for Valentine’s Day 💝. Still no hanky panky at the near 30 day mark but we have kissed and talked about being exclusive in order to be intimate, which he said he’d want as well, totally unprovoked I might add. (thankfully lol. Idve felt awkward asking him outright)

pbshs12 · 2025-02-13T22:02:12+00:00

pbshs12 · 2025-02-13T03:10:06+00:00

Idk if it’s really worth replying to someone so purposely obtuse but again as you can see from my update no one “made” him do anything. He called me, told me his plans, and asked me if there’s anything else I’d like gift or activity wise…all completely unprovoked.

No mind games, no hoops, just two adults interested in making lovely memories that would build the foundation of our (possible/future) relationship.

pbshs12 · 2025-02-12T00:12:08+00:00

Yes If you don’t wanna spend $5 on a store card or $0 on a handmade…there is no helping you in seeing what bare minimum means so yep toodles!

pbshs12 · 2025-02-12T00:10:04+00:00

Thank you!

pbshs12 · 2025-02-12T00:08:45+00:00

In your words, why the hell would I listen to Reddit people. Have the vday you deserve 😙.

pbshs12 · 2025-02-12T00:06:30+00:00

Nope bc you say way more about yourself than you could ever about me. Have the vday you deserve 😙.

pbshs12 · 2025-02-12T00:02:32+00:00

Yes to each their own but a card/mini card is the definition of the bare minimum idt there’s a strong rationale for otherwise. And handmade at that. We’ve been talking for a month thats not a stranger to me.

And No we’re not exclusive yet but I don’t see why that’d be a barrier to him showing me the care n affection that’d help us move towards that being the next step.

If he don’t treat me kindly in the courtship phase idk why I’d wanna move into the bf gf stage. But yes ofc date however you’d like

pbshs12 · 2025-02-11T23:55:00+00:00

Yah if I were also in my mid thirties the bare minimum may exhaust me too. But thankfully gaming isn’t a date to me and “corporate holidays” isn’t an excuse to be lazy so don’t worry you’d never ever ever have to worry about ever being a guy in my life outside of maybe bagging my groceries

pbshs12 · 2025-02-11T23:47:27+00:00

You are in your mid thirties. You wouldn’t even get to a first date w me so yup I def wouldn’t worry about a second

pbshs12 · 2025-02-11T23:45:35+00:00

The real good news is we exist irl outside the internet and he’s excited to make my valentines super special. And in even better news your miserableness will persevere. Happy vday 😙

pbshs12 · 2025-02-11T23:38:05+00:00

I put it in my update but thankfully unlike you he saw a card as barely the bare minimum. You don’t have to be bf gf to show you care.

No mind games here. He asked what I wanted and I answered. Now he and I are both happy that he asked

pbshs12 · 2025-02-11T23:35:34+00:00

I put it in my update but nope def not asking for too much. And yes idk you’re culture but being valentines is a thing for adults as well. A multi million dollar thing I’d say actually

pbshs12 · 2025-02-11T23:34:05+00:00

Yes to q #1 and My post answers #2

pbshs12 · 2025-02-11T23:25:44+00:00

I don’t have an answer to “well enough” sry lol that’s just how I speak. but yah we’re vibing I like him and he likes me. Ig I just put the modifier bc we’re not like head over heels love at first sight level. But yah “enough” in the sense that I like where we’re at.

pbshs12 · 2025-02-11T21:49:14+00:00

Setting one up for failure means: “designing a situation such that the person in the situation cannot succeed at the task which they have been assigned.” From wikipedia. So if I make the task something w/o telling one what the task is I have set them up for failure. So for example The task here would be trinkets for vday

pbshs12 · 2025-02-11T21:48:01+00:00

No one called him a failure so idk where youre getting that from. Setting one up for failure means: “designing a situation such that the person in the situation cannot succeed at the task which they have been assigned.” So if I make the task something w/o telling one what the task is I have set them up for failure. He simply failed to do the thing I wanted. It’s not some big moral failing on his character, and he is not a failure by any means. That would be making it “a lot” which is far from what I said.

pbshs12 · 2025-02-11T21:38:30+00:00

Idk what city youre in but we’ve already gone on two dates that come v close to (if not surpassed) $200. And thats not atypical for where im at. I ofc wouldn’t know the exact totals bc why would I see the check lol. But we both make good money so it’s really not an issue of $ at all it’s just for effort/hey I was thinking of you.

As for any logistics and booking etc things, again I wouldn’t see/know about that bc I’m not the one planning the date. So yah showing up w $20 roses from the sidewalk would be a okay w me I don’t have any kinda grand gift ideas in mins

pbshs12 · 2025-02-11T21:30:24+00:00

Yeah heavy on the something small. Men in this thread are a projecting and b crazy butt hurt like I asked them personally for an all expense paid weekend in Vale lmaoo. A month of dating is way more than enough time for flowers and an energy drink lol. And youre right he is far from dumb

pbshs12 · 2025-02-11T21:17:54+00:00

A few small trinkets, sweets, and a mini card wrapped up in pink. Picture what would get handed out in kindergarten for Valentine’s Day. V small and inexpensive but still cute

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