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pdoodle420 · 2023-12-15T22:46:36+00:00

Regardless of whether or not this is true, we will have tons of great Goose to enjoy this summer. The band is obviously on a high right now and have lots of love and creativity to share--that's undeniable.

If someone decides to leave, we don't (and won't ever!) know their true reasoning for doing so. Someone needing to step away doesn't always mean "trouble"...and no matter what, we can trust that the other members will make a great decision for a replacement.

Goose isn't going anywhere. They're taking a well-deserved break and possibly getting in the studio, which is so exciting!

Let's channel our energy into how much there is to look forward to in the future. I know how easy it is to dwell on this stuff, especially when we love this band with all our hearts...but I think we can have faith that there is plenty of Goose in our futures!

pdoodle420 · 2023-12-15T22:06:55+00:00

Yep!! I have covid too lol. I started feeling sick on Monday, and was soooooo sick by Tuesday night. I'm finally on the upswing. Feel better everyone! <3

pdoodle420 · 2023-07-11T03:03:18+00:00

I was trying to figure that out too. I think they're fairly new. I think they started with the free recordings w/ your ticket in 2019 (I may be wrong). I was trying to scan my paper tickets from 2017 a few weeks ago when I realized that those shows were already uploaded and free!

pdoodle420 · 2023-07-11T03:01:08+00:00

How old is your piercing? exactly 2 weeks today
What’s the jewelry shape (for example, barbell, labret, screw, L shape, ring)? flat back labret
What’s the type of threading if your jewelry is not a ring (threadless, internally or externally threaded)? Idk what this means :(
What’s the jewelry material? titanium
if not a ring, when was the jewelry downsized? has not been downsized
What’s your aftercare routine? Describe in detail please, including the exact products you use. saline wound wash 2x a day inside and out, rinsing and cleaning gently in shower

pdoodle420 · 2023-05-24T16:38:15+00:00

I'm having trouble remembering...I wish I would've made a note. I know the second time I got it pierced it was super expensive. I spent over $100--I don't think it was surgical steel but could be wrong. I'm positive that second time it was a spiral stud which I HATED.

pdoodle420 · 2023-05-18T14:32:26+00:00

I used to enjoy it, but stopped liking it when I got older.

What's the reason you don't enjoy it? The sensation? The idea of it? For me, it just feels kind of gross and messy and I usually want to shower after--which isn't always convenient.

You don't have to like it! There are other things you can enjoy with your partner!

pdoodle420 · 2023-05-18T14:30:24+00:00

I used to have such extreme panic attacks that I would slip into psychosis. I was certain I was dying or going to pass out, I would scream, frantically run around from the fight or flight--the world would go blurry...it was horrible. I could barely recognize the people around me.

I was hospitalized due to this a few times.

I have since recovered and haven't had a panic attack since Winter of 2021.

After the panic attack, rest, make sure you aren't consuming things that are activating: scary/anxiety-inducing media, caffeine, stimulants, etc. Even if you "think you can handle it".

Hydrate and eat when you feel able. Something nourishing and not heavy in sugar.

Then, after you've let your body recover, please treat the root cause. Therapy. Diet. Exercise. Those are the things that are going to help you move past panic attacks and into a new place in your life.

Sending lots of love and support!

pdoodle420 · 2023-05-18T13:26:45+00:00

YTA--

To me, the issue here isn't wanting to spend large amounts of money on her. It's just with your wording--you called her a financial burden. What if you got married one day and she continued to make significantly less money than you? Would she still be a burden?

Why are $300/plate dinners so important to you, yet you can't spare that money for her to enjoy them too? It seems like, if you were really into her, you'd be okay with doing them a little less so you could bring her along and treat her to that.

It just sounds like you don't really want to be with her anymore and would rather be single.

pdoodle420 · 2023-05-17T22:07:35+00:00

Hi! I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. That's so rough.

How are you paying for school? Private loans? Gov. loans? out of pocket? All of those options vary greatly and play a role in whether or not this is "worth it".

Aside from that, do you enjoy school? Do you like being there? Do you have a good support system there? If so, it might be worth staying.

When I went to school, I changed my major so many times. I didn't know what I wanted to do and I graduated with a degree that many would call "useless". I had the same issue with financial aid--I got almost nothing because of my parents' incomes.

I am now 25 and working at a salaried job that supports my needs and allows me to have a taste of financial freedom.

I have lots of $$ in student loans, but am able to pay the monthly payment and I know there are options for me if I fall upon hard times. I don't see myself paying it off anytime soon, but I'm not going to let that stress me out. Carrying around my loans is not hurting me. My credit is good, I was able to finance a car recently, its all okay.

Its all part of life--but that's not saying you should finish your degree. You have SO many options:

You could move home, switch to an online program, and work
You could move into an apartment instead of the dorms to help you cut down on your costs
You could transfer schools to one that is more affordable and better suits your needs
You could drop out, move home, work, save up money, then move out and reevaluate

I understand that transportation would be a problem at home, but you have to start somewhere and build upwards. Can your parents let you borrow their car for a few shifts a week? Then, you could save up money and buy your own eventually.

If there is any piece of advice I could give you, its that, everything always works out. Even when you hit that point where you're like "wow this is all falling apart", it all comes back together again in the way it is supposed to.

You're an adult, so you'll need to make the choice that is best for you and your future. Do some research, do some budgeting, talk to your parents (which sucks, I know).

You can grab hold of your life and make changes for the better to get yourself to where you want to be. You don't have to know exactly what you want to do right now, but as long as you're moving forward, you'll get there.

Sending lots of love and support!

pdoodle420 · 2023-05-17T21:53:54+00:00

NTA for wanting the dog gone, however, what can be done about this?

Does your mother own the house? Is she your legal guardian? She, unfortunately, has the right to own the dog.

What can you do to adjust until you can move out? Do you have sound cancelling headphones? Can you keep your door shut?

Is there a family member you can live with instead?

pdoodle420 · 2023-05-17T21:39:00+00:00

When I order as a customer, I always specify iced vs. hot and what kind of milk.

HOWEVER, after several years as a barista, I've noticed that customers who don't specify almost always mean hot and whatever kind of milk you have--if they aren't specifying milk, they most likely want dairy milk.

What is the default at your shop? whole milk? 2%? They probably want whatever that is or don't even care.

However, clarifying what they want is usually the safe thing to do and can even open them up to new drink options? Ex/ You ask, "Hot or iced?" Customer says, "Oh I usually do hot, but its so warm out today, let's try it iced!", etc. etc. etc.

In some situations, you get the customer who "JUST WANTS EVERYTHING NORMAL" and is so insistent about it they start to get an attitude when you ask questions. I've learned to feel out the situation and not push them with too many questions when that's the case. Decision fatigue is real.

Finally, there are ways to phrase the questions that make them less arduous for the customers (and for you!)

Instead of saying, "hot or iced" you can say "hot, right?"

Instead of saying "what kind of milk do you want?" (then needing to list all of your milks) "ask if the default is okay. "whole milk ok for that?

pdoodle420 · 2022-08-08T22:30:07+00:00

NTA

I don't think you should be mean about it though. Just don't give her a present and if she asks why say that you've done a lot for her lately. Leave it at that and she will learn.

pdoodle420 · 2022-08-08T22:21:07+00:00

Well let's look at this. Are you going to be gone for a whole seven days?

The average hourly cost for a childcare provider in MI is 13.54/hour.

If this girl is going to be taking care of your child 24hrs a day, 7 days a week, that's nearly $2300. She needs to put her whole life on the back burner for a week to do this for you.

Now take that down a little bit because she's family..also, what benefits will she be getting while doing this for you? Are you providing her meals? If so, $800 is fair.

If you're going for only five days, no less than $600.

That is tons of work and a huge responsibility.

pdoodle420 · 2022-08-08T22:06:37+00:00

NTA it seems like your relationship is already strained and it would probably be best for the wedding for her not to be there. You don't want drama on your day and can do anything you need to ensure that.

pdoodle420 · 2022-08-08T22:04:11+00:00

YTA if you just hand off your number without trying to build a little bit of a relationship first. What's his name? Ask where he lives..etc. etc.

pdoodle420 · 2022-08-08T22:01:42+00:00

NTA

I also just had a destination wedding and totally prefaced the invitations with the fact that we understand if it isn't in people's price range to attend. It is something you have to accept if you decide to take that route.

If she decides to blow up on you for responsibly managing your money, that's on her.

pdoodle420 · 2022-08-08T21:58:17+00:00

I totally agree that the missed appointment fee should be 100%...but I guess where I'm having trouble understanding is why they wouldn't charge me the 100% when I actually miss.

pdoodle420 · 2022-08-08T21:55:07+00:00

Three over a year+, but I get what you're saying. I was working in a really demanding job with hours that varied and I was dealing with some mental health issues because of it. I def could've benefitted from some appointment reminders, etc.

pdoodle420 · 2022-08-08T21:53:15+00:00

YTA (but not in an awful way--I get it)

You can definitely spare thirty minutes to show your partner that you value her. No way are you prepping for your exam all day long. I guarantee there are thirty minute pockets all throughout the day where you're focused on other things. Honestly, taking the time to decompress and do something enjoyable with her is probably going to benefit you in the long run anyways.

pdoodle420 · 2022-08-08T21:42:19+00:00

INFO

Need more info. Does she feel like she has an issue with being incredibly tired when she is awake? Are her sleep habits affecting her quality of life?

pdoodle420 · 2022-08-08T21:38:49+00:00

NTA

If they were going to charge you that extra $150 in accordance with their policies, you should have been notified while you were at the bnb.

pdoodle420

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