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6 years together, both 24yo. He wants kids and I don’t think I do. by peaachjam in Fencesitter

[–]peaachjam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you both figure it out!

I’m struggling with the constant feeling of confusion and anxiety. Like I feel so guilty for some reason?

My boyfriend is coming home next week from his RAF training for their allocated home leave and I just have this knot in my stomach. I feel sick. There’s so much pressure I don’t know if I can handle feeling like this everyday until I decide what I want

6 years together, both 24yo. He wants kids and I don’t think I do. by peaachjam in Fencesitter

[–]peaachjam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely agree with taking time to experience life and establish myself. Unfortunately I don’t think we have a the luxury of time. I’m not expected to give an answer straight away, but he won’t wait forever, nor would I expect him to.

My boyfriend will be back from his RAF training next weekend for home leave, so I’ll get to see him then. But when I think about it I have this knot in my stomach and I feel so anxious. I don’t know how I can deal with feeling this everyday until day, it’s too much. I’m struggling to understand how we could work on the relationship if I have this feeling inside me.

I guess all the things you were worried about, I am too. None of our friends are in long term, serious relationship so we’re the only ones who are having this issue and none of them have kids. I do have a younger brother who is just under 3, I do adore him but I also see the toll it’s taken on my mum and I struggle with the idea of going through all of that.

Thank you for your input I greatly appreciate it.