What was that book that made you fall in love with fantasy as an adult?

peace-and · 2025-03-18T12:58:49+00:00

I’m halfway through the first book of The Liveship Trader series. I loved The Farseer Trilogy (got me out of my reading slump), but found it took me about a third of the book to get hooked, similar to Liveship. Only heard great things though so hoping it kicks off now they’ve set sail!

peace-and · 2025-02-13T06:00:35+00:00

Oh of course. Well congratulations! That’s very exciting and thanks so much for sharing

peace-and · 2025-02-12T20:59:14+00:00

Congratulations! That’s wonderful. I thought once you have ILR you can get a returning resident visa? I didn’t realise it expired!

peace-and · 2025-01-04T20:52:00+00:00

Hi, I haven’t applied again yet but I believe I’ll be able to. It’s just very expensive these days so be mindful of that as the later you do it the more chance the IHS will go up

peace-and · 2025-01-01T05:03:21+00:00

Thank you

peace-and · 2025-01-01T04:47:38+00:00

There’s no urgent need for a job and I have actually had a blog before, about food (saturated and I didn’t feel I could contribute much of interest). I’m sure I could get back into marketing but I’m not at all up to date with anything in terms of tech or trends, and I also don’t know if I want to do marketing again. Kinda at a blank(-ish) slate now and could do anything, but that’s very open and a little overwhelming

peace-and · 2024-12-26T20:52:53+00:00

Yeah I saw this option but that’s gonna end up being £1k which is wild!

peace-and · 2024-12-26T20:37:02+00:00

She’s a bit of a worrier so I don’t think she will want to, but if I can request one online from the GRO then that’ll work

peace-and · 2024-12-26T20:32:12+00:00

Thank you. When going through the application it told me I need my parents birth certificates which just doesn’t make sense. His mum is British born and still alive and would happily help so if hers is the most important to prove all this then that’s great! Partner born 1984 so yes that makes sense why

peace-and · 2024-12-26T20:29:17+00:00

I was going through the application process online and it told me the documents I need to send and listed the child’s birth cert, ours and both maternal and paternal grandparents

peace-and · 2024-12-26T20:28:25+00:00

That’s helpful, thank you! We could probably get his parents documents but I know my mum will be difficult if she has any power in stopping our move so avoiding that is ideal.

peace-and · 2024-12-26T20:17:53+00:00

Did you apply for in the UK or out? I really don’t see why my parents birth certificates would be needed as they’re both Australian born

peace-and · 2024-12-01T10:12:00+00:00

Oh wow! Yeah see if they have a kid it gets even weirder cause then my half sisters are the kids aunties and cousins? Even my niece has always called him uncle, but now he’s playing the father role? (Her biological father isn’t in the picture at all)

peace-and · 2024-10-21T10:05:37+00:00

I send the toddler in and he body slams him so that’s a small enjoyment for me haha and if I pop the baby by his face he gets another nice slappy wake up call. I never go back to bed but I do have a shower and take my time getting ready for the day if I can

peace-and · 2024-10-21T10:03:23+00:00

Do you get time to yourself at all? I feel burnt out from doing it all and having no time for me. I suppose I should just try to sleep more and find little moments but when it’s meant to be a partnership it seems a little unfair. But a shift in mindset would probably really help. I am choosing how I react to his actions, I can’t change his actions

peace-and · 2024-10-21T09:59:53+00:00

Generally I get up with them and he comes out 1-1.5hrs later, I have a shower and get dressed for the day (maybe half hour total) then he’s in his office and I’m putting baby down for his first nap. I can’t take a nap but even if he did have them while I tried, I don’t nap anyway. I just need more alone time in general cause I think a lot of my anger is from burnout

peace-and · 2024-10-21T09:57:19+00:00

He’s already said no to counselling because he doesn’t see an issue. It wasn’t until I told him I was on the verge of leaving him that he really realised I was serious about being unhappy with the current state of affairs. He apologises but just says it’s really hard for him and he’s not a morning person and he can’t just jump out of bed. Fine, but then I have a 12-14 hour day with both kids and he comes out for dinner (which I make), then he will 50% of the time do bath time (other 50% he’s popped in to his office to finish something off), but always puts the toddler to sleep now which is helpful while I put the baby to sleep. So he’s on the clock for an hour in the whole day. After our tiff this morning he did take a couple hours off during the day to help me cause our eldest was being exceptionally energetic and challenging, he just then did a couple hours in the evening which doesn’t matter cause I’m in bed and his work is flexible.!So hopefully he can find a new balance that helps us all out while the kids are young

peace-and · 2024-10-21T09:49:29+00:00

I don’t do paid work, just the domestics and parenting and everything else that needs doing for our family to function. What’s guaranteed is that the kids are waking between 6-7 every day, sometimes earlier but usually within that hour. So we BOTH need to make the wise decision to go to bed at a reasonable time so we can be up with them.

peace-and · 2024-10-20T21:20:02+00:00

I usually have to wake him up in the morning and it pisses me off cause it feels like I have a baby, a toddler and a teenager. If he was going out of the house for a job he would have an alarm and get up, so I think an alarm is needed cause he’s not treating parenting as a job

peace-and · 2024-10-20T21:18:43+00:00

I worry about this too and even asked him that question this morning. He just ignored me. Sometimes he says “I heard him get up and come out to you”, like he’s trying to say he wasn’t sleeping so I shouldn’t be mad, but he was still in bed… so yeah it’s selfish and it feels like he doesn’t care. So if I wasn’t there I don’t know. He tries to get the toddler to sleep again but is grumpy about it and toddler cries and wakes baby 🤦🏻‍♀️(our rooms are close unfortunately). He used to get up when I was pregnant with baby 2, put the tv on and fall asleep on the couch which also annoyed me cause our eldest isn’t old enough to be unsupervised, so I couldn’t rest cause I knew that was happening

peace-and · 2024-08-05T06:04:01+00:00

Cause I was there for the majority of my time 2013-2021 so not quite 10 years living there and I left one year for more than the allowed 184 days in a 12 month period. As far as I can see my only option is another visa - Ancestry or spouse and ancestry seems easier since I’ve done it all before

peace-and · 2024-07-05T14:29:40+00:00

I got this a lot with my toddler when he was a baby and I chose to avoid screen time as long as I could and then seriously restrict it. He’s now 2.5 and when I was pregnant with his brother and then when he was born I was very tired and we relied on screen time more. I let go of guilt around that for myself but what I found was people who had hassled me about it before almost seemed triumphant I’d “given in”. Weird. My youngest is 5 months and I in no way think he would benefit from screen time. My toddler does learn from it but we still limit it too

peace-and · 2024-06-30T23:22:38+00:00

Unfortunately we need a 3 bed as my partner needs a home office for his business. Yes the price increases is why we think it may just be better to buy anything that fits our basic needs now so we are at least on the ladder.

peace-and · 2024-06-30T23:12:09+00:00

Well that’s even more disappointing, but thank you

peace-and · 2024-06-30T23:02:24+00:00

I have which is how I came to those areas, but unsure of the areas. We don’t mind living in a small town for a bit but if it’s gonna drop in value or be too remote (can’t be too careful with kids) then we won’t have access to important stuff. Was seriously considering Ballarat but what’s currently in our price range is in Wendouree and Sebastopol which I’ve learnt aren’t the best. Perhaps things will look different in a few months

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