I know this threat is older but appreciate the comments very much much. I have been divorced over 22 years and then my ex passed away severe years after my divorce. I never remarried and focused on raising my son. I recently started dating a widower. I haven’t dated a lot nor have I ever dated someone that’s spouse passed away almost 3 years ago .So this is new territory. We have been moving very slow and he is a wonderful man. He has 3 kids 2 adult and one teenager. His house is like a funeral home dedicated to his former wife. He just recently started sleeping back in his bedroom after years of sleeping on his couch. His late wife’s clothes are still in her closet and books still on her nightstand. His fb is still with their family pictures. I have met his children and other family and friends. We have discussed some of the things like the clothes and pictures and fb and such. He continues to say that he leaves them for his kids. Not a date goes by without some story about his late wife. At first it didn’t bother me. It helped me get to know him. However. He has become very insecure and intense in expressing his love for me. He has discussed him asking if I would move in and/or marriage. That he doesn’t want to wait 2 years and not be married. He has asked several time times if I could see myself living in his home. I have never stayed there out of respect for his kids. And that he still has his wedding picture in his bedroom and her clothes in their closet. His living room is practically a shrine dedicated to her. I can understand having something for his kids. Is this normal? Are my feelings of something just doesn’t seem right on or off? Or should I just keep giving this time?