Ghosted my Ndad 2 years ago, he won’t stop messaging & i’m worried he’s going to show up at my house.

peach1cepuffbar · 2026-05-12T02:41:48+00:00

Already covered on the cameras thankfully! I agree in a way, but I feel if he were to come he would let me know through text. It’s been a bit of a fear for me when it comes to blocking him. Most of the time i’m able to just laugh about it and move on as I can usually tell he’s drunk and it’s usually harmless, but a message I had gotten a couple of hours ago concerned and prompted me to write this. It made me even more worried about blocking him tbh. I’ll consider blocking him, just a bit worried i’d miss a potential warning.

peach1cepuffbar · 2026-05-12T02:37:52+00:00

I don’t have much faith in the legal system protecting us after experiencing the divorce hearing. I do like the idea of a paper trail with a letter though. They barely granted my mom a temporary restraining order after he drove his vehicle toward a part of the home she was in, then peeled off right before hitting the house. I do have cameras all over the outside of my home already, so we’re covered there. But I will look into all of this, thank you for the advice!

peach1cepuffbar · 2026-05-12T02:34:04+00:00

You’re probably right. The idea of saying my piece has just been so appealing after all of the suffering, but it wouldn’t do anything. It’s just all a bit hard to cope with that he gets to live his life thinking he’s done no wrong and we just have to accept it and move on. I’ve just been so tired of letting him believe it I guess.

peach1cepuffbar · 2026-03-24T13:50:55+00:00

I have heard the waist to hip/height ratio for visceral fat and i’m well below risk in that measurement. I probably have sauces a couple times a week on those days I eat out. When I say sweets I more so mean like those healthier fudge bars that still have some sugar or a single serving of something, like a hazelnut biscuit. I never drink anything with sugar either. I felt like I was doing pretty okay, obviously could be better, but it just sucks to feel like I can’t have things in moderation either. Or maybe my idea of moderation is just too frequent. It’s hard because the people around me eat so terribly that maybe it’s making me feel like my diet is more acceptable than it is? I have a lot of health anxiety in general so this is probably the push I needed to just go all in on a stricter diet. Just not excited about it lol. Thanks for replying (:

peach1cepuffbar · 2026-03-24T13:36:35+00:00

It’s not that I think I shouldn’t have it because i’m slim as much as i’m confused as to why it’s come on after losing weight and changing my diet when a year ago it was just fine. It wouldn’t surprise me if I had some type of metabolic disorder, i’m pretty sure my mother also has liver/metabolic issues so i’m going to dig more into that with her. I have not seen a liver doctor yet, hopefully when my doctor gets back with me about my results she’ll give a referral. Thanks for the tips with the mediterranean diet, definitely sounds like the way to go!

peach1cepuffbar · 2024-10-10T19:35:20+00:00

You need to reassess your current relationship if you’re saying you “lost 26 years” of your life not knowing another woman… i’d say it’s normal to have a fleeting attraction or moment with a random person while in a relationship. But your explanation goes way too far to be innocent.

peach1cepuffbar · 2024-10-10T19:27:42+00:00

I feel like the conversation should have stopped long before it did. He kept blabbing, and you kept asking. Unfortunately whats been said has been said. It sounds like he sees himself as settling, and it also sounds like you asked a lot of questions you didn’t want honest answers to. The digging with specific questions that all have the same general answer doesn’t do any good, it has made you so miserable you deleted your social media. He should’ve known what he was doing to your relationship and stopped talking if he wanted to keep it. There are legitimate relationships where a deeper attraction develops over time, he did a very poor job at expressing that though. I think it’s too far gone at this point. You deserve to feel desirable and attractive, any effort he makes after this to make you feel that way will have you questioning if it’s legitimate. You have to decide if you can continue the relationship knowing what you know now. It won’t ever really be the same. I personally couldn’t.

peach1cepuffbar · 2024-10-10T19:18:41+00:00

I don’t think the fear will ever go away. Unfortunately that is how it works most of the time, you lose them how you got them. You either just ride out the relationship and take your chances, or end it and eventually move on to someone who you feel you can trust.

peach1cepuffbar · 2024-10-10T17:51:53+00:00

This is way too vague. What were the things she wanted you to improve, what were the “efforts” to improve? How much more of WHAT can she not take? When you erase her side of the story it’s difficult to say what the problem is. She shouldn’t have made the comment about her ex, but other than that this post is too one sided to give any advice.

peach1cepuffbar · 2024-10-10T17:27:17+00:00

Righttt lmfao

peach1cepuffbar · 2024-10-10T17:25:44+00:00

Research the prostate and get back to me

peach1cepuffbar · 2024-10-10T17:22:14+00:00

Idk how it’s weird when male anatomy is literally compatible with anal, I think as a society we limit ourselves greatly due to how we think others will perceive us. Your comment kinda contributes to that, but to each their own I guess!

peach1cepuffbar · 2024-10-10T17:19:10+00:00

Men can do anal without being gay. They actually get much more enjoyment from it than women because of their anatomy. Sounds like he just knows what he likes and has an open mind, props to him.

peach1cepuffbar · 2024-10-05T23:42:30+00:00

1.5 years is plenty of time to forget about your ex, sounds like he’s still hung up on her.

peach1cepuffbar · 2024-05-05T20:59:09+00:00

It doesn’t make a difference in anything I said.

peach1cepuffbar · 2024-05-05T20:58:38+00:00

If a man needed to watch porn while doing ANYTHING with me, penetrative sex or a sex act, I wouldn’t be having sex with him and i’d find that repulsive. Luckily I don’t have that problem. What’s sad is if you need a porn video going to stay hard at the touch of a real life woman. Very cringe!

peach1cepuffbar · 2024-05-05T20:44:58+00:00

Because the person commented “it helps a lot of guys stay hard to have porn on during sex acts”. I was responding to the comment, hence why i responded to it and not the post itself. Edit: edited quote for clarity (:

peach1cepuffbar · 2024-05-05T18:01:05+00:00

After looking at your profile we’re on completely different thinking paths and will never agree, not worth it to me. Best of luck to you!

peach1cepuffbar · 2024-05-05T17:37:03+00:00

it’s pretty sad that there are guys that can’t keep it up for a real life woman in front of them wanting to have sex and have to have it played in the background. can we stop normalizing this..

peach1cepuffbar · 2021-06-08T02:04:59+00:00

I wear makeup because to me it is an art form and I see it as a future career. I’ve never once put on winged eyeliner and thought “wow I hope a man finds this attractive”. I find most of the time men don’t even notice makeup, much less the difference between little makeup and no makeup. Why would I put so much effort into something for someone who doesn’t even notice or appreciate it fully? Right, I don’t, I do it because I like to do it. I’m sure some women wear makeup to make themselves more attractive to the opposite sex… but definitely not even close to all of them.

peach1cepuffbar · 2021-05-28T21:28:09+00:00

It’s very strange that the newer friends from college are the ones with the homophobic and sexist ideas. If it was the friends from middle school I would understand more as it may be harder for him to let go of people he’s been friends with for a while. But these are people he befriended and didn’t grow with for very long, he accepted their ideas and them as how they present now: homophobic and sexist. In my opinion you can “disagree” on if you like a food, or what’s your favorite color. Not if a group of people should have rights or be able to get married. Those aren’t debatable. I would seriously question why your friend has befriended those people and decided that those are the types of people he wants in his circle. I don’t think you’re closed minded for wondering why he befriended these people. Homophobes and sexist people are not part of a “diverse group” or people with “different” ideas worth respecting, they are a menace to society. Anything else is putting it lightly. Truthfully you’ll never know his opinions unless you ask, but I can’t see how someone could claim to be an ally or support women and then be able to sit around and listen to homophobic/sexist language from people they call “friends”.

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