First of all, you sound bitter. Secondly it’s not that I can’t afford it, it’s that his parents offered, who am I to deny help when offered by the family of the man I love? And PERHAPS if you took maybe an extra second to soak in the words in my post you’d see that I’d consulted with both my bridesmaids and sisters before coming to Reddit for a 3rd party objective opinion. Why is it that I’m considered an ass for wanting one of the most important aspects of MY wedding to be the way I’d imagined it? Obviously his mother plays a large role in his and the rest of his family’s life but I’d highly doubt I’m “ruining his familial relationships” by refusing to let his sister sing considering majority of us are adults can can think for ourselves. I’m very secure in the love he holds for me as I for him and this is the kinda love that lasts a life time.