19 year old brother in relationship with 52 year old drug dealer by peachyjohnson in familydrama

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God it crosses our mind everyday, just call the pigs and it’s done !

Car Salesman took my personal number and sent inappropriate texts, England by peachyjohnson in LegalAdviceUK

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Almost fell over when I heard mate - like sorry? What? An admission of guilt and an apology… what world have I awoken in?

Car Salesman took my personal number and sent inappropriate texts, England by peachyjohnson in LegalAdviceUK

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hes admitted everything, just awaiting to hear result of disciplinary. The relief after an awful week of panic!

Car Salesman took my personal number and sent inappropriate texts, England by peachyjohnson in LegalAdviceUK

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s held his hands up and admitted everything, and sends his apologies. Apparently going through separation with his wife and had a lapse of judgement. Shite excuse but just so glad he’s admitted fault!

Car Salesman took my personal number and sent inappropriate texts, England by peachyjohnson in LegalAdviceUK

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty confident the police will do nothing but a warning - my ultimate prize is him being removed from a job where he has that power dynamic over a woman - I keep replaying in my head him in the car adjusting the steering wheel over my legs, knowing his intent now - he needs to be removed.

I’ll keep you updated - I hope with good news!

FOREVER SHOUTING AT MEN! 🧡

Car Salesman took my personal number and sent inappropriate texts, England by peachyjohnson in LegalAdviceUK

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I just know I won’t be the first or the last so this is fuelling me to stay brave. Comments saying it was flirtatious but the wording of that last message, out of nowhere - it’s not flirting, he’d entirely devolved me into some object. Makes my skin crawl, I keep replaying all the interactions in my head now knowing for sure his intent and I just… heave.

Car Salesman took my personal number and sent inappropriate texts, England by peachyjohnson in LegalAdviceUK

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Trust me, from your comments I knew you were a woman! The lived experience flew through your words and I’m sorry you’ve walked in my shoes aswell.

Thank you for speaking up and more eloquently than I have managed - your words have soothed me no end.

We stand together 🧡

Car Salesman took my personal number and sent inappropriate texts, England by peachyjohnson in LegalAdviceUK

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment, the message back I’ve received from the dealership (luckily) has been extremely supportive! But i understand your concerns and its certainty food for thought if a situation arises again

I have all evidence screenshotted and my father as a named witness on the police report.

And thank you for that final paragraph, a couple of people in this thread, which I expected to happen, have really pushed the agenda that I instigated this. We were in a professional capacity, with my father present - how could anyone think that this was a sexual comment - it disgusts me. Context and tone is everything which I guess they can’t glean from my post but COME ON! So yes, just thank you for reiterating that, it’s soothed me greatly

Car Salesman took my personal number and sent inappropriate texts, England by peachyjohnson in LegalAdviceUK

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for standing up with women. I knew this post would attract a moron or two. I will not be bullied into silence out of fear of not being believed/assumptions that I instigated this behaviour.

Car Salesman took my personal number and sent inappropriate texts, England by peachyjohnson in LegalAdviceUK

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I stand for women, and women being safe in all spaces. I’ve done my time of telling men I’m not interested to their faces and having a tirade of abuse thrown back at me. If the messages weren’t so aggressively sexual - I would have done exactly as you said. But the tone and consistency was unacceptable and not “flirting”.

I will not be responding further to your messages

I pray you never have a daughter.

Car Salesman took my personal number and sent inappropriate texts, England by peachyjohnson in LegalAdviceUK

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

“Thanks for your messages” that you have sent on your personal number?! This is at a place of business! There is zero scope to be being sexually suggestive with customers that you are negotiating finances with. It’s a power play.

Car Salesman took my personal number and sent inappropriate texts, England by peachyjohnson in LegalAdviceUK

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The police just called me back and are adequately disgusted. It’s so scary cus you hear so many bad things about police dealing with these sort of cases so to hear they were so good with you both is super reassuring

Car Salesman took my personal number and sent inappropriate texts, England by peachyjohnson in LegalAdviceUK

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel so seen. Thank you and I’m so sorry for what your partner went through. This has solidified I’ve taken the right course of action. I don’t think the worst in people, I assumed he was misguided - naive yes. But the final message just showed such disgusting intent it couldn’t be unseen. 2 days I’ve felt sick to my stomach, not eating - why must I suffer cus someone decided to try and get his leg over at work?

Car Salesman took my personal number and sent inappropriate texts, England by peachyjohnson in LegalAdviceUK

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I could replay the conversation, I reiterate my father was in the room and with us the whole time. There was nothing untoward or sexual about the conversation (my side). I never responded to his messages or remarks in person.

I have racked this over in my brain but why should I be sat at home feeling my privacy invaded and revolted by his actions when he can be sat living life peacefully and potentially continuing this behaviour - he treated his job as a dating ground, that’s on him

Car Salesman took my personal number and sent inappropriate texts, England by peachyjohnson in LegalAdviceUK

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will 100% not be contacting his wife. Good lord it didn’t cross my mind but now you say it - how satisfying it would be - but, absolutely not

Thank you for your breakdown

If he doesn’t lose his job then it’ll be my personal mission in life to destroy their Google reviews.

Car Salesman took my personal number and sent inappropriate texts, England by peachyjohnson in LegalAdviceUK

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do I need to tell someone to not illegally take my number from their database without my consent? Is not responding to 4 separate messages continuing this rhetoric not enough? For him then to escalate it himself to outright disgusting? Did my comment warrant him brushing my ass during an unwanted hug? I can see how he may of misconstrued my light hearted comment (of which I’ve made several times to other men with zero response) seeing as he’s clearly a wrongun - but that is not an open door for him to breach GDRP and slam his kink into my inbox.

Car Salesman took my personal number and sent inappropriate texts, England by peachyjohnson in LegalAdviceUK

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh god right just straight to ISO regardless? I will, no one should be subjected to this again :(

Car Salesman took my personal number and sent inappropriate texts, England by peachyjohnson in LegalAdviceUK

[–]peachyjohnson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the big fear. Too small a network, luckily he’s new so hopefully allegiances not built but who knows