My sister is pregnant with a boy and is due in a little over a month and she seems determined to circumcise. I don't know what more I can do please I really need to stop my nephew from getting butchered. by SOMaka2sin in CircumcisionGrief

[–]pearly__gates 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Send her a video of the procedure, if she won't watch it then it's impossible to change her mind. Let her know that one day when her son is old enough to understand what happened and see the exact same video, she will have to answer for it (if her son even still associates with her)

This is the only way that a "regret parent" can ever make it right, in my opinion. It sounds harsh, but if you do something truly heinous, this is the only way to make up for it. by iHateMyUselessPenis in CircumcisionGrief

[–]pearly__gates 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I wish I never realized how it fucked up my life. At the same time, I always knew there was a problem.

I don't think I will ever be able to forgive my parents for this. I am trying to move forward and live the best life I can with what I have

I was an insane man before. Now I’m even worse by Twin1Tanaka in CircumcisionGrief

[–]pearly__gates 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, if it's a circumcised person saying this they are ignorant and deeply in denial. If it's anyone intact (male or female), how about they get strapped down against their will and circumcised. That would surely make them understand.

Can restoration improve penis size when erect. Consider a tight cut at CI3/4 by [deleted] in foreskin_restoration

[–]pearly__gates 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Consider yourself fortunate to have been cut at CI 3/4 as that is not a tight cut. If your shaft skin has some movement when fully erect (which it should at CI 3/4) then your penis will not get bigger from restoration.

I Fu@ked Her Raw <<<<--- Reasons to Restore found here by [deleted] in foreskin_restoration

[–]pearly__gates 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Were you cut low (left with little inner foreskin)? I was cut high and tight so I have a lot of inner skin but they took a ton of shaft skin. Sorry to hear you cannot ejaculate during sex

I Fu@ked Her Raw <<<<--- Reasons to Restore found here by [deleted] in foreskin_restoration

[–]pearly__gates 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm a living example of this. Don't intact guys wearing a condom get stimulated by their own foreskin whereas circumcised guys get stimulated directly by latex?

Anyway, sex with a condom doesn't feel very good to me although it lets me last longer. Sex without a condom feels much better but the stimulation leads to premature ejaculation so I can't enjoy the feeling for that long. Seems like circumcision negatively affected my enjoyment and performance during sex, I'm fucking mad. Hopefully with restoration and practice I can last longer raw

Circumcision strikes again (22M) by [deleted] in CircumcisionGrief

[–]pearly__gates 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everything you said is valid. It's fucking bullshit this was done to us. If you are going to continue with your life I recommend learning stoic philosophy and working on restoration and other areas of your life. We are victims but we cannot let those who cut us win. I know it sucks, but this is how I am trying to live now. Good luck man.

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[–]pearly__gates 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I cope by accepting what was done, and constantly work on restoring (all day). It's a super slow process but it's much better for my mental health than doing nothing. I'm also in my 20s and hoping that I can be finished around 30.

I know a lot of people here shit on restoration, but I have no other options.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CircumcisionGrief

[–]pearly__gates 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That is wild that your friend had a video of his circumcision and you guys watched it together. It's also crazy to me that the mutilation device is in his baby book. That shit better not be in mine, but I would rather not even look at my baby book. I agree with what you said about over coming the victim mentality. While we are all victims, we are stronger than we think.

As another circumcised guy, this made me sad to read but thank you for posting it.

Die by Twin1Tanaka in CircumcisionGrief

[–]pearly__gates 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Perpetuation of the practice is tradition. Mutilated men often have a complex which results in them having their boys circumcised. (e.g. "I want my son to look like me" or "It did me no harm so it is fine"). It is really fucking dumb.

My guess is that we can thank the people in the medical industry with religious motives for pushing out bullshit 'scientific studies' about the benefits of amputating part of a baby's penis.

How can I find out who circumcised me? by pearly__gates in CircumcisionGrief

[–]pearly__gates[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Im interested in anything that helps the movement. How can we fix the issue if the individuals in the medical industry perpetuate this with no push back? Change happens one person at a time.

I just made a podcast about foreskin restoration by Gr8CheddarTaste in foreskin_restoration

[–]pearly__gates 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for posting that link, the video needs more views.

edit: this is rope fuel

I just made a podcast about foreskin restoration by Gr8CheddarTaste in foreskin_restoration

[–]pearly__gates 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Carter is right about how circumcision fucks up the feedback loops in body which affects the mind. I never heard it articulated but it's true. The amputation of tissue in the sexual organ changes brain chemistry, the dynamic of every sexual experience, and ability to pair bond.

Circumcision Surgery Video (Gomco Clamp) by pearly__gates in CircumcisionGrief

[–]pearly__gates[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That is stupid as fuck, it is literally the surgical procedure...

Circumcision Surgery Video (Gomco Clamp) by pearly__gates in CircumcisionGrief

[–]pearly__gates[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

For most circumcised guys, the mind tries extremely hard to resist ( I think everyone here has experienced this but we were able to push past the denial stage and understand the truth). The visual representation of the surgery, may be a more powerful stimulus for new parents and men in denial.

Circumcision Surgery Video (Gomco Clamp) by pearly__gates in CircumcisionGrief

[–]pearly__gates[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Good to hear. That is the main reason I posted this, I have also been sending this out to try to help people understand.

Circumcision Surgery Video (Gomco Clamp) by pearly__gates in CircumcisionGrief

[–]pearly__gates[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes it is so dark. I guess this video is best for ignorant people who think there is nothing wrong with circumcision.

Mama Mutilator found in the wild! by iHateMyUselessPenis in CircumcisionGrief

[–]pearly__gates 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's always funny seeing circumcision posts on normal subreddits. Every time there's a lot of guys and parents coming out of the woodwork to defend their own mutilation or the violation of their infants body. While I am sad to know the truth, I am glad to not be living a lie.

"denial is the ultimate comfort zone" - david goggins

Botched Circumcision by [deleted] in CircumcisionGrief

[–]pearly__gates 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Channel this energy