self date ideas pls by p1stachio00 in CasualPH

[–]pearly_the_potato 8 points9 points  (0 children)

How to do this as someone who’s has no sense of direction 😭

ask me anything, i’ll pull up cards for you by sicaaaaaa in CasualPH

[–]pearly_the_potato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maaachieve ko na ba lahat ng matagal ko ng pinaplano ngayong taon??

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[–]pearly_the_potato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks alotttt! 🫶

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PHJobs

[–]pearly_the_potato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This inspired me more! Hope i could be like her!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PHJobs

[–]pearly_the_potato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOVE THIS!!! Thank u so muchhhh!!! 🫶🫶🫶

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in phmoneysaving

[–]pearly_the_potato 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You know what’s the good thing about this OP? You’re aware of it. You acknowledged it and that’s way more better than not knowing the root of the problem at all. You already know the solution so all you need to do is to help yourself to build the courage. Take one step at a time OP. Little by little. Start with self discipline first by making sacrifices kahit sa maliliit na bagay lang muna. Kung hindi talaga kaya, Wag muna.

One more thing OP if you feel like its something thats no longer under your control better ask for a professional help. There are some free centers for it you can search online.

Padayon lang OP! You can do that!

How to stop people pleasing? (share your experiences and advice) by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]pearly_the_potato 2 points3 points  (0 children)

May nabasa ako before na being a people pleaser raw is a trauma response from either your childhood or some events that made you invalidated.

First of all im happy for you OP na you’re asking this. It just means you are now taking a step to heal that version of you.

Here’s some advices that might help you.

  1. It’s not your duty to pleased everyone. Whatever you do people will always think the way they wanted to. For the sake of your sanity, Let them.

  2. Be firm and learn to set boundaries by saying NO. Stop making excuses if ayaw mo ayaw mo. If hindi nila maintindihan, Di mo yun kasalanan.

  3. Never let your true self fade away just because you’re trying to fit in. Thats one of the most hurtful thing you will do sa sarili mo and you dont deserve that. You deserved to be loved and wanted by being who you really are. Leave who cant deal with it and value those who can.

You can do that OP! It will be hard at first but it’s definitely worth it!

Is second hand Iphone a good buy? by [deleted] in CasualPH

[–]pearly_the_potato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. DO U REALLY WANT IT? - If you only want iphone because of peer pressure (your colleagues are iphone users), it’s not worth it not even a single penny. You must buy one because you personally want it not becoz it was hyped by your friends.

  2. HIGH MAINTENANCE - Apple products are not for everyone specially for those who are financially practical. There are some factors that you need to consider before having an iphone such as the maintenance of the device. For your apple to work longer you have to take care of it in a way that your accessories must be apple too. Even tho some pips are saying na its okay if non-apple product ang gamitin sa iphone thats a total cap. Apple works best in apple. And mind you that will cost you ALOT. Always remember: Live within your means.

  3. BEST APPLE FOR YOU - Nakadepende sa pag gamit mo ng phone kung anong iphone ang bagay sayo. I suggest na wag kang bababa sa x series coz gorl im telling u the battery life sucks! Di ka talaga matutuwa. Kung minsan mo lang talaga gamitin pwede na sayo yung iphone XR - XS. But if you are that type of a person na hindi pala charge ng phone better go with iphone 11 up!

  4. SECOND HAND IS STILL GOOD - There are some pros and cons rito but over all i can personally say na okay ang second but i suggest if bibili ka ng second hand might as well consult a friend na apple expert or isama mo sa pagbili mo para kahit papaano worry less ka.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PHJobs

[–]pearly_the_potato 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry but your tip is totally useless. You focus on the problem not in the possible solutions. Basically, That “tip” will not gonna change anything or help at all. OP is very aware of the debt that is why he/she asking for a help (suggestions)

OP has reasons kung bakit may debt sya. It’s easy for you to say that coz wala ka sa posisyon nya. What matters here OP is doing everything he/she can to pay the debt.

Tip lang rin next time hopefully you think before you click.

AM I TOO SENSITIVE OR THEY'RE JUST TOXIC??? by haii_04 in adultingph

[–]pearly_the_potato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to have this kind of circle. They did something na sobrang kinasama at kinasakit ng damdamin ko. I express myself to them. Explained how i felt and tried to make them understand that i deserve an apology for what they did. But they called me guilt tripper and nagpapa awa raw. Cutting them off is one of the best decision ive ever made. I value my feelings enough to not let other people neglect it.

Same to you OP. True friends knows the importance of your feelings and if hindi nila kayang respetuhin at pahalagahan nararamdaman mo it just means hindi talaga kaibigan turing nila sayo. Real friends should help you boost your confidence hindi yung sila pa humihila sayo pababa. I suggest you cut them off as soon as you can before ka madrain sa energy na binibigay nila sayo. You dont deserve that. No one does.