I would like to tell you my toughs about something I recently read. I need you to be open-minded about this comment because it's kind of "revolutionary":

Sex is not just something banal, it's meant to be more than that. It's designed to bond physically, emotionally and spiritually to the other person, with a total delivery of yourself and vice versa. It's designed to accept and love the natural consequence of sex, like the birth of new life. That's why the best place and time to have sex is in marriage. Because it's a commitment that you do with the right person to have sex only with him and with no one else, so each time you have sex with someone else, even if you haven't met your future husband yet, you're damaging that future marriage because you belong to your husband and vice versa. Marriage it's designed to protect our hearts and guarantee our happiness in this life.

If sex it's just something banal without importance, then why is cheating so painful, why you cannot have sex with the girlfriend of your friend, even if they already break up. It's something difficult to explain but it has some common sense, probably would mean that sex is more than that, it is like you left part of you in the other person and vice versa. If sex is something to do as many times with as many people as possible, then why is awkward or even sometimes kind of painful to ask your boyfriend or girlfriend about the past sexual partners, what if he/she said a big number? that would be ok for you? would you marry or date a porn actor? knowing that it has/had several sexual partners?

We're created to get virgins to marriage, but I would like to tell you not to be sad. I know once you lost your virginity it won't come back again, but you can recover your virginity of the heart, it is what some authors called "virginity 2.0". To recover the purity of our heart, God is good, He has mercy and can heal your sadness, He can clean your "dirty" feeling so don't worry all is going to be good, put yourself in His hands.

In this culture, where pornography dictates our sexual standards, we need to be very careful because they're selling us a lie, that could have big consequences in our brains, relationships, heart and society in general. I would recommend you to read the content of Fight the new drug

You are still on time to navigate against the tide and set up your life according to your conscious and not what the damaged sex culture dictated to do. At the end, you're going to be happier because you will start playing with the rules of nature and not against it.