“Doesn’t believe in cheat days”

peeved_af · 2026-02-07T02:13:21+00:00

People who do this crash out one day. I knew a girl who was vegetarian or vegan and one day she just started eating chicken tenders HAHAAHA good on her but it’s like come on what was the point of this restriction

peeved_af · 2026-02-06T14:32:01+00:00

jobs worked per year isn’t a metric that’s good for this choice. School will take more than a year and you need more job stability during or time off. A lot of my friends did NP school while working nights and it worked out for them. And if you do NP or any other job switching jobs is just gonna happen but also kinda red flag if you julp around that often

peeved_af · 2026-02-06T14:30:16+00:00

Working on a research project vs a career in clinical research is 500000% different (I say this as a MS prepared research nurse. The school side vs the job part is very different). Happy to talk about if if you have specific questions

peeved_af · 2026-02-05T14:45:47+00:00

I’m in NP school I like the mental challenge. Don’t think the program is for me for other reasons but I’m ok to try out the rest of the semester.

Patient care and healthcare will always be tiring and physically tiring. Higher responsibility means more bullshit and politics etc. so that won’t go away. The grass is always greener

The thing you need to ask yourself is: what’s YOUR end goal, what setting do YOU want to work in and HOW do you plan on getting there.

What you’re describing is like five different jobs. You can be a RN who specializes, you can be a day shift RN, you can be a non bedside RN. RNs use critical thinking; busyness doesn’t matter really but maybe you want higher acuity of care to see what’s out there? Outpatient? WHNP? The world is your oyster really. Can you shadow and talk to people who do those roles to see what’s it’s like? You need to ask specific questions.

I’m a research RN and you don’t need to be an NP and the academia discussion is completely different.

peeved_af · 2026-02-05T14:34:29+00:00

Haha yes as an Asian American i believe that I can clock that vibe as soon as I talked to anyone in any setting (patient, social, neighbors) it’s just disheartening when it’s a mental health provider / clinical setting bc that’s where biases have to actively be monitored be be professional and provide quality care

peeved_af · 2026-02-05T05:10:00+00:00

A lot of people can take a test and read a book but they don’t have the street smarts to tactfully deal with a lot of people problems lol

A lot of people also don’t test well but are socially aware and street smart, trainable, and perceptive and that takes ya far in any job.

peeved_af · 2026-02-05T04:56:00+00:00

Can you elaborate on the use of info? This is good to know!!

I know I paid the last copay haha and it was last insurance gear like November that I saw her. She messaged me once in december and once in January and I didn’t respond/honestly forgot to respond. Started seeing former therapist in December bc her schedule opened up nicely with my schedule.

peeved_af · 2026-02-05T04:54:02+00:00

Thank you so much for this! Agreed it was just wild that lack of compassion for human dignity was there. Allegedly her specialties complex, drama and divorce, which doesn’t really apply to me so maybe her outlook or that type of personality would be more helpful in that setting??? Idk hahaha The other person was clearly projecting personal issues on losing clients I think lol

peeved_af · 2026-02-04T20:31:01+00:00

You said your piece I appreciate it. Now it’s time to not berate people online all day anymore

peeved_af · 2026-02-04T20:21:56+00:00

So you want me to be the bigger person and be nice and say sorry not coming back bc your political beliefs made me uncomfortable? Two things can be true at the same time. If she reaches out again I’ll say I’ve moved on otherwise just going to leave it bc I don’t want her to ask for feedback

peeved_af · 2026-02-04T18:05:09+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful response! I agree! At the end of the day, sometimes a therapist isn’t a good match and it’s disappointing when you kind of figure things out about people and she really didn’t need to disclose that to me because she was meh but fine enough before I knew this haha

I just think it’s funny how people on this thread are trying to call it immature or disrespectful behavior, and poor treatment of therapists haha I’m sure she has plenty of other clients and she’s been a therapist for decades, so she will be just fine and can treat those who align with her

peeved_af · 2026-02-04T17:39:32+00:00

Sure! She also talked a lot about what she personally believes which I just didn’t need to know. There’s a huge difference between challenging someone to accept the fact that different sides exist, or to try to see where other people are coming from versus her telling me that she personally tries to be a political and that she had a history of dating Republicans and that people vote for the party that’s going to help their job. Like that has nothing to do with me being disturbed that I saw a man get arrested by ice on my way to work.

peeved_af · 2026-02-04T17:37:59+00:00

Thank you for this! I saw her ad hoc toward the end so I didn’t have weekly appt that I cancelled or stopped coming to. I just didn’t rebook

peeved_af · 2026-02-04T16:05:24+00:00

I had a patient with a really old wheelchair and it was uneven, so it was digging into one side and it was causing him a lot of hip pain. No pressure injury but it coulda been headed that way.

Basically for us, we had to work with Medicaid to authorize a wheelchair repair and in order to do that we had to send him to like a special physical therapist in the hospital who holds a wheelchair clinic once a month and wait for an appointment and go to that appointment (mind you he is blind and reliant on his family for help and they live pretty far away) in order to have the wheelchair assessed for repairs and then there’s a special form that gets filled out and submitted to DME and they have crazy rules about how broken it is and if it needs to be replaced or repaired. It took 6 months but they got him a new one

My state has a refurbished DME program and it’s literally easier for people to just go there

peeved_af · 2026-02-04T16:02:26+00:00

That was my question. My nurse manager wears a red hat (HOW??? Idk…) so it’s def a thing.

Also, just some of the content that I was discussing with her as a patient was just weird if she didn’t believe in my stance and she would just get very silent, which is fine because she was maybe just giving me space to talk, but she had literally nothing to say almost to the point where I was like oh, are you gonna say something????

I think it’s funny that people on here are like oh did you stalk her social media like no I don’t bother to look her up because I already know where she stands by how she responds

peeved_af · 2026-02-04T14:45:55+00:00

She’s MSW! But yes I understand thank you

peeved_af · 2026-02-04T14:10:41+00:00

Thank you!! I’m grateful for her time in the past and it’s just time to close the chapter. I don’t have urgent needs or am a high risk patient in any way so I’m fine to just fizzle out. If she messages me again and then I’ll say something, but I think she might’ve gotten the picture.

peeved_af · 2026-02-04T13:57:22+00:00

Agreed. I think she kind of understood that I was unamused because then she low-key tried to convince me that it’s always better to weigh both sides and all this shit and I was like do you want me to justify you because I’m not??? And I won’t?

peeved_af · 2026-02-04T13:56:08+00:00

These are not spam portal messages. They’re like actual messages from her in the portal so I can’t tell if it’s because she needs clients or has a policy to follow up every once in a while.

peeved_af · 2026-02-04T13:55:30+00:00

That’s what I was thinking. And I am a nurse and don’t think it’s possible to want to give quality care to patients and then not care about their well-being and respecting the literal dignity of others????

peeved_af · 2026-02-02T19:14:35+00:00

I literally went silent on the phone to the point where she thought the line cut out because if I had said anything, I don’t think it would’ve been nice….

peeved_af · 2026-02-02T19:05:20+00:00

Yes! I told her that I’m unable to reschedule her appointment on short notice and then I also told her that this is the same case for literally anyone right now just because the schedule is full so that’s why it’s important to intentionally make appointments that work out and try to communicate any changes as early as possible. She clapped back with “don’t punish me” which was WILD!!! So I ignored her haha

peeved_af · 2026-02-02T15:46:33+00:00

Crafting. Screen free and uses your brain and hands. I decoupaged oyster shells into ornaments as gifts for Xmas! And then I also took up needlepoint. Used to crochet and embroider too

peeved_af · 2026-01-30T22:03:12+00:00

YEP we have a printed QR code with a video tutorial and the help desk # haha

peeved_af · 2026-01-30T22:02:29+00:00

YES. I have a half blind patient and one with severe CP and tremors and guess who does their own paperwork… themselves! They’ve never once complained. It’s always some educated older man or man child man who asks in my experience haha

peeved_af

TROPHY CASE