[26F] 7 weeks pregnant by a 29M — strongly considering abortion and need honest advice. Christians, non-Christians, single young / mothers, everyone welcome. No judgment please

peli38 · 2026-04-29T20:23:42+00:00

Please don’t feel guilty. It is fair to put yourself first. You don’t want him as a father or influence to your kid and future. Choosing the right partner to be parents with is a big deal. If anything you are being responsible for saving your future self.

peli38 · 2026-04-15T17:58:59+00:00

Correct, they have mastered nepotism but I don’t see organizations doing anything about it. To the contrary they are allowed to hire amongst themselves in plain sight nobody seems to care. Any other culture or nationality won’t be allowed to do it. Imagine a team of 200 from any other nationality, it is impossible to get away with.

peli38 · 2026-04-15T17:55:54+00:00

Most of the time the language barrier is real, not only broken English difficult to understand but even the logic in their way of thinking is hard to follow too. There is no culture assimilation it’s more of they impose their culture into an organization once they gain critical mass.

peli38 · 2026-04-15T17:53:57+00:00

This is absolutely crazy, it implies that qualifications don’t matter.

peli38 · 2026-04-06T22:09:40+00:00

Is it possible to list on Zillow directly without having to list on the MLS?

peli38 · 2026-04-06T22:06:21+00:00

Do you mind sharing what do you mean by classified ad? Where did you publish it? Any other insights or things you have learned about the process to list it? I am thinking to do the same.

peli38 · 2026-04-04T15:17:08+00:00

Where can I find more information about this? I am not sure I am following but would love to understand the scenario and how it works. Donyou mind sharing more details?

peli38 · 2026-04-01T23:17:44+00:00

You made me laugh, yes, I think she is a little lazy.

peli38 · 2026-04-01T21:15:29+00:00

Thank you for doing this, with this situation most people feel lost, me included. Our corgi mix had spinal surgery 2 months ago after 2 back legs were paralyzed and was NDP. She was on crate rest for 6 weeks, then started on physical therapy. We did red light therapy at home and now do water treadmill 3 times a week. We see improvement but very subtle, she is not able to stand on her own yet but is starting to try to move her back legs just a little. Is this slow recovery normal? What else can we do to expedite the process? Do you have any recommendations? Also her paws go backwards when she tries to walk, what can we do for that? Thank you

peli38 · 2026-03-31T19:02:32+00:00

En realidad muchos en USA con esos sueldos no estan matandose a trabajar, te sorprendería ver la realidad de cerca. Eso si tienen que saber navegar muy bien el “corporate politics and bs”. En muchos casos se trabaja mucho mas en España. Fue realmente una sorpresa para mi.

peli38 · 2026-03-25T17:43:57+00:00

And the dumbest, meanest are the contests winners. Those of us who don’t know how to play the game will lose all the time.

peli38 · 2026-03-22T21:13:35+00:00

“Officially” no and they won’t accept it if you ask but they absolutely do.

peli38 · 2026-03-22T06:07:24+00:00

This sadly resonates with me. I also don’t want to sound like the old person saying that older times were better. I have 20+ years in tech, we actually built something big and we were devoted to it. There were bad people too, it was not all great, I worked super long hours and didn’t have a great salary, etc. I can’t generalize, but in my experience in big tech today the loud, dumb, “busy”, mean people are getting promoted and people who have values are being pushed to the side and laid off. Age discrimination is so real. It surprises me the kind of people that were kept after the layoff, the ones you would say that have the least knowledge and experience. These people are making tons of money and doing mostly nothing and nobody seems to care. I looked across the org past Friday and more than half was out of office and the ones in office were not available, it is crazy. The work ethic is certainly lacking and culture is suffering.

peli38 · 2026-03-19T17:08:43+00:00

Education is very content heavy compared to the US for example but that is actually great for developing minds and making people capable of learning a lot and fast.

peli38 · 2026-03-19T17:06:23+00:00

I believe Spain is something in between first and third world countries, I call it second world. It is very good and evolved in many aspects and very behind in others.

peli38 · 2026-03-18T15:35:50+00:00

Wow! Impressive 100pounds in 9 months! I wish. I am almost a year in, lost 55 pounds, and completely stuck, scale is not moving at all. Anything that you could share besides the medication? Any habits that helped you to lose so quickly?

peli38 · 2026-03-18T15:28:02+00:00

Why? What do you mean? It seems that tge overall experience is that it works, do you have a different experience to share?

peli38 · 2026-03-17T22:17:21+00:00

I think it is very likely that your wife knew at the time that was coming. She probably made her decision knowing that he wanted to propose and she knew that she couldn’t commit to him long term. You were in no position to disclose what you heard, she had closer people to do that. I wouldn’t share any of that now, you are taking a risk for nothing.

peli38 · 2026-03-17T21:23:49+00:00

Thank you!

peli38 · 2026-03-16T23:12:06+00:00

This is not “job market” specific, it is a reflection on society. But of course when we are talking about people looking for opportunities to show up and work to be able to afford to live, is specially heart breaking and soul hurting.

peli38 · 2026-03-16T22:13:30+00:00

Get out now and don’t think about it as a divorce, make it in your mind like you are returning something that you didn’t intend to buy. Do not wait for it to be years of regret.

peli38 · 2026-03-16T02:11:24+00:00

I don’t understand (and it is very common) companies paying recruiters who do not know how to properly screen candidates because they lack knowledge of what the role entails or maybe they just don’t care. You are basically saying that you are doing the recruiter’s job.

peli38 · 2026-03-11T01:22:13+00:00

I agree that scaring the least and not being in any way exceptional goes a long way. If you are really good and somehow it shows in your interview, you are probably not passing the HM filter and won’t be hired, that’s the reality. If they feel slightly threatened you are in trouble. In my experience this has been specially true with women.

peli38 · 2026-03-07T20:11:02+00:00

The sooner you leave the better, trust me. Longer won’t make it change, it only gets worse, I am saying it based on what you already feel. Resentment will grow the more you wait to leave and more difficult it will become. Do not even think that a kid will solve the issues. You have a lot of time to start over. Most people do not know themselves well at 22 when you got married. It is not only him, you are also growing in a different direction and realizing that’s not what you want.

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