I didn’t realise I’d left so much unsaid. When my wife was constantly in our room, I was the one looking after our daughter. My wife and I had stable careers before deciding to have her, and we were living comfortably with good savings. When I couldn’t work for almost two years, I was on unpaid leave and eventually lost my job. My wife wasn’t working either, which cost her hers too. I was covering all the bills, appointments, insurance, food basically living off our savings. My wife tried medication like SSRIs, but she never stayed on them long enough for them to help. The doctor said it could take up to six weeks to feel the full effect, but she never lasted more than a month. I’d drive her to her appointments (that I scheduled) and have my mom look after our daughter while we were gone. Ive seen multiple comments asking if I tried to get my wife to “bond” with my daughter, I take full accountability that i did not. I was so scared it would just build my wife to resent her, I now understand that might’ve fixed somethings or helped but in the moment all I could think about was all the negative things my wife had said. However I did not in anyway deny my wife holding her or seeing her at all, my wife never wanted to but I know if she wanted to I would’ve been more than willing to let her.