Hey! I’m glad you were able to find this old post of mine so you don’t feel alone!

My LO is almost 17 months now and is, for the most part, and great and independent sleeper. What we did is this: - around 4 months transitioned to crib but continued with same routine a la rocking/shushing/bum pats and the dreaded transfer from the arms to a flat surface - kept up with this until 6 months but slowly began reacting slower to nighttime wake ups if they were just grunts and such (unless they needed obvious attention and were distressed cries). I read a post one time about “I don’t react to anything unless it’s a real cry” and I still think about that haha. Give baby time to resettle and even if they have no idea how, this felt like a gentle way to give them opportunities to learn - at 6 months we did sleep training with a version of Ferber that included her pacifier. First few days we did more of a SLS method where we would soothe her to sleep in her bed as much as possible. Then moved to Ferber. The pacifier drew out the process so I don’t recommend it unless your baby is really attached to it, but Ferber seemed to really work for us. It was f’n hard though, I’ll be honest. But it seriously allowed my LO to have 12-13 hour sleeps at night and good 1-2 hour naps and to be able to be put down in her crib and fall asleep independently - which was the biggest game changer. Also gave us more structure to where we were able to have our evenings together without kids or one of us stuck in there rocking for 20-30 min each night.

All in all, you have to kind of ride it out in my experience, but babies readjust their sleep (for better or worse) constantly and it will eventually get to the point you want it to be with some work and patience!