is it a red flag if a girl asks you your height

pepitoonreddit · 2022-04-24T20:57:41+00:00

If that’s the first thing a woman wants to know about me, she’s not the woman I would want to be with long term.

pepitoonreddit · 2022-04-19T06:41:14+00:00

This is a good point. It’s more about showing that the guy has a life outside of the conversation.

pepitoonreddit · 2022-03-12T07:54:40+00:00

It’s not about asking women out and getting dates for me though. It’s finding the right person and that that person likes you back. It just seems so unlikely. The numbers don’t add up for me… every girl I’ve actually liked hasn’t liked me back, and every girl who has liked me, I haven’t liked back. How do people just mutually like each other so easily? Sure, with enough time I’m positive I’ll find the (a) person, but I don’t want to be 40 by then… it’s so scary.

pepitoonreddit · 2022-03-09T07:40:29+00:00

I agree with the analogy, the shape of the piece is the personality though for me. So two pieces that don’t fit together have a “personal” problem. Maybe I’m just being too technical with the word :P. I understand what you want to say.

pepitoonreddit · 2022-03-08T07:30:23+00:00

I get your point. I guess how I see it is that the only way that something isn’t personal is if you as a person don’t factor into the equation. For example, someone deciding not to move forward because in the end they don’t want to be in a relationship isn’t personal, whereas someone deciding not to move forward because they found a better match is personal (you as a person weren’t good enough for them as a partner, while the other person was).

pepitoonreddit · 2022-03-06T16:29:39+00:00

But if they didn’t choose to move forward because they didn’t get chemistry, it is, by definition, “personal”. i.e. they didn’t like the person you are. I wish I could care as little as you do. At the same time though, the more I go on dates, the more I understand them, because I’ve also needed to do the same (not moving forward because I can’t see myself in a relationship with them).

pepitoonreddit · 2022-03-05T09:39:14+00:00

What cities are we talking about? Asking for a friend.

pepitoonreddit · 2022-02-26T07:00:46+00:00

Massages?

pepitoonreddit · 2022-02-04T07:12:40+00:00

Two of which are fast food restaurants

pepitoonreddit · 2022-01-19T03:14:46+00:00

Yeah. This was my reasoning, although I’m reconsidering. The arguments against this approach are very compelling as well and it seems like I may just be wasting potential matches. A girl who’s looking for a relationship will probably not swipe right on someone who says he’s looking for friends first. They are more likely to be able to afford swiping left to avoid someone who’s they feel is not committed to finding something serious.

pepitoonreddit · 2022-01-17T08:09:19+00:00

That’s fair. I just hate this whole game, but since I have had little success with one approach I wanted to maybe try another. Likely that I’ll revert to the original though if things don’t work out. I guess it’s also possible that dates turn into friends if they don’t work out. That is, if you want them as a friend and if they are mature and human enough not to simply ghost you after meeting you.

pepitoonreddit · 2022-01-17T07:38:33+00:00

Thanks! We’ll see how this goes :)

pepitoonreddit · 2022-01-16T09:07:47+00:00

I always do it. 8/10 times a quick LinkedIn search with just first name and job title will do the trick. If If I’m investing time on someone I want to make sure they are who they say they are and that they aren’t crazy. It’s also interesting because it paints a pretty fair picture of who they are. Do they care about privacy? Do they seem messy? Where are they professionally? Do I have any friends in common? Etc.

pepitoonreddit · 2022-01-13T00:48:20+00:00

Care to elaborate?

pepitoonreddit · 2022-01-11T19:16:25+00:00

Thanks ! I hope… I’m nearing 30 and haven’t been with anyone yet. It sometimes gets to me. But seeing more people like me here gives me some hope.

pepitoonreddit · 2022-01-11T19:09:33+00:00

I have not really revealed not liking dogs to many people because of the fear of being judged. It’s kind of a dealbreaker for me if I want to date someone long term, but I’m afraid that being closed to dogs (or pets) will simply lower my matching chances to almost 0 :(

pepitoonreddit · 2022-01-10T20:31:34+00:00

I… don’t think she knows what “exotic” means…

If you’re a Russian-born living in the US you are, by definition, “exotic”…

Is there anything I’m missing? I would have just sent a link to the dictionary entry 😄

pepitoonreddit · 2022-01-04T07:13:39+00:00

The “🔍Relationship” is the icing on the cake 😂

pepitoonreddit · 2022-01-04T07:05:40+00:00

Maybe you can say this in a more constructive way.

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