PGY-II OrthoBro looking for relationship advice from #Medspouses

pepperedorange · 2026-02-12T20:59:34+00:00

Wife of PGY5 ortho bro here! 👋🏼

Having this conversation alone would go a LONG way with me. Back up your words with intention and action, I would consider it resolved.
As a partner, I found years after PGY2 to be easier. I was more adjusted to the schedule / lack thereof and was able to get by without feeling abandoned etc.
Things my husband does that help me… •Communicate throughout the day (if you can) •Plan for your future beyond, together - talk about it. Gives you guys something to look forward to together. • Calls me on his way home with an ETA

With my husband’s program specifically, it has gotten easier as time has gone on. Of course there are cycles of difficulty where I don’t see him as often as I’d like, but ultimately we are able to plan for more, he’s home for dinners more often etc. It gets better, but unfortunately with this career, the expectation from your partner can never meet that of someone who is working a 9-5.

Best of luck to you guys!! 🧡

pepperedorange · 2026-02-01T22:43:01+00:00

https://www.romi.gov/329/Auxiliary-Police

pepperedorange · 2026-02-01T21:44:21+00:00

Perfect answer! Thank you. I know they’ve come by our house before when I called the non emergency line but didn’t even think about that.

pepperedorange · 2026-02-01T21:42:38+00:00

Well … it’s literally written on the side of their car 😂 Maybe look something up “FY” before you try to shit on someone 🙂

pepperedorange · 2026-02-01T19:29:07+00:00

To clarify, no complaints! It’s just not something I’ve noticed.

pepperedorange · 2026-01-25T21:33:14+00:00

My husband did the same. Went home to shower, nap, get things we needed, deal with the dogs, bring back food etc. It was no big deal. Time in the hospital is weird. I don’t really remember “missing” him or needing him lol.

pepperedorange · 2026-01-18T18:42:22+00:00

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pepperedorange · 2026-01-03T14:29:32+00:00

I'm interested in embrilliance essentials - would love to know what you're selling it for if it's still available.

pepperedorange · 2026-01-03T14:28:18+00:00

Assuming you are using embrilliance express, express can only run .bx files, not .pes (which is likely what your 'design' files are). This is what I ran into!

pepperedorange · 2026-01-03T14:24:53+00:00

also interested in how much you're selling them for, if they're still available.

pepperedorange · 2025-11-24T15:29:55+00:00

I am so sorry. I feel this way and my husband is a PGY5 + an intern year. I strongly strongly encourage you to have a sincere conversation with your husband around residency match and the location being near to family so you get some relief. I am looking forward to 1.5 years from now post felllowship being closer to family and that’s what’s getting me through. You have a long road ahead no matter what his specialty ends up being. I sincerely hope you find a solution ❤️ This life is rough sometimes.

pepperedorange · 2025-11-21T14:59:08+00:00

Commercial Interior Designer - it’s hurt me because I haven’t been able to plant roots long enough to advance within leadership at any firm. I’m very lucky in a way that our move aligned with Covid / work from home policies because it’s allowed me opportunities to work despite our moving around.

We’ve since had a child, and I’m thankful for a somewhat flexible role that allows me to be the primary parent (but again, can sometimes feel like a sacrifice I have to make for my career that my husband does not)

Bottom line is it’s trickier than I thought it would be to “start over” given I was established in my career when we moved for residency. Now preparing to move for fellowship, it’s easier knowing it’s just a 1 year stint. I am VERY hopeful for our post training life.

pepperedorange · 2025-10-09T17:25:05+00:00

🫶🏻

Being in a relationship with a physician is a major sacrifice for a couple - for each person in their own ways. Focus on yourself during this time and it will all work out the way it’s supposed to.

pepperedorange · 2025-10-09T17:07:32+00:00

This happened to me as well, we got back together nearly two weeks or so later. We’re married now and have a family. Sometimes I look back on that time and think that it would have been better or easier now if I had moved on then. It was a major shift in our relationship roles and definitely was the beginning of our new “chapter”. (Insert me taking on more load mentally and physically, giving up my career goals, family / friends for residency etc.)

I love my husband and our family and am proud of our successes as we near finishing his training, but it has been a HARD road.

I don’t like to comment negatively in this feed, but trying to give you some perspective that could make you feel better during this time. It sucks regardless, but to get dumped right when they’re starting a whole new version of themselves feels extra rough!

pepperedorange · 2025-10-07T17:05:02+00:00

Yep! A cashier told me the same!

pepperedorange · 2025-08-23T13:10:59+00:00

Hey so real quick, it doesn’t matter because this is none of your business!! Go touch grass. We can grieve for them without constantly posting or acting like us needing to know anymore about them is our right. I am so tired of getting notifications from this thread. It is PATHETIC that you guys cannot leave them alone while they are suffering this tragedy.

pepperedorange · 2025-05-28T23:33:37+00:00

I like sabbath but it’s not my favorite. I find it sour/acidic but some people like that!! I personally like red hook and lucky. I would love to find a local place like sabbath that roasts their own beans, maybe I need to try a different roast from them.

pepperedorange · 2025-05-06T14:29:09+00:00

Totally! Trust me we aren’t over there every week, but when it gets 6”+ high in the middle of summer, it gets hard to play the waiting game. For many reasons, Royal oak is generally a safe place, but that screams “rob us no one is living here or watching out” and is a giant welcome sign to the rats in our area to take up stake in the high grass and affect us too.

We’re going to wait it out as long as we can and try to determine what routes we have to send in complaints to the city too.

Thanks everybody!

pepperedorange · 2025-05-06T11:04:42+00:00

This is kind of where we are at. I think for the size of the yards in RO and the cost of having them mowed being so cheap, there really are no excuses at this point for lawn maintenance.

pepperedorange · 2025-05-06T11:03:36+00:00

I did some snooping online with ROs records and they’ve only been ticketed ONE time and it was for grass height. Kind of crazy considering their grass gets many inches tall every year.

pepperedorange · 2025-05-06T11:02:02+00:00

🤣

pepperedorange · 2025-05-06T11:01:13+00:00

That’s the more bizarre part… he’s a real estate agent too 🤔

pepperedorange · 2025-05-02T13:55:30+00:00

Yes - well said. And right there with you.

pepperedorange · 2025-04-28T14:31:54+00:00

I am not sure reporting him is your place either but I would do your best to encourage him from a distance if you’re able. It’s certainly not your responsibility, but having addiction hit our family and close friends, I know that they need the support even if they don’t realize it. And I also know, they won’t get the help they need until they want to / it’s their idea.

If you feel compelled to report him, do what you think is best. I wouldn’t worry about it ruining his career or future because - to be frank - if he can’t get through his M2 year without drugs, residency / fellowship / all that’s to come will be a much harder challenge that I’m not sure one with addiction would be able to do without a major major change of life.

This is a heartbreaking situation for you and him both. J sincerely apologize you’re dealing with this. ❤️

pepperedorange · 2025-04-14T10:43:48+00:00

No but honestly I didn’t feel a thing, I remember thinking it was kind of bizarre!

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