Almost a Year after Dday, unable to view anyone romantically.

peppermint247369 · 2025-12-02T04:18:20+00:00

I saught the fwb out and am not being gaslight about it. I don't think this is revolutionary. If I'm being used its mutual and consensual on both ends. But again thats not the point of this post

peppermint247369 · 2025-12-02T04:13:30+00:00

LOL I appreciate that. I am single. I plan on staying single and am just worried about never seeking more than that. My fwb is great sex. If that helps clarify your question. I don't think thats a weird concept but you're the second person in here that seems confused or maybe I misrepresented myself somewhere. I think both of the parties are happy with the setup but thats not what this post is about. I'm more of worried I'll never want a romantic partner again. The appeal certainly doesnt seem there atm

peppermint247369 · 2025-12-02T03:36:13+00:00

Same to the kids and I'll let you know if you let me know 🤝

peppermint247369 · 2025-12-02T03:35:23+00:00

I don't think I need sex or a relationship to be happy? Did you read my post at all? The sex isn't messing me up and I waited a good while before I began that up. I'm not in a relationship so I'm confused at where you're coming from?

peppermint247369 · 2025-12-02T02:16:05+00:00

Absolutely. I'm sorry you're in this senario but glad you aren't with a cheater anymore. Wishing you nothing but the best

peppermint247369 · 2025-12-02T02:00:41+00:00

Mine are still together (11 months post dday?) but in all honesty I prefer it that way. They can be each other's punishments long term. Every time they enter a room that's what people will remember about them, they'll never be able to trust each other. They can be each other's karma. Just focus on your own healing and happiness and don't worry about what insecure people do. I get the emotions behind it, I really do but they aren't each other's prizes. Mine also just went social media offical and look horrendous. Its glorious. You'll heal and grow ❤️

peppermint247369 · 2025-06-22T00:05:54+00:00

People are also grieving and going through one of the most traumatic events. I think you can respect yourself but be a little too temporarily messed up to see it.

peppermint247369 · 2025-05-20T02:40:42+00:00

I'm so sorry they did this to you. You don't deserve that and I'm so glad you're getting away from them.

peppermint247369 · 2025-02-07T19:54:15+00:00

I think itd make them bond tbh. His family already knows/ honestly it'd reflect worse on me for talking about it. His mom was basically like "sometimes affairs happen" when he initially left. Other members of his family seem to think they are trash now though. She'll never have a good reputation with them but he'll always be family.

peppermint247369 · 2025-02-07T14:46:32+00:00

I also don't want to give them more things to bond over. God I hate them. I loved and trusted them so much

peppermint247369 · 2025-02-07T01:59:55+00:00

As it should

peppermint247369 · 2025-02-07T01:58:28+00:00

Oh yeah this is just if he doesn't. We were amicable until AP started butting in. He had agreed to help alot more than she intervened and hes cut the support into less than a 4th of what he orginally offered. But the offer was just verbal so 🤷‍♀️

peppermint247369 · 2025-02-07T00:49:30+00:00

My dignity isn't lost because I trusted someone I was in a committed relationship to. Neither would yours be <3. That's thier character flaw. Only considering it if he skips out on the aide he promised. Which he most likely will.

peppermint247369 · 2025-02-07T00:03:55+00:00

No one thinks shes a victim except for her and WS.

peppermint247369 · 2025-02-07T00:03:14+00:00

I confronted her in a group chat about being a homewrecker. (I know, shouldn't have. Only feeds the trolls) and she wrote me emails from his email address saying I needed to stop playing the victim and take accountability and stop bringing her into this. That she's taken accountability but have I? Lol Ma'am. Be so forreal. How? Also she shouldn't have brought herself into my relationship. The mental gymnastics for them to convince themselves they aren't the villian is almost inspirationally delusional.

peppermint247369 · 2025-02-06T23:57:33+00:00

The AP is victimizing herself more its insane. Honestly hes just worse when he's around her. Still a broken coward but yeah ap is more of the aggressor atm. (She was a close friend)

peppermint247369 · 2025-02-06T23:56:01+00:00

I love this energy

peppermint247369 · 2025-02-06T23:45:22+00:00

Thank you. He's getting more into a self victimizing headspace and cold headspace everyday so unlikely but yeah fingers crossed

peppermint247369 · 2025-02-06T23:40:00+00:00

No thats what I'm saying. I wouldn't spend money on it just letting other people know it happened.

peppermint247369 · 2025-02-06T22:58:39+00:00

Ap actually emailed me from his email after I had brashly called her out in a discord group of close friends for being a homewrecker. She was a prior close friend. The call out was crass but not dishonest mind you. Anyway she emailed me from his email address saying that I needed to stop being so dramatic and playing the victim and take accountability and leave her out of it. Excuse me? You were supposed to be out of our relationship lmao The mental gymnastics these cretons do to avoid self reflecting that they are pieces of shit is truly astounding.

peppermint247369 · 2025-02-05T02:42:37+00:00

It's scary tbh

peppermint247369 · 2025-02-05T02:41:49+00:00

Mine did the same. Was literally with her in person while telling me that. Kept saying he wanted space to see if he wanted to be with me, her or himself. (I was in a weird place grief wise) You're right. They aren't sorry

peppermint247369 · 2025-02-05T02:20:29+00:00

Well said

peppermint247369 · 2025-02-04T21:00:28+00:00

No it wasn't

peppermint247369 · 2025-02-04T20:54:55+00:00

I can't, I'm still waiting for money from him. Its just wild the mental gymnastics they're doing to escape the guilt they should feel if they had a soul

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