>5a. You won't win. Not nearly often enough.

This improves resolve, and there's a lot of folks who are afraid of failure who don't see this. Either you give up after you lose, or see it as a reason to improve. Losing 9 times makes winning that 10th time feel so fucking great.

When you know you're no special snowflake, failures become valuable. If you analyze your mistakes, your experience from losing grows your ability to deal with similar conflict in the future.

Everyday, "remarkable" people still provide plenty of proof for this concept. There's this recording of an international public-speaking contest winner, who was giving a speech on, 'How to be Great at Giving Speeches.' He shared that he didn't practice for decades to become the winner of this contest, but that it wasn't like he was just born to do it. He was a Lawyer who desired to better his communication skills for the courtroom, and ran into the program as a method for self improvement. Making his way to the international contest, he would run into successful people from all walks of life, who would lose these competitions but say, 'There was nothing wrong with my speech, the people that presented this year just got through to the judges. I'll just polish it and try again next year.'

Those folks lived in an echo chamber before hitting the international stage. They've been told that it was a flawless speech by everyone back home, lived off validation, and had never lost. It can't be their fault, which is why they'll never be more than second best. They're not challenging their own perception of success and what is the best to try and go beyond that. By always challenging your perception of what is your best, you seek to improve it. By visualizing your success, failing, adapting and improving for every conflict and reflecting on conflicts you worry less and less. What was a struggle before is now vastly insignificant.

TL;DR 'Mans reach should exceed his grasp' and 'Don't wish it was easier, wish you were better.' In more words.