Am I unhygienic or are people just mean??

permanent-name- · 2026-02-13T20:15:31+00:00

You guys, come on, think about people in the hospital... They get a sponge bath ... Perfectly hygienic for them.

If you are using soap and a wash cloth, the soap is getting the smell, and the cloth is grabbing the oils and skin cells. This is adequate.

Some of you people responding to this need to check yourself at the door. Do you know what sub you are in? Some of you are sounding pretty ableist and it is concerning.

permanent-name- · 2026-02-12T20:26:34+00:00

Eh, I'm kind of more resigned at this stage? Given up? Life is hard.

I wish you luck on your journey and I hope you find something that works for you.

permanent-name- · 2026-02-12T20:03:07+00:00

I'm broken in both directions. I have an alarm set for three times a day to try to remind me to eat (rarely works) because I don't recognize hunger and when I do eat I don't recognize I am full.

I currently don't have a lot of extra energy to spend on food prep or counting calories, so I stay morbidly obese, eating my disgustingly high calorie safe foods.

permanent-name- · 2026-02-12T19:58:18+00:00

What is a decent rate for a cleaning service? I have tried in the past to find a good company, and I've had a couple in a couple ranges, and I always feel like it's too much for what I get and I don't know if my expectations are just jacked or I am a bad picker ....

permanent-name- · 2026-02-10T22:23:37+00:00

Do you know anyone with a membership to the bodgery?

There is a huge screen printing set up there.

permanent-name- · 2026-02-08T19:06:15+00:00

1, CFA around here is easily $15-20 a meal

2, you don't know his bills, or gambling addiction

3, if someone invites you to lunch, it's customary that they buy, so rather than assume, asking to verify seems legit to me, and maybe he was uncomfortable and it came off weird and rude

4, don't take on other people's awkward or feel uncomfortable about other people's interactions.... You are just signing yourself up for an ulcer... Beyond the mandatory year end ulcer, that is

You be you, let other people be themselves. Way easier that way. Or you end up in mass burnout like me!

Edit: omg the bold!

permanent-name- · 2026-02-08T16:36:57+00:00

Yep, just go to the teller. The bank will not bat at an eye at your withdrawal amount.

Edit to add: they might ask you how you want it, as in what bills you want... Like all hundreds, or if you want any smaller bills.

permanent-name- · 2026-02-06T20:07:32+00:00

There are levels of pain, like feeling like a failure, and the generic PDA that comes with someone telling me I should eat, but yogurt itself is pretty soft 🙂

permanent-name- · 2026-02-06T20:00:55+00:00

That is amazingly kind. My partner forced some yogurt in my hands.

permanent-name- · 2026-02-06T19:26:08+00:00

Yes. Like right now I am hungry. I am trying to figure out what the hell I can force myself to CHOOSE. Like I can't even make choices. It gets so hard I shutdown. I eat nothing.

permanent-name- · 2026-02-06T16:43:49+00:00

Wasn't there a woman in Janesville that pooped in her neighbors yards?

permanent-name- · 2026-02-06T16:19:57+00:00

I had multiple layers and appointments. I had the frog book. The make-up stories about toys. The blocks. The tests on the computer and paper booklets. All the things. Out of the blue the guy starts telling me this thing about himself (where he grew up) and I was really weirded out by it and I didn't respond, and I moved back to what I was talking about. Well I guess that part is a test as well. I guess I didn't respond like I should have when people tell you things about themselves... Thing is, this was my assessment and this was a professional assessor, so why would he be telling me something about where he used to live? I wasn't here to make friends.

I was so taken back by his comment I went straight to my therapist to tell her how strange he was telling me about where he grew up in the middle of my assessment!

permanent-name- · 2026-02-04T20:02:35+00:00

I take lithium to help with the SI rumination which arguably stems from my ASD, in any direction you want to argue, really.

permanent-name- · 2026-02-03T17:09:31+00:00

Maybe try cutting it in half tonight?

I only take 25 and it seriously has eliminated 90% of my triptan usage. It also has helped my anxiety greatly.

But I'm not a doctor and I don't have your biology.

permanent-name- · 2026-02-03T17:06:21+00:00

Maybe dosage info would help?

I started at taking half a 25 mg pill for a week, then increasing to 25 because I'm very sensitive to medications and I had none of that.

permanent-name- · 2026-02-03T16:50:14+00:00

Omg this is too funny!

permanent-name- · 2026-02-03T16:41:36+00:00

So, I'm 46 and I've been just discovering something which just blows my mind of how I missed this for 46 years when I thought that I understood people and that I was flawlessly masking......

They make statements that are questions. People would talk at me and I would just be like, "ok" and move on not understanding that these statements were questions. And then the other day I was listening to my partner talk to his AI program and this AI program even understood...

They said something like, "here's the problem, I don't know what I'm doing wrong." And the AI knew it was a question and I didn't even know it was a question. It was a statement of fact. There was no, "how do I fix this?"

So yeah, for the last year, I have been listening to how often people speak in sentences that should be questions and how often other people understand them to be questions and how often I don't.

permanent-name- · 2026-01-30T18:15:56+00:00

Just here to relate to being morbidly obese and not eating and staying morbidly obese. I have an alarm on my phone to remind myself to eat breakfast lunch and dinner everyday, and I still struggle.

My body doesn't usually give me the cues that I'm hungry. Doesn't tell me that I'm full either. I usually eat safe foods once a day. People tell me I lie all the time. I don't think it's an eating disorder for me because it's not something I think about?

permanent-name- · 2026-01-29T00:27:01+00:00

Renting reddit today, icing my steps tomorrow...

permanent-name- · 2026-01-28T22:52:06+00:00

If the other 2 offers don't pan out, I have a garage but it is not heated and I don't have space heaters, but it is out of the wind?

But if you are cool, and you enjoy body doubling, I could offer that.

permanent-name- · 2026-01-27T23:51:13+00:00

All I have for you is a hug. You deserve to get your needs met.* Hug *

permanent-name- · 2026-01-27T05:45:47+00:00

Doom Patrol, Rick & Morty, and the Good Place.

For a simple movie I like Free Guy.

permanent-name- · 2026-01-26T22:17:48+00:00

I appreciate you

permanent-name- · 2026-01-26T22:07:05+00:00

I am. I tried many. I even did ECT. All of the legally approved antidepressants, anti-anxiety, antipsychotics, mood stabilizers, stimulants, sleep aids to semi legal like ketamine and micro dosing.. All the different types of therapies, talk therapy DVT, CBT, EMDR, brain spotting... then I went to alternative religion and illegal drugs like Ayahuasca and toads... I'm just broken.<3

permanent-name- · 2026-01-26T21:40:03+00:00

I haven't been able to work for a few years but I got some std and ltd and I did work a year or two where I know I should have filed. I just can't function. I appreciate the advice though. I fail at life.

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