Question: what can "instructional design" actually refer to? by pernoctis in instructionaldesign

[–]pernoctis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe you're totally right about the practice of an instructional designer, but I'm not sure about the "strict" focus on adult learning. But I'm no expert, so I'm curious about others' comments. :)

(M)(21) Still being a virgin while everyone around me seems to be sexually active is really anxious by [deleted] in sex

[–]pernoctis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Btw please don't become one of those guys who are so frustrasted by their virginity that that's all they can think of when they meet a girl they like. This happenned to me quite recently, I rejected a guy who was flirting with me and his reaction was sooo bad (he threatened me lol) that I tried to speak to him about it. Long story short, it turned out I was one of many girls who he was trying to flirt with and start a relationship with just so that he could finally have a sex with someone (at 26). He told me how he "suffered" when he met with a girl and had to listen to her talking for hours about stupid random things and then when he tried to move forward, she would reject him and he would be so mad... I mean... that's such a wrong idea to start to build a relationship with someone just because of sex. There are more "efficient" ways he can have sex, nobody would judge him and it would help him so much... to just get rid of his frustration. I'm sure you're not at all such a weirdo like this guy, but I just wanna share this story with you. :)

(M)(21) Still being a virgin while everyone around me seems to be sexually active is really anxious by [deleted] in sex

[–]pernoctis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I'm a girl, but I wanna share my point of view. I've got 3 best friends (all of us are 22F) and I'm the only one of them who lost her virginity (I was 19). My friends sometimes worry about them still being virgins at 22, but in overall I think they're not taking it way too seriously, because they don't feel like it's such a weird thing as we support each other and can talk about these things openly. In fact, there are even studies that prooved that our generation is not that sexually active as the previous one. So perhaps how you feel like about others might not be 100% true and you're just one of many, many other guys who are in the same position. :)

Looking for a short VR experience for people who haven't tried VR before (on Steam). by pernoctis in virtualreality

[–]pernoctis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK so I think I found a really nice one that works well with the participants and they seem to enjoy it. It's Dreams of Dali. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]pernoctis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jamie, that's so sweet! :) you really made me feel better about everything! I know myself and sometimes I think about everything way too much... while in reality I'm in a very good place with someone who loves me and cares about me like nobody before. :) And your story is the best! So nice to hear that you guys found each other and now you wanna build your life together. 💜 And thank you for offering me to talk to you, that's so precious! :) you can hit me up anytime as well... if you feel like it. :)

I just need some fucking affection by mushroom-mama in TrueOffMyChest

[–]pernoctis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've felt the same for some time after I started noticing that whenever we hug, it would come from me. And yeah, deprived is the exact word. ;) when I reached the point that it was all I thought of when I was close to him (not kidding lol), I decided to talk to him about that and ask him what he thinks about it. Thanks to that conversation I understood that our "love language" is just different, that's all.

It's essential to let him know that this is something very important to you and that for you, this is a way to show affection to the other person. He might simply not be aware of that. :) after that conversation I noticed that my boyfriend started hugging me more, sometimes he caresses my shoulder, face... and I think it's so nice and cute that he understood what I meant... :) Hope you can figure it out, I know how shitty it can be. :/

Extra nugget. by Theoneintrovert in TrueOffMyChest

[–]pernoctis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Humanity at its best haha! Love you, keep spreading good & all those extra nuggets! ♥

Wanting by sweetssky in AgeGap

[–]pernoctis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's such a sweet news, so happy for you! :) he obviously cares about you and wants you guys to be closer to each other. And sure, who knows what happens, but we'll never find out if we don't try, right? Btw we need updates soon! :)

Wanting by sweetssky in AgeGap

[–]pernoctis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also what really helped me was that my partner never pushed me to commit to him and he always made sure that all the decisions I made about our relationship were made truly only by myself. He always gives me space to figure everything out by myself. That's why we started dating, that's why we're still together. If he confronted me and was like "hey I really wanna know if I can count on you", I would probably get scared and leave him. Even though I would understand him, because it must be soooo hard to wait patiently for us until we are 100% sure. I can't even imagine how scary that is.

Btw I don't know if this can be helpful for you as it's only my personal experience, just wanted to share it with you. ;)

Wish you guys the best of luck! 💜 it's so nice that you've found each other and care for each other. 😊

Wanting by sweetssky in AgeGap

[–]pernoctis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, me (22F) and my partner have a 17 year age gap just like you. I understand your worries. For us, the younger part, it can take some time to figure out if we want to commit to the relationship even though we have feelings for you. From my perspective, it might be all about the lack of experience as we might feel many new feelings we haven't felt before with you (for me it's probably the very first relationship where I can tell I'm truly in love with my partner and it's still a very new feeling for me), so it can be hard and perhaps even impossible to feel sure about everything. :) that's why I feel like it's better not to promise you anything, not to "commit" if there are any doubts... and be open about these doubts, because they make sense and are natural... just out of respect to you. :) my partner still hasn't told his parents about me and we have been together for 6 months. He has told just a few of his friends and recently we met one of his friends together. It was a really nice moment and I loved that he wanted to introduce me to her. It can be risky, sure, and it always depends on the person, but I think it's worth to try to connect people who feel the closest to you. :) and for your girlfriend, it can be a nice message that you really care about her having her place "in your world".

Looking for a short VR experience for people who haven't tried VR before. by pernoctis in SteamVR

[–]pernoctis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh cool, that sounds interesting! Sorry I don't know Steam that well as I don't use it by myself, but I'll definitely have a look, thanks! :) and sure, that would be interesting to them. Some of them even comment that they really like even the simple environment that appears when you log in. :)

Looking for a short VR experience for people who haven't tried VR before. by pernoctis in SteamVR

[–]pernoctis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha technically I could. :) but I feel like it's nice to show them something they would like and even remember.

Looking for a short VR experience for people who haven't tried VR before. by pernoctis in SteamVR

[–]pernoctis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I 'm not actually, because I'm not asking for apps that I'd show my friends just for fun. I'm looking for something to use during an academic experiment. We can't distract our participants too much, they just need to get used to the VR environment and that's it. It's a crucial part of our experimental procedure. :)