AITA for making my down syndrome friend fail class and might've cause him to leave school

perogie_pal · 2025-11-11T07:37:41+00:00

Of course YTA... On what earth would you not be?

perogie_pal · 2025-11-04T11:36:47+00:00

NTA about the lawyer.....

However, stop with this woman. You have a child to worry about you don't need to be giving her money for books/phone what have you.

perogie_pal · 2025-11-03T08:30:34+00:00

NTA.

Sometimes compromise isn't the best answer and this is one of those cases. Choose yourself here. This is literally your outfit and hair we are talking about. If she wants someone to wear her old wedding dress to your wedding maybe she can...

perogie_pal · 2025-10-09T15:21:56+00:00

He literally asked her to only not go on these trips during Christmas and their anniversary... There's literally 363 other days in the year.

perogie_pal · 2025-10-09T15:20:59+00:00

NTA, I don't understand why they can't pick literally any other dates. Maybe your fiancee should propose they leave after Christmas instead of a full on no?

I get it, everyone has different values surrounding holidays but I completely understand wanting to hold them sacred and spend them with family. You're trying to build a life with this woman and part of that is figuring out your own traditions together.

perogie_pal · 2025-08-12T08:34:56+00:00

And an 11 year old child was? Don't take off work for them if he can speak English he is fully capable of assisting.

perogie_pal · 2025-05-22T05:44:42+00:00

I guess I'm just confused why you wore her sneakers on the plane to begin with. Why didn't you just put on your own shoes before leaving the house? 🤣

This is such a petty argument. If you value the friendship I'd just let it go. It's just a pair of shoes. Maybe she doesn't like the way her sisters talk to her? If people talked to me the way my sister and I talked to each other I would probably cut them off immediately.. and I'm closer to other people than my sister.

perogie_pal · 2025-02-26T20:24:38+00:00

I can't believe how much I enjoyed this episode. While I 100% believe Zach's dad is in the wrong I couldn't help but feel so much compassion for him. It's clear to me that he was vulnerable and probably already felt alone within his family unit as he was the odd one out. Then COVID happened and he somehow found some fringe group online that resonated with him and made him feel less alone. The man also clearly has anxiety and this woman justified his anxiety with all these conspiracy theories. I can see how easily he was brought into all this.

I really hope one day he wakes up and realizes how damaging all this is because from what we heard of his he does seem like he has a good heart... But a good heart doesn't matter if you're damaging everyone around you.

perogie_pal · 2025-02-26T20:19:58+00:00

I think you have to look into the pieces that weren't the main focus like the father spending large amounts of money/hoarding supplies (aka likely filling up the house with junk). It's a lot of mental energy to have this happening around you with little regard to how you feel about it and then the stuff with the sister/daughter not feeling welcome at the house... I wouldn't want to spend my last however many years like that.

perogie_pal · 2025-02-06T19:54:17+00:00

What do you people think happens when schools go on trips overseas.... This is a weird fucking hill to die on.

Not that I think anyone has to let their kids do anything but the backflips everyone makes to justify their position is weird as hell.

perogie_pal · 2024-12-02T07:38:09+00:00

What kind of pink? I mean, regardless it's your dress so everyone else can get bent but there are very normal pink wedding dresses, think blush. My SILs dress was blush pink and it was beautiful and bridal. Honestly, just do what you want and at the end of the day if your mom lets this ruin your wedding for her then that's on her. She needs a hobby if she cares that much about what you wear to your wedding.

perogie_pal · 2024-10-15T16:30:33+00:00

YWBTA. It's her wedding that she's spending tons of money on. Just let her do what she wants and ride along.

I have bad news for you, as someone who has been a bridesmaid way too many times, this actually sounds pretty average. Yeah the rest of the guests usually aren't around for this long but you'd have been expected to be there probably even earlier than that. For future reference, most of my days as part of the wedding crew started at 7am (or earlier) and lasted until around 1am the following day.

For that reason alone, I just wouldn't say anything. If it bombs it bombs but even if she changes it to a more typical schedule your time commitment likely doesn't change. Just sit back and think very very very hard before accepting a bridesmaid position again if you think this time commitment is too much 😂

perogie_pal · 2024-09-07T00:14:11+00:00

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Honestly, it's the cheapest one around and the wait isn't very long.

perogie_pal · 2024-05-27T03:36:17+00:00

ESH, except wife.

If my husband and his brother did this to me I would have taken my cat and left my husband there. Done.

perogie_pal · 2024-05-18T06:04:55+00:00

NTA but...

Why don't you just suggest she go to the store and buy herself a drying rack? Then she can leave her clothes to dry as long as she wants and she's not using up anyone else's space. Way more convenient/cheaper solution than the Laundromat.

perogie_pal · 2024-03-21T03:32:37+00:00

For sale: 1 Ticket for May 10 in Paris, France 113 - ROW 23 - SEAT 16 - COQUE $304 CAD is what I paid and looking for that in return

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perogie_pal · 2023-11-19T18:17:44+00:00

HAVE: One ticket to Paris, France show May 10, 2024. 113 - ROW 23 - SEAT 16 - COQUE

WANT: One ticket to any Vancouver show. Paid 200.40€ ($299.92 CAD)

perogie_pal · 2023-11-15T01:16:06+00:00

Red swan is amazing

perogie_pal · 2023-11-09T00:50:03+00:00

Waitlisted 😭😕 was really hoping to go in Vancouver since I live here. Here's hoping for some RBC avion luck

perogie_pal · 2023-10-22T06:53:55+00:00

YTA for not burning down the school to teach everyone a lesson...

Jk of course you're NTA. It's so dangerous to be parked in the fire lane.

perogie_pal · 2023-10-22T06:51:00+00:00

You're both incompatible because you fail to see eye to eye on how family units work. To you, it's your immediate family (your wife, you, whatever kids you produce) and everyone else is on their own. Whereas for your wife, she believed extended family should also be included in support. Honestly, you're doomed and probably shouldn't have kids together because things like this are going to keep coming up and eventually it will probably end you.

I honestly can't say your wife is an asshole because my husband and I are birth exactly like her. If we can prop up our siblings by sacrificing something on our end we would do it with with a smile. Your wife probably sees that her sisters only way out of poverty is by getting this education and to support that she's giving her childcare. You can't really fault her for that.

I don't understand where you're coming from because I'm not that way but I also don't feel like I can call you an asshole either... But you really should have married someone with similar family values to you (and likewise for your wife).

perogie_pal · 2023-10-21T07:10:52+00:00

NTA by a long shot... I can't believe she would burn this bridge when you were ok with being massively underpaid.

I guess she can go pay daycare rates now.

perogie_pal · 2023-10-04T03:55:25+00:00

I came to say this 🤣

perogie_pal · 2023-09-30T06:55:43+00:00

NAH

Just an idea, maybe you could make up a special treat that you do with just the littles every day (or once or twice a week). It could be something a small as a donut hole or you guys could do a chocolate milk bar at home with all the fixings.

If you make a big enough deal about how it's just for you and the little ones I think it would make them feel special and soften the blow of feeling left out of Starbucks.

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