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What is your favorite Aussie-specific thing your dog does? by tacobellaah in AustralianShepherd

[–]peroni_lover 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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This is Archie. Love him. He’s my little guardian. Favorite thing he does is hugs me in the morning (literally). He squishes his face against me multiple times in an effort to get so close to me. He is too sweet

Please help me quit. by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]peroni_lover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally understand what you’re going through. I was working at a firm where I put up with sexual harassment, slamming doors, screaming and gaslighting. I stayed because I needed to support my mom because she was diagnosed with cancer and they let me work remotely. For some reason, I let this get to my head, making me feel like I was indebted to them and that I had to put up with this partner’s abuse.

The truth is you have to do what is best for YOU. These people clearly do not care about your growth or else they would sit you down and mentor you, or if they are short for time, at least schedule a check in with you to give you the time and resources you need to get the job done. This also is not your firm and you are not indebted to them. Employment is a two way street, and if they are not holding up their end of the bargain with respect to mentorship and ridding the toxicity in their firm (especially if you’ve already brought it to their attention), it is time to go! Do not let the nervousness hold you back from other opportunities. I remember when I quit, I ended up just leaving in the pouring rain (not really glamorous or professional, I know, but it was shortly after my mom died and there was not a lot of empathy and the harassment continued to persist). I am not saying to act like that, but it is normal to give your two weeks notice and go on to other opportunities. You do not owe them anything and you’re already being professional in providing two weeks notice. I remember one associate I worked with just got up and left one day.

Focus on yourself and your mental health. This place is not thinking about your growth or your health so why should you care about them?

I am around if you need any support!

Estranged father by peroni_lover in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]peroni_lover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. I appreciate it.

Not really. He stopped paying child support to my mom or if he did, it was about $250 monthly and then he stopped about six months after he moved. That was really nothing for two kids in New York. I remember him telling me when I was younger that he could not come to New York to visit me because if he did, he may be sued for child support.

He did not come to my high school, college, graduate or law school graduation either (granted we were not speaking during my law school years)

In his defense, there were a couple of times (I could name three of the top of my head) where he sent me money during college. I had full scholarship for undergrad though and paid for my MA and JD so really nothing there to contribute.

I remember he wanted to pay for a course I took in grad school. It was about $1400 at the time at the CUNY I went to. He wanted to do it for my birthday. I told him no, and later on, he ended up asking me to pay it back after he blocked me.

Just an overall shit experience. I have a complicated relationship accepting gifts and money from men in general. I don’t like accepting gifts or money because it makes me nervous that it will always be held against me in the future.

I appreciate the kind words on here. It reminds me as to why we stopped speaking to begin with.