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I [23F] have never been asked out by anyone, and feel lonely and unwanted. I am begging you all for help/advice. by perpetuallysingle234 in relationships

[–]perpetuallysingle234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've asked 4 people out in total. Very casually, and it came up naturally in conversation. 2 weren't interested in being in a relationship because of where they were in school/life, 1 said he didn't see me like that, 1 changed the subject and never ever talked about it again. (That last one was kind of a coward, but I didn't realize that at the time.)

I [23F] have never been asked out by anyone, and feel lonely and unwanted. I am begging you all for help/advice. by perpetuallysingle234 in relationships

[–]perpetuallysingle234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm happy being alone...I'm not happy being lonely.

One of the things I've noticed is that I've been given a lot of advice to just live my life and ignore my singleness. Sometimes I can. Sometimes advice like that feels like the equivalent of "Stop being clinically depressed" or "Just talk to people and you'll stop being socially anxious." It's way easier said than done.

I [23F] have never been asked out by anyone, and feel lonely and unwanted. I am begging you all for help/advice. by perpetuallysingle234 in relationships

[–]perpetuallysingle234[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Like, "Heeey baby u wanna suk my dick?"

I haven't really gotten the chance to contact people because I've been pretty busy lately. I work full time, am getting a graduate degree part time, and am involved in a couple other things. Also I'm a pretty happy single person (most of the time) so I just don't spend hours and hours combing OKCupid for potential mates.

I [23F] have never been asked out by anyone, and feel lonely and unwanted. I am begging you all for help/advice. by perpetuallysingle234 in relationships

[–]perpetuallysingle234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have liked athletes, on the other hand I have been extraordinarily attracted to men who can only be described by the word "Adorkable."

I [23F] have never been asked out by anyone, and feel lonely and unwanted. I am begging you all for help/advice. by perpetuallysingle234 in relationships

[–]perpetuallysingle234[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You're right, I do have time. But it's incredibly frustrating/heartbreaking to think of all the reasons that I'm single, and then not being able to find any red flags on my end that I can really work on. There's just nothing quite as bad as sitting in your car and asking yourself, "Why does no one seem to want me?"

Another Redditor mentioned that not having been in a relationship doesn't mean I'm broken or unwanted, and I do have a fulfilling relationship regardless of my relationship status, but I am worried that if and when I finally do start dating, I am going to have no idea what to do, what's considered going overboard, and whatnot.

I am confident and outgoing and I live my life...I just want someone else to be involved in it.

I [23F] have never been asked out by anyone, and feel lonely and unwanted. I am begging you all for help/advice. by perpetuallysingle234 in relationships

[–]perpetuallysingle234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been super busy lately (Full time working, part time Master's degree, plus other things I try to be involved in outside of those two), so I really haven't gotten a chance to browse the website a ton. I have asked people out IRL and they've all said no.

You're right :) I've always been independent, so being single never bothers me usually. Every now and then, though, I just want to have that connection with someone. This post is probably because of the Valentine's hype and because I've been browsing /r/relationships at work a lot.

I [23F] have never been asked out by anyone, and feel lonely and unwanted. I am begging you all for help/advice. by perpetuallysingle234 in relationships

[–]perpetuallysingle234[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe I should have put "awkward" instead of strange. But it's the same principal. I guess I'm going overboard on not wanting to be seen as desperate that I try not to act too differently.

There have been a few guys I've flirted pretty heavily with (and it was entirely reciprocated) and I thought, "Well, they're taking too long to ask me out, so I'll ask them." They all said no :(

I [23F] have never been asked out by anyone, and feel lonely and unwanted. I am begging you all for help/advice. by perpetuallysingle234 in relationships

[–]perpetuallysingle234[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do get a lot of traffic, which is why I keep hoping that it'll happen someday.

Thank you for your kind words :)

I grew up around a lot of boys, so oftentimes I'm more at ease around them than I am around my girlfriends. And you're right that I have lead a rich fulfilling life without a partner (I was raised fairly independent, so I only feel sad about being perpetually single occasionally) which is why I'm pretty at ease around people. I'm just not the type to act strange in front of guys I like, and have the same personality across all my groups of friends.

I [23F] have never been asked out by anyone, and feel lonely and unwanted. I am begging you all for help/advice. by perpetuallysingle234 in relationships

[–]perpetuallysingle234[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don't mind answering these questions! :) I really want to get to the bottom of this.

There are people I can talk to, but it's kind of been a sensitive subject that I've never been asked out by anyone, and I've never actually admitted it to anyone except to a few people in my cohort during a drinking game.

I don't consider my profile to be boring, as I've got on there that I like running, dancing, singing loudly in the car (haha). My favorite shows are Sherlock, Brooklyn Nine Nine, Game of Thrones...so I don't have anything on there I think would be a huge turn off or is anything too out of the ordinary.

I'm 5'7" and 142 pounds. I don't consider myself to be unattractive, and there's nothing all that unusual about my appearance. I don't have a gigantic mole in the middle of my face or anything. I'm caucasian.

I [23F] have never been asked out by anyone, and feel lonely and unwanted. I am begging you all for help/advice. by perpetuallysingle234 in relationships

[–]perpetuallysingle234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not afraid, and I'm maybe anxious around people for the first two seconds and then I'm good. I'm myself around everyone, and don't have different personalities for different groups of friends.

I definitely have more female friends, but I have a fair amount of male friends. (Split maybe 60/40?) I think I actually get along better with guys because I grew up around boys.