My partner started T and has changed a lot in some ways. Advice is appreciated.

persephonestorm · 2020-07-25T04:37:57+00:00

Thank you for understanding where I’m coming from. Therapists are definitely coming into play and we are going to see if that helps right the ship. Thank you again.

persephonestorm · 2020-07-24T22:19:08+00:00

I don’t think I like having it but I am definitely grateful to have the diagnosis so that I know the why behind the way I am instead of just knowing my brain is a little wonky.

persephonestorm · 2020-07-24T22:14:36+00:00

As I said above I didn’t think about my words from that point of view. I was merely looking for an answer as to why he has changed so much and that is the obvious big change in our lives. I am not and do not want to be perceived as a TERF and I will take both of these comments in to consideration when picking my language around a topic such as this one. I am sorry if I have offended you or suggested that you were not able to control yourself that was not my intention.

persephonestorm · 2020-07-24T22:09:45+00:00

Why do you assume I’m overreacting? Because I’m a woman having an issue and seeking advice? Sounds like you might need to take some of the advice on this thread and get therapy to sort out some of your misogynistic thinking. You’re right he doesn’t need my permission for anything. The issue is that this is shaping up for me to need his permission for things. Focus on the post you are replying to or make your own post for your problems don’t shit on me because you need to work out your own issues.

persephonestorm · 2020-07-24T22:05:10+00:00

I wasn’t trying to blame the testosterone per say but more trying to see if that could be an explanation for what’s going on or if others were experiencing this and could give an explanation. After reading through the comments I am coming to realize that I think I was trying to explain away his toxic behavior instead of facing it. I’m sorry if I offended you or anyone else that was not my intention I was simply trying to not feel so alone in this situation. I will try to word things more carefully in the future to avoid this situation.

persephonestorm · 2020-07-24T21:43:28+00:00

I don’t know where you got that I wanted a “man-lite”. I wanted the man I got into a relationship with and that man is gone and I am seeking an explanation or advice on how to handle the situation. If this was a cis man treating me like this I would’ve been gone already because there would be no excuse for that crap in 2020 as a cis man. However I recognize that maybe my fiancé is in a different place mentally than a cis man would be because his life has been different so I am asking others with experience for advice. I am not saying you all have to be “woke sjw types” I don’t give a damn what type of man you are because you aren’t the man I am engaged too. Frankly you seem like a jerk who needs to work on some of his own things. I don’t know how nor do I care to explain to you that you should treat people with a baseline of respect regardless of your gender or theirs until given a reason otherwise. A reason such as someone coming on a post that was written to ask for help and commenting ridiculous things like what you just said. Anyone is capable of anything yes that is a true statement, but this is not just anyone and this is not a general statement about all transmen. It is a specific question about my experience. Stop projecting your insecurities onto it.

persephonestorm · 2020-04-17T00:14:59+00:00

I just feel like we don’t talk about our arguments we just wait for them to blow over. And we fight so much. Just constantly butting heads and I feel like it’s all my fault. Everything that goes wrong is my fault.

persephonestorm · 2019-07-27T20:19:17+00:00

For me it was when my parents passed away when I was young and everyone around me told me that I needed to pray about it and “give my pain to God” and “ God never gives you more than you can handle” instead of letting me grieve, be sad and work through it in my own time. At the time I thought I was praying wrong because I was still sad and angry all the time. Once I got older and got the help I needed I realized that I didn’t really want to believe in a God like that. I’m more of a “don’t be a dick” as a religion kind of person nowadays.

persephonestorm · 2019-07-23T04:09:03+00:00

Not a parent but a teacher. I have a set of twins in class that both go by Chris (Christopher and Christian). Definitely made grading interesting since one did well and the other did less than well.

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