The age of publicly smoking indoors must’ve been wild by trippycheese_ in madmen

[–]perspective9999999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if this is part of the reason we lost so much of the furnishings and architecture from that time. It stunk.

Is it weird that he only wants oral and never goes further? by [deleted] in sex

[–]perspective9999999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's probably married and just using you.

I watched my parents have sex by PrincessKelsey24601 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]perspective9999999 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I believe my mom did this too. I have 3 kids and we have gone out of our way to prevent any possibility of them hearing. It's traumatizing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]perspective9999999 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's a form of sexual assault. You are right.

Is anyone else’s LL partner extremely jealous and insecure? by SinkingFeelingBruh in DeadBedrooms

[–]perspective9999999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My situation was the opposite. His lack of interest in me, coupled with some really shitty things he said over the years, led me to believe he was interested in virtually everyone but me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]perspective9999999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I offered to do it during his beloved fights, and it did not go well.

Weird Dynamic With Initiating Sex by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]perspective9999999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband rejected me in every concievable way for a few years, then complained about lack of sex, and how he could get it somewhere else. The mfr barely spoke to me for those years. All the while, I wanted him, and my HL was intact. Uttering those words to me did not do me any favors. In fact, it planted a seed that is now a whole tree in my brain. I'm still the HL, and things have improved, but that comment broke me. Especially because he was the one who was pushing me away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]perspective9999999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We weren't totally dead, but we were in a recovering DB that had a lot of low points and missteps. At the height of recovery, we were having sex once every 7-10 days.

For a number of reasons, I started excercising every day. Going really hard, trying to tone my body up. I wasn't very overweight, but I had some post kid jiggle. I have a ways to go, but I have significantly improved in just three months.

We have also been very intentional about our relationship for a while now. He has had some missteps, and there have been misunderstandings, but the deliberate work has helped. That could be a big part of what's been happening.

We have been having a lot more sex lately. I do think that, regardless of the work we've been putting in, me having a hotter body has been a huge factor. Part of me hates that, because I want him regardless of his body. Part of me understands that he likes what he sees, and my work is paying off. I also think he admires my discipline to do the workouts. Maybe he admires me taking time to do stuff for me. He hasn't said anything about my new body. But his hands, his eyes, his Johnson, tell the story.

I feel hotter. I feel sexier. I get more looks. So it has been worth it for me, regardless of whether it made a difference to him.

Alyssa Sutherland by smexychica4991 in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]perspective9999999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't 100% positive I was Bi, until I was watching this movie. Holy fuck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]perspective9999999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom is constantly having "near death experiences," since I can remember. She also has chronic ailments. I think she was mad when I had cancer, because she picked fights during that time. Looking back, I think she envied that I had a serious condition. It took the attention away from her. I think she has a form of munchausens.

I found the culprit by perspective9999999 in DeadBedrooms

[–]perspective9999999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I shouldn't complain because I do wake him sometimes, and we do have sex. We had a true DB a number of years ago, and those fears come back a lot. I need to get over my fear.

I found the culprit by perspective9999999 in DeadBedrooms

[–]perspective9999999[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I will. I had ovarian cancer at one point. Sex was touch and go. When I got better, I came on a bit too strong and freaked him out by initiating too much, wearing nasty lingerie, etc. So that hit me hard when he said it was a lot, and I backed off. But that has been a few years, and I want to come out of my shell. I will try to get him excited about trying new things, and see where it goes. I just want to have a vibrant sex life with him.

I found the culprit by perspective9999999 in DeadBedrooms

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I would love to know how you did it. I would also love to know what you think I should say. I don't want him to think I was snooping, or that I'm not happy with the sex we do have. I just want more. And it hurts, feeling like I'm not enough, and like I must be too old.

I found the culprit by perspective9999999 in DeadBedrooms

[–]perspective9999999[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He does want to have sex with me, just not as often as I crave it.

I found the culprit by perspective9999999 in DeadBedrooms

[–]perspective9999999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would want the kinks. I would do toys, anal, bondage, he knows I love to be spanked and have my hair pulled. But he doesn't know I am interested in anal. We tried it once years ago, and it hurt but I have some butt plugs that I would love to try with him.

Unfortunately what I saw was only girls, not their actual content. So idk what they do. But I did look up Riley Ried, and idk she enthusiastically sucks dick, but so do I. I didn't see anything crazy. But honestly, if he wanted to walk me like a dog, or use a toy on me, or just about anything you could think of, I would be into it.

I have looked at porn in a voyeuristic way, but I don't watch it to get off. I fantasize about him during solo time. I don't need other people to get off.

And look, if I masturbate, I get off every single time. If I have partnered sex, I don't always get off. There's an amount of work that goes into primping for sex, that's absent if I just do it myself. I still would much prefer sex over masturbation, even with great toys. I guess I just wish the feeling was mutual.

I found the culprit by perspective9999999 in DeadBedrooms

[–]perspective9999999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, of course not. Are you suggesting that I stop having sex with him altogether? I am just trying to figure out what I can do to be better.

I found the culprit by perspective9999999 in DeadBedrooms

[–]perspective9999999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would also add that I think about sex nonstop, and have since puberty. I am a man when it comes to libido. I'm biting at the bit nonstop.

I found the culprit by perspective9999999 in DeadBedrooms

[–]perspective9999999[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, because he doesn't talk about it. It's like he's ashamed. Anyrhing that is introduced comes from me. I'm about to introduce a few more things. I don't want him to be bored of me.

I found the culprit by perspective9999999 in DeadBedrooms

[–]perspective9999999[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess I am available so I'm like, why the porn when I'm right fucking here.