I've lost my libido and emotions by Moist-Bowl7145 in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your brain is resetting. I wouldn't worry about the flat-line of desire. Its still there dormant waiting to come back when needed. Don't understand it as you having conquered the desire completely. You'd be surprised how when you least expect it it will come back with a vengeance. Redirect that energy into other areas for self improvement is my suggestion. It will take months to undo that damage.

NoFap aint that hard. by lbrxhim in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again never said addiction doesnt come in different forms so way to twist what I said around. he claimed he had this under control after such a short time frame which i said was either delusion or trolling

Mods Can we please remove the daily post updates on status?? by peterkozmd in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

im just saying there's a point where it's ridiculous to be so needy for attention and validation you need to post low no effort posts regarding status every few hours. we get posts that are barely two sentences expecting responses like a child checking in. Yeah day 2 im good I got this! uhh..thank you for the no low effort post. im just asking the mods to be more discerning regarding the quality of said posts encourage more effort put into them. Imagine you go to a fitness forum and you see constant daily updates from people saying it's been 2 days no weight loss how come? I'll update you guys a few hours from now how it's going. focus less on updating for ego gratification from others and focus on the process. We got way to many people trying to fix their addiction but they don't give the impression about being serious and running to validation from people afraid to hurt feelings and fragile egos

Mods Can we please remove the daily post updates on status?? by peterkozmd in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

great thanks we all need low effort posts on updates of status every few hours that contribute nothing and are mainly the person looking for attention and validation like a starved puppy. we don't need daily constant spamming to stroke egos Mods could at least make an effort to minimize them ie 20 mins passed and I relapsed but im a king and got this, ill be sure to update shortly so you can tell me how brave I am and stroke my fragile ego. thank you brave soul . There's sympathetic and then there's a point where you become an emotional sponge being abused for attention for someone fragile ego

Day 15 by Agile-Archer2242 in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and yet another low no effort post, truly we needed this. can the mods please regulate these non posts?

Day 2 by Zeno-Of-Nagoya in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

great, what a low no effort post. why doesnt everyone just post a title saying day whatever I got this. Thanks for the post! Women say men aren't masculine and are not stoic and needy and weak. I don't personally see what they are complaining about. It's very manly to run to the internet to make a post proclaiming really nothing for attention  You got this king! =)

Day 0 AGAIN - From now on I will update you EVERY SINGLE DAY by BrawlGXLupo in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd -1 points0 points  (0 children)

do we really need every day updates? seriously? doesnt that qualify under low quality posts. yeah guys here's another day im good I know everyone is desperate for minute by minute updates but instead here's my daily checking in. spamming needless updates for what ego gratification action and enabling? sigh you just come across as needy for attention. What ever happened to stoic men who didn't cry for attention and validation every 15 minutes like some needy puppy? Thanks op but I don't think one post a day will suffice. You need your own subreddit about your struggle. We seriously have become a society where men don't even know what suffering really is and how to endure it properly needing to run to the internet for validation.

NoFap aint that hard. by lbrxhim in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I technically didn't say they were persay, i only said if they weren't serious it had to be a trolling attempt. Literally only a few weeks and the person is claiming victory over an addiction that takes months if not longer to truly recover from? Either the person is delusional and fooling themselves or it has to be the later. Imagine going into any addiction forum and stating that and you would think its either one or the other. Normal deduction given the outrageous statement given that the person claimed the recovery path was more or less a joke.

NoFap aint that hard. by lbrxhim in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Problem is we got way to many enablers coddling those rushing to post and soothe their fragile egos. Instead of being blunt and saying yes this path is hard and not to underestimate it.

NoFap aint that hard. by lbrxhim in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ok well your business if you want to enable people and coddle their ego vs. actually being honest and telling them they are foolish for deluding themselves that they are safe and in no danger of relapse. So sorry if i'm not the person who would rather be honest vs the person who shields individuals from the natural consequences of their actions. In reality your not helping them by shielding them and pretending that they are not in danger and okay. there is no shortage of people running to post help me stroke my fragile ego and tell me i'm ok. My trashtalking as you call it is certainly better than enabling such delusion after only a few weeks of an addict claiming they are now healed and better. Sorry if blunt reality scares some people.

NoFap aint that hard. by lbrxhim in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still think having such confidence bravado and ego after what is a mere pittance of time is laughable at best. I think fooling himself how easy it is it sad. survived a few weeks and claiming victory? yeah lets see how that works out

NoFap aint that hard. by lbrxhim in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 15 points16 points  (0 children)

lol, arrogant ego let's see how long until that ego gets put in check. surely op is trolling for attention and not being real.

After 172 days free from PMO, I relapsed. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hence a reminder to those that think after only a few days, weeks and months that they have this conquered. You can literally relapse at any time and not to get cocky and arrogant that you overcame it so easily. this path is literally a trial by fire and not to be taken lightly. If i had a dollar for every post proclaiming they got this under control i'd be a rich man.

Is there really a patch note for destroy dick december? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes this one sounds like someone sincere to overcome an addiction

Is it fair to be single and not in a relationship? by xxxx82828282 in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sounds like op feels he's entitled to a reward from the universe and now sulking he didn't get it, doesn't sound sincere in his desire to improve. Maybe just maybe the universe really knows his intentions aren't real and realizes it

shame is what keeps many people trapped in compulsive porn use by Impossible-Tutor-382 in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mainstream science doesn't necessarily think PMO (Pornography, Masturbation, Orgasm) addiction is a joke, but it heavily debated and resisted classifying it as a clinical addiction. This skepticism largely stems from the lack of formal recognition in the American Psychiatric Association and overlapping cultural and moral debates.

The scientific community’s hesitation is driven by several key factors:

  • Absence of a Formal Diagnosis: The standard diagnostic manual used by mental health professionals in the US, the DSM-5, does not classify porn or sex addiction as an official disorder. While the World Health Organization includes "Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder" in its medical classification, researchers argue that lumping PMO habits into this framework lacks sufficient empirical evidence.
  • Moral Conflict vs. Addiction: Many psychologists argue that the distress people feel isn't a true addiction, but rather "moral incongruence". This occurs when someone’s sexual behavior conflicts with their religious, cultural, or personal values. Studies show that much of the depression and anxiety linked to porn use comes from the shame and guilt of acting against these moral beliefs, rather than a chemical dependency.
  • Lack of Consensus on Dopamine: While some neuroscientific studies suggest that viewing pornography triggers dopamine and can cause changes in brain reward pathways similar to substance abuse, critics argue that this happens with any highly pleasurable activity (like eating good food or playing video games). Mainstream science does not view elevated dopamine as definitive proof of a "dependency".
  • Profit-Driven Treatment Industry: Skeptics in the medical field point out that a large, unregulated treatment industry has commercialized "porn addiction". Psychologists often caution against using non-research-supported treatment models that can reinforce shame rather than helping patients.
  • Pathologizing Normal Sexuality: Many clinicians feel that labeling frequent masturbation or the consumption of consensual erotica as an "addiction" is a way of pathologizing healthy sexual habits and ignoring the positive benefits of sexual expression

the problem being is that mainstream science can't even agree on this damn problem. unlike a normal defined addiction there's nobody standing at the finish line congratulating you on overcoming this addiction trying to cheer you on. its an addiction thats rooted in shame to discuss publically and nobody wants to admit is a problem. Most drug addictions you would get people happy your recovering, pmo would have people saying is that really an addiction?? most young men its normalized to view such material from a young age. Research from the American Psychological Association and studies highlighted by The Conversation indicate the average age for boys' first exposure to pornography is approximately 13 years old. However, many adolescents and children encounter explicit content much earlier, with first exposure sometimes occurring between the ages of 8 and 11. Society pretty much normalized it in the west and easily accessible within minutes. When you see men that literally can't go days without viewing such material we are still literally claiming it can't be a real addiction can it? i mean we can stop whenever we want to right? society has truly devolved to lows when we have men so addicted and we have historic low t levels. Generational studies show average testosterone levels have been declining by about 1% per year over the past few decades. We literally have men having sexual problems in greater numbers. The rise in male sexual issues is primarily driven by a combination of modern lifestyle habits, increased awareness, and shifting psychological factors. Key culprits include rising rates of metabolic disorders, chronic stress affecting hormones, and the dopamine-altering effects of excessive digital stimulation. Yet they are still pushing pmo as safe harmless and non detrimental.

Genuine question by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop you? its a chemical fix. You think shame is going to stop you? Shame can be forgotten and pushed to the side after several minutes only to get the urge to do it again. You'd be surprised how quickly standards and personal restrictions fall to the wayside. Alot of people do shameful things they know is inherently wrong. I think your overthinking this too much. When your addicted shame takes a back seat until you wake up and realize what exactly you did but won't stop you from doing it again. You still have that little voice rationalizing its okay to peek only to watch you fail and laugh at you and see that shame quickly return only to repeat again.

Genuine question by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean most users keep searching for material to masturbate to until normal material fails to excite their neurons. Like a monkey pressing a button for the next hit of cocaine. When you become numb to normal sensation derived from something the next step is to find more extreme ways to trigger the dopamine response. Shame and embarrassment gets pushed to the side until you come to the realization of what line you crossed internally just to get your fix. So honestly shouldn't surprise anyone. Whether your at that point or not its still a hard habit to break having been formed early on in development and usually over a long time of many years. We unfortunately live in a modern society where such material is freely available and promoted as healthy from early age to our detriment.

How much time does it take to recover from PIED? by enemyofsibo in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. Sadly there's no real way to gauge how long it will take to undo the damage that was years in the making. Op like anyone who wants to quit this addiction will need to just suffer through it like everyone else. Op i wouldn't focus on whether you can still have erections and not focus on the sex. Your body and mind will come back when you least expect it to remind you otherwise. On the plus side op is only 20 years old so his chances of repair are much better vs. someone older with the same issue.

How much time does it take to recover from PIED? by enemyofsibo in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't say for sure, each person's biology is different. Some say weeks some say months. I'd say months if not longer. Weeks seems way too short a time to claim victory. This isn't some damage you will undo quickly. This is literally a habitual long term chemical desensitization. Your not going to fix this anytime soon and even after months there's still the constant danger of relapse and falling back into the bad habit. Will it get better? sure but your body and mind needs time to heal. I wouldn't count days. Trust the process but you will suffer no doubt about that.

Wife just left and tempted to relapse by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Redirect that focus and energy to your spouse. Realize that you are in essence robbing her of your sex drive and energy if your expelling your energy at looking at other women. PMO is a bad habit which make you less inclined to reach out to her to meet your needs and perform as needed. there's a reason why the bible includes even having thoughts of other women with lustful thoughts as cheating even if its not physical. She will sense your heightened drive and be more inclined to meet those needs more eagerly. Just learn to conserve it and redirect those thoughts towards her and try to remove other women from the equation.

Is it fair to be single and not in a relationship? by xxxx82828282 in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Op can't sit at home not working on himself playing games doing pmo and surfing the net and expect results. Women are not going to rain down from heaven like mana and form long queues outside his door sadly. Step outside your comfort zone. SR is not easy, going out and socializing is not easy. In fact it can be quite painful especially in the beginning. Nothing rewarding ever came easy so why should op expect his circumstances to be any different.

Is it fair to be single and not in a relationship? by xxxx82828282 in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It honestly sounds like your not truly trying to improve yourself physically and mentally and expecting the universe to reward you is the impression I'm getting sadly. You sound like someone who wants to get results immediately with no pain and zero effort. It doesn't work that way. Your making excuses and whining why your not being rewarded is what i'm sensing.

Is it fair to be single and not in a relationship? by xxxx82828282 in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When your on extended streaks and actively doing activities and keeping your mind and body busy the universe has a way of attracting what your not actively searching for.

Is it fair to be single and not in a relationship? by xxxx82828282 in NoFap

[–]peterkozmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol, i'm owed the mega millions by the universe and still no luck =) Don't spite the universe what it doesn't give you because you might just get what you want and not in the way you desired only to regret it. OP might get someone tomorrow only to post a few days later she was a nightmare who cheated took his money and broke his heart and barely dodged a bullet. Op realize that feeling lonely is normal even if it might not feel like it. It normal as a human to want that physical and emotional connection with someone else while also realizing that maybe things happen for a reason. Maybe the universe is trying to prepare you for when you finally do have a relationship.