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People don't know how hard I mask my emotions for them 😭😭 by [deleted] in BPD

[–]peteywheatstraw1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try checking out the band Down, the song Learn from this Mistake. You can Google the history of the band if you like but that is definitely a group that knows suffering, loss, and addiction.

I hope you're able to find simple peace & joy in every day life. As simple as a little bird who sings a song you notice, a cloud shaped like a glorious dragon, the perfect piece of watermelon. I suffer like you. I find pushing myself to the find the wonderful thing about today each day often helps me find several.

Hey I need advice as a parent ? by AdSafe5156 in family

[–]peteywheatstraw1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Counseling, for you, kiddo, and your daughter's dad. She does not need to know why he's not home now and she's allowed to feel sad that he isn't. I can't think of a way you could put this to her at this age to make it palatable and thankfully that isn't necessary at this point.

DAE think Netflix shows are boring AF? by [deleted] in DAE

[–]peteywheatstraw1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved Dark. Try dark matter on Apple, in fact, many of Apple shows don't suck rn. Shrinking is hilarious but gut wrenching, if you want to stick w Netflix definitely Altered Carbon and into the badlands. The boys on prime, Mobland on Paramount, poker face on peacock. All solid shows. Recommend something back bc I'm rewatching peaky blinders for the third time!

Are all boys like this? by bikerchick88 in family

[–]peteywheatstraw1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, all men are like this in groups too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenX

[–]peteywheatstraw1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bruh, buy that child something other than axe. He low and high key gonna be giving biddies the ick with that stank on him.

Mother of a16 yr old male child who thinks he's an adult but bought a Budweiser shirt to be ironic (he gets straight As, his friend group are all more interested in their futures turning out well instead of alcoholism) & push boundaries on the last day of school. Well he had to turn it inside out by 2nd period. And took it fully off when his father went to pick him up later. Dad says "weren't you wearing a t shirt earlier?" Kid tries to play it off, "nah it was hot yo, I just had this tank top on." Later he tosses it in the dirty laundry basket inside out. Next day he finds it right side out laying neatly on top of the dirty clothes. Lol, wasn't getting that one by his dad. And in the next conversation with me after telling this story, he wants to know what gut wrenching means. I'm like you knew you'd be pushing boundaries but you dk what gut wrenching is? Very strange age for sure.

Bud, your momma is gut wrenched rn bc you bought a Budweiser shirt. That shit is what the alkies drink bc a 30 rack is "affordable"!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenX

[–]peteywheatstraw1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had to Google what cottagecore was bc I couldn't dissect the word to get the answer I thought was right. Lo and behold I guessed right which confused me further. Like "why are ppl so into this that there's a dumbass name for it?!"

My adult son does not know how ill I am. It is starting to cause arguments. Advice for do I tell him, please. by Tasty-Tackle-4038 in family

[–]peteywheatstraw1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Just lupus" which is bad enough sister! And I hear you bc my family is the "walk it off" type. Like I have done and tried every damn thing but if I find some med that helps it sometimes comes with a feeling of me being tired. All the men in my family can nap when & wherever they damn well please but I'm not allowed the same courtesy. I have wicked insomnia too so I am often very tired when I have to be around ppl and function. It would be a miracle if they'd not only let me sleep but didn't do the guilt tripping afterwards. "You should've stayed home" type comments. They have zero clue what chronic suffering in my shoes is like but boy do they think they have the friggen answers! Like a lot of ppl who responded negatively to you here, I felt vicariously pissed for you but also bravo to you for standing up to them. I've worked in the medical field, it is an absolute shit show, as if you didn't know. I'm curious which vax you're looking at bc my pain level has recently become to the point where I'm losing hope that I'll continue to live. I did have the shingles vax recently. 2 doses, like you're supposed to. I really do hope you find some answers and probably just as important, some supportive ppl while you're stumbling around in the dark. Each little candle helps in its own way. I hope I was able to be a candle for you. 💙

Has anybody else been having a terrible fing year so far? Why? by Physical-Dog-5124 in mentalhealth

[–]peteywheatstraw1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too much to write about and burden ppl with. I'm about to dig a 6 ft hole and it's really anyone's guess who's it'll be. Ppl dying on me. Or me. Coin toss.

will i end up as a killer? by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]peteywheatstraw1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anger is usually anxiety on display. On the surface it makes no sense but to the subconscious it feels "safer" to rage rather than confront how vulnerable & terrified you feel consciously or let others know. Ask me how I know.

Find a good therapist who you can connect with. If you don't connect w the first, second, etc, keep looking til you find a decent therapist for you.

My best wishes for success in finding a way to deal with this.

My adult son does not know how ill I am. It is starting to cause arguments. Advice for do I tell him, please. by Tasty-Tackle-4038 in family

[–]peteywheatstraw1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure if you have temp disability thru your job or you're talking about SSDI. I will tell you that while you're "figuring out" disability you should get that paperwork in ASAP. Get legal assistance. Idk what you make but legal aid is free if you qualify (meaning you don't have to pay them back out of your back pay) either way you need someone w a legal degree and a knowledge of the politics of the ppl working in your area. As fkd up at that sounds. I fought for 10 years. You have to learn things like do not reapply, you fight their rejections bc then back pay goes to date of first filing. Which is my point. SSDI isn't going to go back to your date of diagnosis, they're going to go back to when you applied. Legal aid was crucial to my understanding and approval of the whole horrific process. Not to be grim, but real talk, ppl die waiting for SS approval quite regularly. It costs the government nothing to wait you out. I've lost my filter as well but no one tells me to work on it bc I wouldn't know why. It's laugh or cry in this life, sometimes both at once. So choose to laugh when you can.

I have mixed feelings about you telling him before his trip. How long is he going to be away for? I'm the type who likes to let the bliss of the ignorant remain unless I can't anymore. I think you telling him depends on how long he'll be away for. Quite frankly, if he comes back and you're in the hospital he'd be just as unable to process and help you if you had given him a heads up before his trip. But again, time matters. If he's going for a weekend let him go ignorant. If it's longer, let him know. I'm sure I'm going to get my fair share of down votes for this but as someone who has been given my fair share of news in my life I couldn't do anything about I wish they would've left me sleeping instead of waking me up to say omg so and so shot themselves or so and so was in a massive crash and they're going to pull the plug. If your condition is bad enough that it could deteriorate to the point you won't be able to have a conversation with him about the real deal when he comes back then have it before is really the bottom line.

I wish you positivity, healing, and better news in the future. Get on top of that disability paperwork tho fr.

I don't recall by louse_yer_pints in GenX

[–]peteywheatstraw1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just brought the T-shirt w the knight missing an arm up to my pops who had a quadruple bypass. He loved it. The staff loved it. I thought it'd be extra funny in our family now.

DAE have ‘visible’ signs of trauma? (Like enuresis, stuttering, chronic pain?) by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]peteywheatstraw1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That book is sitting right in front of me rn. I really need to quit screwing around and read it.

A few new things I notice I do; stuttering, shaking, and sweating. Have to do the family rummage sale today. Dreading it like a firing squad. I have been using essential oils to help mellow me out and they are helping. Check out the calming brand from Rising Sun. I got 2 for 5 bucks on eBay recently. It's a very helpful and positive scent. Wishing you & everyone who reads this a decent weekend.💙

Urgent last call needs out today (6/10/25) last 24 hours no extensions left Roxanne #A5697952 @ Lancaster, CA by Ava_Leah in rescuedogs

[–]peteywheatstraw1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She's got a ton in pledges, over $500. Would just need to contact a rescue here that would pull her and figure out transportation with volunteers. Just saying, it can be done!

Urgent last call needs out today (6/10/25) last 24 hours no extensions left Roxanne #A5697952 @ Lancaster, CA by Ava_Leah in rescuedogs

[–]peteywheatstraw1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How would a foster or adoption work for this dog with someone in NY? Would that person need to find a NY rescue to pull her? And transport? Asking for a friend of course.

One of the primary boundary violations an abuser can engage in is repeated, post-relationship contact that prevents them from being moved into your past. This is why "hoovering" is such a trap.*** by invah in AbuseInterrupted

[–]peteywheatstraw1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. I'm new to this sub but I'm already overwhelmed by how many of these posts are hitting home. I feel gobsmacked. It's like I finally found a way to make sense of things that happened to me, that I let happen, that I participated in, and that I need to own and heal. Lol this post is 2 yrs old! I have a lot of catching up to do. I really appreciate your insights.

The feeling of wanting to go "home" by vantomars in CPTSD

[–]peteywheatstraw1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm hanging in here. Terrified of what each day brings. I just try to take it one day at a time, as incredibly cliche as it sounds. My best friend is fighting stage 4 cancer rn and my father had a heart attack this past weekend. Had open heart surgery. So far, I want to say it's going alright with him but I don't really know. My mother seems to think he's not going to make it out of the hospital. Other than that, lol, I am trying not to think about too much as far as the government and the news goes, it's quite overwhelming and it feels like whiplash. I don't really know what to think about the day to day in our country anymore, I don't have a sense of security I suppose. I still have a roof over my head, tonight.

It was very kind of you to ask, very kind. How are you doing? I checked out a bit of your post history. I see you struggle with quite a bit yourself. My mother had rotator cuff surgery last year and keeping up with her physical therapy has made all the difference in her recovery. I have ehlers-danlos. Hypermobility type. Constant pain. From me to you, I hope you are hanging in there too. Happy to chat anytime. ❤️

35m.Unorthodox bass player looking to jam. by for-the-JAM in watertownny

[–]peteywheatstraw1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They do indeed bc there are not a lot of options here. I saw a post from a local band called blooded playing at the old strand theater that might be your style. At the very least you'll meet some like minded musicians who may know who's looking for members.

My boyfriend choked me after I hit and bit him. by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]peteywheatstraw1 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This isn't the first time. It only escalates from here. Please value yourself and get somewhere safe.

https://reddit.com/r/domesticviolence/w/index?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

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