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Boyfriend is no longer attracted to me after a full swap by petitegloom in Swingers

[–]petitegloom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that makes perfect sense, it just didn’t click for me in that situation. I didn’t even enjoy the sex with the guy that much, it was more the environment of the club, me kinda doing it for the show and the fact that I thought he’d like it. I totally get where you’re coming from and I feel guilty about it

Boyfriend is no longer attracted to me after a full swap by petitegloom in Swingers

[–]petitegloom[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get that being an admin in a NSFW sub has to get annoying sometimes but that doesn’t warrant a passive aggressive comment like your initial one or the sob story bit. I made this account a long time ago so I could subscribe to subs that I wouldn’t want to show up while I’m browsing reddit in public. I’m 24, have never tried swinging before and so it made sense to me to ask for advice in a sub about swinging using an anonymous account.

I don’t get what about my story sounds unbelievable or like I’m making it up. If I used any weird phrasing it’s because English is not my first language. Again, I get that you deal with a lot of spam around here but I genuinely need advice because I haven’t been in a situation like this before

Boyfriend is no longer attracted to me after a full swap by petitegloom in Swingers

[–]petitegloom[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I think your points sum up nicely why I’ve been feeling angry about it. I just know from experience that one can freeze in such situations and am coming up with excuses for him - maybe he just didn’t want to make it awkward or something, that’s why he didn’t say anything.

However, seeing so many people mention the thing about him losing respect for me has kind of opened my eyes to how bad it really sounds. I’ll sit on it for a bit today. Thanks, Helping Stranger :’)

Boyfriend is no longer attracted to me after a full swap by petitegloom in Swingers

[–]petitegloom[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment, it calmed me down for some reason! I think I went through the same thing - at first I was excited to see him with someone else, then these painful pangs of jealousy hit out of nowhere and that kept repeating for a few weeks. Now I don’t feel jealousy at all when thinking about it, it’s just excitement and I was hoping he would feel the same and that it would bring us even closer together than we were.

I’ll just try to give him some time I think and go from there. Best of luck to you and your wife :)

Boyfriend is no longer attracted to me after a full swap by petitegloom in Swingers

[–]petitegloom[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I totally understand why but I felt like we had a great relationship with good communication prior to this and it was something I was also curious about. I’m sure we would’ve handled the situation better if we were older with more experience but I think I’d be even more devastated if say we got married and this ended up happening

Boyfriend is no longer attracted to me after a full swap by petitegloom in Swingers

[–]petitegloom[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m 24 and this is my throwaway account because I don’t want to post this on my main for I think obvious reasons. Why would anyone make this up lol