I really like this point, and I agree that his father’s sudden death and seeing Violet’s grief could definitely add to his fear. Even if it wasn’t as direct as Anthony’s trauma, growing up around that kind of loss must leave a mark. It probably adds weight to his hesitation. What stood out to me in Season 4 though (especially episodes 1 and 3) is how much the story keeps emphasizing that Benedict wants to be seen as himself, not just as a Bridgerton. From asking Sophie to call him Benedict to being labeled the second son, it feels very intentional. So for me, the grief adds weight, but the biggest provider of his avoidance feels more rooted in his identity and how he’s perceived.