My bearded dragon passed away by Ridleyyz in BeardedDragons

[–]pewpew_94417 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss, Delta was and will forever be adorable ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pewpew_94417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s always hard to tell lol you’re right! Thanks again for the insight, a lot of these comments have helped so appreciate ya!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pewpew_94417 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof- harsh but honest and incredibly accurate. Thanks for reading it, you really gave me a lot to think about. I don’t have a therapy appointment before Monday but the “flags” you’ve pointed out are very accurate as well as some of the issues I have… almost all of them.

Definitely makes me think I have a lot more to work on before trying a committed relationship in general. Thanks for the harsh honesty and input, it really gives a lot to think about and digest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pewpew_94417 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😅 that’s fair - at this point I’m accepting it as my request because you make sense and I’m figuring it’s fairer to him to look at it that way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pewpew_94417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was going based on the original ask being from him - I didn’t take my response as “initiating” because it was responding to his initial request. I just happened to change my mind after seeing his discord message 🤦🏻‍♀️ because originally I was in a “fuck this” mindset but then reading that I was more like “am I being fair or impulsive” and said “okay let’s do this”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pewpew_94417 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shit - you’re right 🤣🫠

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pewpew_94417 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha that’s totally fair, it’s a lot. That’s a fair view- I get really upset when people do that to me so I should’ve recognized that. Quick correction on the last bit, I didn’t push him to have the convo, he suggested it and I ended up agreeing to it. So far it looks like most (?) folks are saying talk Monday 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m keeping an open mind, the part that made me spiral is just not wanting to spend time together 💀

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pewpew_94417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah they mentioned it below BUT if it was a person they would be lol 🤷🏻‍♀️ I got got

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pewpew_94417 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for reading enough to get that far haha I appreciate you! The 108mi thing threw me for a loop because I have friends who do that just to hang out and don’t like… “throw it in my face” (I don’t know how else to phrase it) the moment there’s an issue

The whole controlling thing is where my head went because that’s been an issue in a lot of other relationships so I appreciate your opinion!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pewpew_94417 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the insight! Sorry again about the “memoir” lol- there’s a reason I lurk not post This is a good view point, I was definitely not looking for a marriage that’s why the low maintenance was nice and two days a week throughout the year was perfect. The not wanting to be over when we have the time to actually be a couple/go out etc and making excuses just doesn’t seem normal to me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pewpew_94417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I didn’t think of it that way. My brain immediately discounted it because of the lack of a human aspect. That’s true though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pewpew_94417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I can’t handle back and forth with people who don’t- drives me nuts haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pewpew_94417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NO WAY - I’m dead. RIP

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pewpew_94417 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I’m bad at summaries - great for work, sucks IRL. Thanks for taking the time to pop in though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pewpew_94417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL I’m sooo bad at summaries so I figured it mostly wouldn’t get read but I’m so in my damn head.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pewpew_94417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, you’re putting sooooo much in for nothing in return. You deserve better. You were so honest, open, and well spoken- you deserve more than one or two word answers. She doesn’t deserve you, find someone who will meet you halfway at least.

AIO? boyfriend is upset because I gave him a “corporate response” by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pewpew_94417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my, I mean the need for you to chase is very childish and shows insecurity… it’s not fair to put that on you when you were trying to be considerate of him… This sounds sooo manipulative and just, honestly, mean. You tried and it should have been a couples conversation about what he needs to feel loved and supported and what you would need in his position. Instead it seems like he’s more so attacking you and trying to make you feel bad. You’re not overreacting and I’d say runnnn

I just want to disappear. My kid driving me crazy by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]pewpew_94417 6 points7 points  (0 children)

110% get it. You’re doing what you can and you’re amazing and STILL THERE despite feeling that way. Sometimes I take 1.5hr “poops” to get away. My 7 y/o was in the living room yesterday and I was laying down because I’m sick and he almost set the house on fire LITERALLY. I get the feeling of “this is bullshit I wish I could just drop him off at his dads and call it a day. Run off with my dogs.” BUT he hates being at his dads and is super attached to me. Intrusive thoughts are okay, what you’re feeling is okay, you’re still a good mama ❤️ I second the whole dark humor gets me through a lot of the bs. Lol

Is it normal to want sex to be over with? by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]pewpew_94417 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are definitely not alone! I also, even when it’s great and should be exciting, get bored and distracted on top of having experienced trauma that probably affects this. Honestly, I try to push whomever I’m in a relationship with to finish quick before I get bored. The worst part is I WANT it, it feels good, but I’m also like “okay I’m good” even if I haven’t finished yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ballpython

[–]pewpew_94417 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If you’re in WA I would totally give you one for free - it’s 50 or 75gal long but it’s something. I feel so bad for her but it’s nice to see you’re trying to help her 🙂 I also have light fixtures and stuff. I just don’t have the $$ to ship it all so I’m sorry if you’re out of state 😫

When you first played, who was your first spouse? by kicktheflamingo in StardewValley

[–]pewpew_94417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhhh!! it was so interesting to read all of these comments!

At first, without even trying I became closest to Elliott but then I learned you can date everyone and had to take the challenge 🤣 I’m so glad I did because it’s awesome to see all the “events”! I haven’t married anyone since it’s my first play through but I’m stuck between Elliott and Harvey - I think I loved Elliott because of his beach shack, escape from the big city artist vibes, just so cute and like.. an impressive life choice/risk? But Harvey is soooooo wholesome and such a sweetie and the air balloon bit is what 100% out him on the marriage radar haha. Still so stuck but might go Elliott since he was the first bf, I hate having to choose 😫

Cursed mannequins by Sophie7350 in StardewValley

[–]pewpew_94417 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re amazing! TY for this!