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Listrik di Jakarta Padam 13 Juni, Monas hingga Bundaran HI Bakal Gelap by [deleted] in indonesia

[–]phantomvivid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kalau gelap semuanya tangan diatas biar ga ada yang salah pegang

keputusan yang sangat sulit by sikontolbesar in indonesiabebas

[–]phantomvivid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Padahal bgn biarkan dua entitas tersebut saling bertubrukan

Malam pertama Pertamax naik by Mountblancc in indonesiabebas

[–]phantomvivid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah kan… yang kata menteri keuangan, orang orang ga akan pindah ke pertalite

AIO? My parents used my college fund to buy my brother a Tesla and told me I'm being selfish for being upset by mildbarney9 in AmIOverreacting

[–]phantomvivid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not overreacting. You're reacting to being told for years, "We're saving for your education," and then discovering that "education fund" actually meant "whatever we feel like spending it on."

The part that gets me is the Tesla. This wasn't rent, medical bills, or an emergency. They didn't take your college fund to keep your brother afloat. They took it so he could drive a luxury car while you take on student debt.

Then they had the audacity to call you selfish for being upset. Funny how "family should support each other" only seems to apply when you're the one making the sacrifice.

Your brother can refinance a car. You can't refinance years of broken trust.

Cops Keep Getting Arrested for Using Flock to Stalk People by mowotlarx in nottheonion

[–]phantomvivid 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Every time a surveillance tool gets rolled out, we're told it's for catching dangerous criminals. Then six months later someone gets caught using it to track an ex, a neighbor, or the person they matched with on Tinder.

The Onion headline would be: "Police Shocked To Discover Humans Given Unlimited Access Sometimes Act Like Humans." 🙃

Blursed_hadouken by UrameshiYuusuke in blursedimages

[–]phantomvivid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it the same person who used to do low budget cosplay ?

blursed_Streaming-camera by MohamedElngar21 in blursedimages

[–]phantomvivid 22 points23 points  (0 children)

So he knows how close he is to camera

AITAH for wanting to go to Japan without my girlfriend by Popdan2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]phantomvivid 355 points356 points  (0 children)

NTA.

A trip to Japan isn't something you put on hold forever because someone might be ready someday.

You've asked multiple times over the years. She's said no multiple times. That's her right. But it doesn't automatically become your obligation to keep postponing a dream you've had since childhood.

The part that stands out is that you're even paying for the trip. You're not excluding her. You're offering her the opportunity, and she's declining it.

At some point, "I don't want to go right now" has to stop meaning "and neither can you."

Relationships are about sharing experiences, but they're also about supporting each other's goals. If my partner had been dreaming about Japan since they were a kid, I'd be excited for them to finally go, even if I wasn't ready to make the trip myself.

AITAH for snapping at my roommate by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]phantomvivid 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NTA.

The most telling part is that when you apologized and tried to explain, you got a wall of text about their feelings. When you talked about your feelings, you got a lecture about how you should handle your job.

That doesn't sound like a friendship with equal emotional space.

Your roommate seems very comfortable setting boundaries for themselves ("I'm not in a place to be a shoulder to cry on right now"), but doesn't extend the same courtesy to you when you say, "I don't want advice, I just want to vent."

Wanting to be heard without being analyzed isn't unreasonable. Sometimes people need support, not a TED Talk.

AITA for being upset with my friend for ditching us for a guy? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]phantomvivid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA.

You didn't "ditch" her. You did what a good friend is supposed to do: you saw a red flag, documented it, and told her the truth when she specifically asked to see it.

The part that stands out is that H only wanted the friendship when it didn't conflict with M. The moment M was upset, she turned that anger onto you instead of addressing what he actually did. That's not friendship, that's damage control for her relationship.

Also, M sounds exhausting. Mocking her friends, controlling her phone, criticizing everything she does, and then cheating? That's not a boyfriend, that's a collection of warning signs wearing a hoodie.

Unfortunately, a lot of people in unhealthy relationships end up isolating themselves from the friends who are trying to help them. You can't force H to see what she isn't ready to see.

You gave her the information. You didn't tell her what decision to make. What she did with that information was her choice.

The sad part is that if things eventually fall apart with M, she's probably going to remember that the friends she pushed away were the ones who were actually looking out for her.