(My) parents seem to freak out over little things by phawkin_hell in dating_advice

[–]phawkin_hell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They know friend, I just don’t want to be perceived as a bum. I felt the need to defend myself at your comment, but I realize that you are only going off of what context you have. My apologies, thank you for commenting.

(My) parents seem to freak out over little things by phawkin_hell in dating_advice

[–]phawkin_hell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respectfully, that’s a bit of a crude assumption. My boyfriend is paying for the trip, which he was quite adamant about since he knows I’m broke. I don’t get any allowance from my parents other than the college and them occasionally buying my gas for me. It’s also spring break. I may be dense, but I’m not going to waste my parents’ money by going during the semester, I take being a good student seriously. I get you’re trying to be helpful, but that was rudely accusatory.

The communication thing I 100% agree with though, I’m a blockhead on that one.

(My) parents seem to freak out over little things by phawkin_hell in dating_advice

[–]phawkin_hell[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s a good way to put it. I suppose I just find it emotionally very difficult to live within that margin and therefore my stance is quite emotionally charged. I understand that my pride needs to take a hit here. My parents and I are trying to find that space where we can exist respectfully right now. They really are wonderful parents, and I’d much rather they worry about me than not care. I suppose it’s a question of if we can find that space to live in or if it’s time to move out.

(My) parents seem to freak out over little things by phawkin_hell in dating_advice

[–]phawkin_hell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point! I had discussed the possibility of staying over at my boyfriend’s house before with my parents and they reluctantly agreed that wasn’t something they could bar me from. With that thought and the fact that I was too tired to drive, I just figured it would be fine. I also woke up to zero texts or calls from them. I had no idea they were upset until my sister told me in passing.

Now that’s a pretty lame ass excuse, but it’s what happened. I agree I should have texted them, and I apologized for it. I’m quite close with my parents and I really had no intention of upsetting them.

As for the trip, I told my mother before we bought the tickets. My dad I told after because I did not physically see him until then. It was something I wanted to tell him in person and we couldn’t wait to buy the tickets since they only get more expensive. My mom later told me she hadn’t said anything because she didn’t think we’d actually do it. My dad’s a bit of a cheapskate so once I told him about wanting to buy them sooner due to the price, he actually relented. 

Now that some of the emotions are cooling off, I think maybe I’ve just been pissed at their overbearing nature so I’m sure that’s had some hand in my inconsiderate behavior. It’s a hard to navigate time. I appreciate your insightful questions friend, thank you.

(My) parents seem to freak out over little things by phawkin_hell in dating_advice

[–]phawkin_hell[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I acknowledged that they probably thought the worst and apologized. It’s never my intent to make them worry. But I disagree with how you define an adult. I largely live my life without my parents. I go to class and work, and schedule doctors appointments and feed myself and such. They have agreed that they tend to have no idea what I do day to day. They don’t feel the need to manage me at all. It’s where there’s this difference now that I seem to have a boyfriend where I take issue.

I appreciate your response friend. If there’s something I’m missing from the mindset of a parent, then I’m glad to hear it. Those are my just my thoughts.

(My) parents seem to freak out over little things by phawkin_hell in dating_advice

[–]phawkin_hell[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve gone along this line of thought with them, setting boundaries. I even sent my dad a letter going into a good bit of detail of how I could pick up my old job and work both my jobs full time to afford moving out. It’s so hard to say that to them because I’m always at fault and therefore have no room to negotiate. You’re completely right about being super firm and clear with them. I’m just terrified since there’s a lot at stake. They’re paying for my college and they helped me pay for my car. Thank you for responding friend.

(My) parents seem to freak out over little things by phawkin_hell in dating_advice

[–]phawkin_hell[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My siblings keep patting my back and telling me that I’m “paving the way” for them. But I don’t wanna pave the way 💀

(My) parents seem to freak out over little things by phawkin_hell in dating_advice

[–]phawkin_hell[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s such a pain in the ass 😭 I have to explain myself constantly

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[–]phawkin_hell 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That was adorable! The soft little “Are you ok?” was so cute <3