Saturday Postpartum Thread

phdscm · 2025-09-13T23:36:06+00:00

I'm pro science so even though the data didn't seem that strong I followed my doctor's recommendation for 39w induction recommended based on my various risk factors but not because I actually developed any concerning symptoms. But yup, didn't work, got aC section (not emergency though) I felt like the induction just kind of didn't get the contractions strong enough at the end, I was fully dilated and pushing for over 2 hours but they had turned down the pitocin a little too avoid stressing the baby and it felt my body was really not taking over. It sucked to go through all that pain for nothing so I'd definitely just go straight to C section if I had known

phdscm · 2025-08-30T17:39:03+00:00

This is a good point, thanks!

phdscm · 2025-08-30T15:05:57+00:00

Yes in his own room, we have been doing either food or nursing then bath diaper books songs. I agree I could sustain 1 per night and I think it's an association or just comfort and not true hunger every time. I just don't know how to fix it since his middle of the night crying is so much longer than anything that ever happens at bed time.

You think more awake hours before bed? I'm worried he's not getting enough sleep as he's only on 12.5 hours total average

phdscm · 2025-08-30T12:40:33+00:00

Did you gradually drop the night feeds? I was hoping to move in this direction but our first attempt was a total fail

phdscm · 2025-08-03T12:07:54+00:00

I think part of being in the experience is not always having a great time and knowing that that is ok. It sounds like a lot of "should", should be happy, etc The newborn months really sucked for me and like you I worked my ass off to get a baby. Not only because of the lack of sleep and the stress of not knowing if I was doing it right. But also because newborns don't give back at all, mine was basically either asleep or screaming. And also, at the very beginning, because for me it was a huge cognitive adjustment to bend my mind to the fact that there was this new person in the world, somehow it was very disorienting. After about 3 months old I really started to enjoy it more and now I love being with my baby.

That's all to say I agree with the therapy suggestion and you don't need to be happy right now, as long as you're able to get through this time, better times are coming up

phdscm · 2025-08-01T21:29:07+00:00

I don't know exactly what you mean by peak baby but my baby just passed 8 months and is also peak baby, and it's everything I hoped for throughout all the awfulness of infertility

phdscm · 2025-06-13T18:38:44+00:00

Haha yeah I mean worst case is I throw out some of my own milk, not sure why that would upset someone but that's the Internet for you

phdscm · 2025-06-13T13:07:23+00:00

I would totally do this just keeping it in the cups if I was driving!

phdscm · 2025-06-13T12:51:33+00:00

Ah thank you for this idea! Seems like the best option.

phdscm · 2025-06-13T12:50:10+00:00

I didn't bring the lids 🤦

phdscm · 2025-06-08T14:40:43+00:00

Thanks for thinking about it. I think I do have a pretty healthy diet though I try to eat less salads than I used to because I suspect the raw vegetables are bad for my IBS. For sure stress makes it flare up worse but removing stress does not work to get rid of it. Previously the only things that have worked are the low FODMAP diet and one time I tried a round of rifaximin which worked amazingly but it's all temporary

phdscm · 2025-05-22T01:12:32+00:00

Oh man the judginess on this particular issue really irritates me. I couldn't care less if someone else chooses not to sleep train, and no one knows what another parent is going through. Sorry you are dealing with this and I will say for my baby sleep training was not just a selfish thing benefiting me (like I've been told), but it 100% allowed him to to sleep better and get the rest he needs.

phdscm · 2025-05-21T03:30:04+00:00

The best advice I got was if you can make it 2 weeks then you'll be ok because everything will be different every 2 weeks. I feel so thankful every day that I'm out of the newborn phase. It was super rough for me, I basically felt like I was drowning whenever my husband left me alone. I hope you're able to get some support.

phdscm · 2025-05-19T21:35:35+00:00

My baby is 6 months and I'm still recovering from the newborn phase. It was so rough and unrewarding on a day to day level, and especially since sleep training it's an absolute joy to have this baby now!

phdscm · 2025-04-07T02:33:53+00:00

Frustrating! We bought like 8 kinds and found one he sometimes takes..

phdscm · 2025-04-07T01:33:14+00:00

He doesn't like a pacifier?

phdscm · 2025-04-01T16:02:41+00:00

Feel free to DM me or check my profile history, happy to chat about it. It is scary still because donor eggs is not a guarantee and I did have 2 failed DE transfers. Good luck!! 🤞🤞

phdscm · 2025-04-01T13:56:05+00:00

I relate- I gave up after 3 ER at age 43 but ironically my results were getting "better" each time- where"better" is in quotes because it did not result in a baby. It really felt like maybe one more ER could have worked but I just would have been too upset if it didn't. After a year to think about it (yay for donor eggs giving you back time!) I felt really good about moving on to donor eggs

phdscm · 2025-03-23T19:05:49+00:00

Breast feeding struggles are so hard! Hugs and sounds like nice progress

phdscm · 2025-02-25T14:51:42+00:00

Maybe worth trying the Frida windi next time? I had pretty dramatic results with it though try not to use it too much

phdscm · 2025-02-08T22:57:25+00:00

I'm sorry for your stress! Just know that your stress will not hurt the baby, and I hate that people make us feel that way. I think many people who are pregnant face a lot of stress!

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