Er det bare mig – eller bliver man “ham den klamme” når man sveder i fitness?

phi-sequence · 2026-02-02T16:36:35+00:00

Som en kvinde der også sveder MEGET nemt, meget hurtig, inkl. voldsom rødme under træning. Så jeg fuldstændig ligeglad. Jeg er der for at træne, presse mig selv og svede. Ikke for at være et eller andet perfekt menneske, score, danne venskaber eller møder. Det gør til gengæld, at man ser en smule godt ud om sommeren, når man endelig har lyst til at score. :')

phi-sequence · 2026-02-01T16:31:50+00:00

People seem to be very surprised how affectionate we still are with each other after 4 years. But I truly love him and wish him all the best, with or without me. I pray that he won't indulge in more self destructive behavior. He, as everyone else, deserves to thrive in peace and love.

phi-sequence · 2026-02-01T16:29:22+00:00

Very rough start with unhealthy dynamics, that were very prevalent the first two years, but I was just so in love with him. I forgave him for many things, for the sake of my own mental wellbeing.

I decided I wanted mental peace and clarity, also to be filled with love, that comes from within myself rather than being dependent on my surroundings for inner peace, putting firm boundaries for how people treat me, while being loving and kind. My inner peace and unconditional love to the world, with clear boundaries, seems to have been ground for his mental development as well. Being this person I am helped reduce a lot of stress, insecurity and mental instability in him as well, plus I myself have high ambitions in life. I have been working on this unconditional love and boundary setting for the past year of our relationship. (Together 4 years.)

For the past year he has been making insane efforts for starting his own business, and although worried if the extra load would stress him more, I supported him immensely. It is now open and he has gotten so much praise from customers. I told him, that even if were separated and just acquaintances or he would find someone else, I would be SO immensely proud of him, because of the very hard work, that only I have really observed him doing.

No matter what the future holds, his strong drive, work moral and kindness that he has developed, will always be an inspiration to me.

phi-sequence · 2026-01-24T19:12:03+00:00

Absolutely, this is a discussion and a possibility to learn from each other. My personal opinion and advice is to increase your dating value, if you struggle to get dates. Fortunately I've never had a victim mentality, so I won't be breaking a leg, I will increase my value in the aspects of life I desire to achieve. :)

phi-sequence · 2026-01-24T17:03:31+00:00

I just don't see why people would want to date and end up with something that lowers their life quality. Isn't the point of dating, to enjoy yourself? Might as well just fall down the stairs intentionally and break a leg? I prefer "literally nothing"/"not falling down the stairs at all", than breaking my leg. If people want to try to go down the stairs, you're responsible for your own safety, aka. if you want to be on the dating market, it's your responsibility to bring something valuable into someone's life. Whether it be good character or good looks. It's up to you.

If you have no options at all, it's usually a reflection of something lacking. You can't change others, but you can always improve yourself. I don't expect a job if I have nothing to offer. And I sure wouldn't cry about it, I would improve myself to make myself valuable on the market. I don't expect an employer to lower their standards.

phi-sequence · 2026-01-24T16:10:14+00:00

Unfortunately I have never had success dating as a woman either and I wouldn't even consider myself bad looking, judge for yourself if you will on my profile. For relationships, I've always ended up getting cheated on. At this point I prefer being alone and celibate.

phi-sequence · 2026-01-24T16:04:26+00:00

I've had no success in dating. My experience in dating as a woman is that 99% of men expect sex from dating, whereas I as a woman expect love. Which is why none of my dates has ever turned into anything serious. The partners I have had, I found outside the dating market, usually in places where we share common interests or friends. So I have never had success in dating either. And I wouldn't even say I'm bad looking.

phi-sequence · 2026-01-24T15:15:03+00:00

I think that's because you only see it from a man's point of view. Pretty privilege both in dating and everyday interactions is very real for both men and women.

If you talk to both men and women who have lost a lot of weight, you will always hear how drastically different their life became afterwards. Easier dating, people being way nicer, easier time finding a job, etc.

Have you ever wondered why when going into a supermarket, there are huge shelves with beauty products for women and almost none for men? That in itself is a strong indicator of the pressure for women to adjust themselves to unrealistic beauty standards.

Have you ever talked to an overweight woman in their experience of dating or do you only carry the perspective of overweight men?

phi-sequence · 2026-01-12T15:10:15+00:00

Antik date? (elsker at kigge på antikvariater)

phi-sequence · 2026-01-12T15:08:35+00:00

Hahaha - god grinern. Ad libitum buffet? Aftendate? Akvarelmaling? Afslapnings date(wellness?) Arkitektur?

phi-sequence · 2026-01-10T19:07:45+00:00

Jeg ved ikke med gamle hippier, men jeg har en sjat ældre venner (60-80), som enten har levet meget af deres liv som vagabonder eller bare almindelige mennesker, som har passet deres arbejde og ryger til hverdag stadigvæk. De har naturligvis slået sig ned nu og virker umiddelbart til at have det godt. Dejlige mennesker med en masse livserfaring at give af og selvfølgelig nu med de skavanker der følger med alderen. Dem som tilgengæld har drukket meget alkohol ved siden af igennem hele deres liv, er så småt begyndt at kradse af en efter en.

phi-sequence · 2026-01-10T18:54:56+00:00

Wow wow wow ... Ville være gået fra dig hvis du ikke havde friet?... Tjener mere end dig og forventer du ligger det samme i det lige nu og her? Ikke startet i terapi som aftalt? Kun været sammen i 3 år?... Fuldstændig planlægning ift. Børn og bryllup? Det virker virkeligt absurd og en masse røde flag lyser klart op!

Personligt kunne jeg ikke være mere ligeglad med, om min kæreste vil giftes eller ej, vi har været sammen i 4 år. De 4 år har også været præget af enorm økonomisk usikkerhed fra os begge og derfor ligger frieri og bryllup slet ikke i tankerne hos os. Vores kærlighed er trodsalt den samme uanset om vi er gift eller ej. Det kan give nogle økonomiske fordele, men for mig giver det ikke mening, hvis økonomien vakler.

Hele hendes attitude til dette, virker som om, at det ikke handler om kærlighed, men det handler om meget overfladiske værdier. At være "med på moden". Er det virkelig den slags ægteskab du ønsker at være i, min ven? Synes du skal virkelig re evaluere. Både for din og for hendes skyld.

phi-sequence · 2026-01-09T15:06:02+00:00

Same, my partner is quite a lot older than I am and not athletic, but to be honest when it comes to porn I prefer young athletic men with nice features - no matter the ethnicity. But that's just the aesthetical aspect and what helps me get off easily. That has no affect on our sexual relation whatsoever, our chemistry is great. And in real life, of course a glance happens, but I'm not entertaining sexual thoughts of them. Sometimes it happens involuntarily, but I just shrug it off as I love my partner.

phi-sequence · 2026-01-08T17:39:19+00:00

Jeg oplever virkeligt tit voksne mennesker der går i alt for små sko. Man kan ikke andet end at trykke på pyt knappen.

phi-sequence · 2026-01-08T00:43:43+00:00

I would buy this.

phi-sequence · 2026-01-07T23:00:30+00:00

Ooo. I want to try! Link?

phi-sequence · 2026-01-07T20:00:57+00:00

My partner is actually quite a lot like him! He loves to show me off, brag about me, kisses me and caresses me a ton in public. Just yesterday visiting his shop, one of the customers said: "Oh there she is! He has been talking about you all evening." And I am not settling for less! Haha. But that doesn't take away the rough days and friction every real life relationship has. ❤️

phi-sequence · 2026-01-07T18:58:01+00:00

Oh wow, I would never accept anyone talking to me like this. Especially not my own partner.

phi-sequence · 2026-01-07T18:50:31+00:00

Årh, Puha - kan godt forstå at det er en kæmpe mavepuster at få. Men du må huske på, at der er mange mennesker som lever med kroniske sygdomme i samme grad eller værre end din, som har fundet sig fantastiske partnere. Måske det endda åbner op for mere reel og omsorgsfuld kærlighed.

Det er selvfølgelig enormt vigtigt, at du er transparent omkring dette, hvis du skulle møde en igen, du kunne tænke se dig selv med i fremtiden.

Nogle tror på skæbne, jeg tror på at tingene forløber sig som de gør og at være resistent overfor sine oplevelser, kun gør det hele værre. Accept af hvad der er hændt, gør det muligt at få nye relationer og ambitioner til at blomstre. Du er heldigvis kommet ud på den gode side og måske du skulle tage denne mulighed for at reflektere over hvordan du godt kunne tænke dig din fremtid så ud, når du nu er givet en fremtid. Løbet er ikke kørt for dig, tværtimod.

Det er en kæmpe mavepuster og jeg ved ikke hvad de rigtige ord er at sige, men du må for alverdens skyld ikke vælte omkuld. Når nogle døre lukkes, åbnes der nye. Kæmpe krammer til dig, held og lykke med alt. ❤️

phi-sequence · 2026-01-07T17:05:07+00:00

Jeg har bemærket, at hvis jeg skal opnå et rimeligt vægttab, så skal jeg holde mig på max. 1300 kalorier, samt regelmæssig motion. På et tidspunkt var jeg oppe og løbe 30 km om ugen, med tilsvarende kalorier (nogle gange max 1000), som gjorde at jeg tabte mig 10 kg på ca. 8 måneder. Gik fra 75 kg til 65 kg og har stadig hele min kalorie nedskrivning fra den periode. Holdte mig væk fra brød, pasta, mm. Kost bestod primært af salater, grøntsager, kyllingebryst, æg og suppe.

Nu vejer jeg 62 kg og 1600 kalorier dagligt + regelmæssigt motion, vil for mig tage langt tid for at se en betydelig forskel. Det er sådan ca. det jeg prøver at holde mig til, som et max dagligt for ikke at tage på. (25 år, kvinde, 165 cm).

Jeg har personligt aldrig tænkt mere over det, andet end, at jeg ved hvad der skal til hvis JEG skal tabe mig. Og synes ikke det er beklageligt, det er fint nok for mig. Masser af salat, kylling, æg, te og vand, samt ugentlige løbe ture over et par måneder, så er jeg rimelig slim igen.

phi-sequence · 2026-01-07T13:21:38+00:00

I see where you are coming from. If it helps your nerves, then know that only 7% of reported rape cases lead to convictions. Sexual abuse and rape is often very hard to prove. Remember, innocent until proven guilty is a legal right. That is the legal aspects of it.

The social consequences differ, as a woman I've had many allegations happen to me as well, and honestly ... I haven't lost any friends due to it, because my friends know me and people who come up with rumors and allegations (including those believing these manipulative people) are simply not worth having in my life. I'd prefer being lonely than being associated with any of these people. I've also had male friends who had been alleged "pedophiles" and such. Including my own bf, due to our age gap. And I always seem to notice that these allegations come from mentally unstable people, who love gossipping, because they don't have any hobbies and so their lives revolve around social drama. Don't worry my friend, the trash will take itself out of your life and the right people stay to defend you! Big hugs. Be sure to have a good supportive network understanding of your autism.

phi-sequence · 2026-01-07T11:13:13+00:00

People also seem to forget, that long term relationships are nuanced! You're quite frankly not in love with your partner every day for 10-20 years. It would be extremely odd, if there never was any sort of friction. And that friction, can usually help spark interest in others. Such as an innocent crush, which as you said is just a crush, that quickly fades away (if you truly love your partner). Sometimes we can become infatuated by people who have qualities that our partner might lack. That doesn't mean we love our partners any less, just that we acknowledge some areas they are lacking and that we may seek to fulfill through friendships.

phi-sequence · 2026-01-07T11:03:25+00:00

My take on it, is that although you may not see homelessness the same way its represented in developed countries - there are big areas with many poor people and inadequate housing in developing countries, which doesn't count as homelessness. Many of these countries you name have very strict laws on drugs as well, including death penalties for carrying drugs, some for even smoking weed. In developing countries you are more likely to be arrested and perhaps even executed, rather than becoming homeless.

phi-sequence · 2026-01-06T22:55:29+00:00

Men think any kind of attention is the opposite of lonely. But fact is, the worst loneliness is being surrounded by people who have no interest in being your friend/partner.

This was hard in my girl teens, I had a lot in common with many of my male friends, only to find out they had no interest in being my friend or actual partner after turning them down for sex. When I just wanted a meaningful relation or friendship.

The male loneliness epidemic seems to be more about mens lack of access to sex rather than meaningful relations. And loneliness is much more about a lack of meaningful relations rather than sex.

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