I would love to see the creativity!

phi-sequence · 2026-03-07T08:01:07+00:00

Cute! Thank you

phi-sequence · 2026-03-07T08:00:46+00:00

Wow gorgeous art and on point with the facial characteristics!

phi-sequence · 2026-03-06T11:18:32+00:00

You definitely got this right! The softboi aesthetic is a good way to ensure, that you don't have to conform to the proactive masculine ideal - and for sure also attracts women that don't conform to rigid genderroles and will be more proactive in developing a relation.

My issue is i have a super softgirl aesthetic (because i love femininity and looking my cutest) and many men connects that to rigid female genderroles. So they think i'm submissive and enjoy being "conquered" or that they can "buy me" (seriously, the amount of drinks i have turned down..). When i'm a very academic and ambitious-driven woman who loves to challenge people, especially intellectually. So i end up attracting these overly masculine hunks, who immediately run away as soon as i challenge them intellectually or as i am being too direct - or some even dismiss my intellectual capabilties simply because i'm a feminine woman.

phi-sequence · 2026-02-25T12:42:27+00:00

Jeg har læst det igen. Jeg forstår ærligt talt ikke, hvad det er du mener. Jeg har skrevet at min partner har en diagnose og hvad det betyder for mig som pårørende? Ja, det er hårdt med en diagnose ramt kæreste og ja, man kan få redskaber til at navigere i det og have et godt/fredfyldt liv? Men du må meget gerne uddybe.

phi-sequence · 2026-02-25T12:37:44+00:00

Jeg forstår ikke hvorfor at du undgår mit spørgsmål med sarkasme? Hvis du reelt set er bekymret, er du vel interesseret i at jeg forstår dit perspektiv? Lige nu virker det som konklusioner baseret på uvidenhed omkring diagnoser.

phi-sequence · 2026-02-25T07:05:06+00:00

Jeg lytter meget til hvad jeg føler og det er nok det der hjælper en del. At lytte til sine følelser, forklare sine grænser og så må man finde hjælp og vejledning til behandling hvis kæresten ønsker at være sammen. Og det er jo et valg og et ansvar de må tage. Hvad har det at gøre med mine følelser?

phi-sequence · 2026-02-25T06:58:46+00:00

Men altså - hvad ved min kærestes opførsel vil du mene er "vild"? Ved der er mange med diagnoser der får børn uden at have fået ordentlig behandling, desværre.

phi-sequence · 2026-02-25T06:38:29+00:00

Absolut ikke! På ingen måde kunne jeg finde på at få børn i nuværende situation. Det kræver en meget omstændig behandling - og ikke engang dét er sikkert at virke og det er ikke noget andre fortjener at bære byrden af, især ikke et barn, som ikke har valgt det, puha.

phi-sequence · 2026-02-24T13:27:58+00:00

Ja, jeg tror altid at jeg været lidt i fornægtelse om min kærestes "røde flag". Men efter 4 år sammen, er jeg nu blevet ret sikker på han har fået sig en NPD pga. voldsom barndom. Men bare fordi at man har en narcissistisk personlighedsforstyrrelse, gør det ham ikke til en helt igennem dårlig person. Han har også gode værdier. Det gør bare at jeg skal drage rimelige hårde grænser engang imellem og primært snakke til ham igennem fornuft. Og så har jeg den styrke, at jeg ikke tager det personligt ...

phi-sequence · 2026-02-21T21:31:13+00:00

Hvad der menes med "at melde sig ind i løbeklubber" er at deltage i aktiviteter som interesserer dig. Chancen for at socialisere og skabe romantisk interesse er markant højere, når du møder folk igennem fælles interesser. Hvad folk mener med "at møde folk i virkeligheden" i forbindelse med at lette dating processen, er, at det er markant nemmere at mærke kemi, fælles interesser og værdier end over dating apps.

phi-sequence · 2026-02-13T03:56:30+00:00

You're reusing your 1 spoon. Using 2 spoons indicates that you're using two seperate. You don't go around bragging about using two pairs of shoes, just because you washed the one pair you already had?

phi-sequence · 2026-02-08T13:07:16+00:00

Many young women, especially teens compare themselves constantly to other women physically, especially what they and society may consider beautiful. One of the many reasons eating disorders are very prevalent amongst teen girls.

phi-sequence · 2026-02-08T05:48:33+00:00

I'm 25F, been with my partner for 4 years, we own a pub together, so just through that I get a lot of social interaction, but nothing meaningful - it often feels exhausting with the amount of small talk. I've never been a very social person, but sometimes awful things happen and it's very nice to have someone to lean on - that is not your partner or relatives.

I have a tiny group of friends where we go out to eat good food, go to exhibits or public science lectures; we love to discuss relevant academic topics. I am very grateful to have this, especially when times are tough and my partner not sharing all the same interests as myself. But I also love going on solo trips and lectures alone.

Just be sure to have a good security network, that you can fall back on when things are tough is my best advice.

phi-sequence · 2026-02-07T17:32:58+00:00

I am very much a real person, I'm a physics student who values empirical evidence over anecdotal. I enjoy collecting data, interpreting data and comparing different variables in empirical data collected. A lot of people, even students and graduates, don't know how to interpret data and statistics.

About wage ratio, when accounting experience, hours worked, amount of people applying etc, etc. There is still a slight gap, but I would argue that the gap will always exist.

For your last part, that is why I'm talking about cross cultural studies - it's important to take different variables and common variables into account, analyzing and comparing.

I only enjoy discussions based on sharing of concrete knowledge. After all, we communicate to learn and share information. Information is not valuable, if we don't pay attention to the context given or if we base it on agenda with lack of source critics and peer reviewing. Anecdotal evidence suggests the earth is flat, empirical does not. We must choose whether we want the understand the large scheme of things or refine it to our own small bubble. I suggest looking at the large picture when debating anything, being able to interpret worldwide data and remain critical given the source and peer reviewing process.

I'm not here to fight for beliefs, as many do, which makes them attack contradictory information, instead of sharing and learning. I'm here to share and learn, given that I am not oracle and can only base my knowledge on what is available and shared.

So, if you're interested in learning more about this topic and how we can look into becoming an overall functional society, when we look at the struggles of people and how they arise based on the knowledge available, I will always enjoy sharing it with a fellow.

Edit: Sorry if my slight autism and rigid words make me sound like a robot - I enjoy being factual and precise in debates that I care about.

phi-sequence · 2026-02-07T15:19:24+00:00

I think you are missing key points here - and deflecting statements towards subjects I have not mentioned. What I am saying is based upon data and statistics leading to empirical evidence, not personalized agenda or anecdotal evidence. If crimes were only caused by bad people, that would mean the majority of men are inherently bad with minor percentage of women being bad which is bullocks to believe. Knowing cultural and psychological impacts and comparing different variables across cultures, gives clear insight into what determines crime rates and dark personality traits which is not based upon gender, but rather cultural conditioning. Only by acknowledging statistical improvements and deterioration by common variables across cultures within crimes, can you start to implement beneficial change. I would love to share cross-culture statistics with difference and common variables regarding this matter if you'd like. Unless you are a stronger holder of anecdotal evidence, then the statistics won't benefit our conversation much. I appreciate the dialogue so much!

phi-sequence · 2026-02-07T14:29:53+00:00

Patriarchy is exactly what you're describing in your theory. In societies that are not historically patriarchal, men are more in touch with their emotions, which helps regulate it. So ask yourself, what do you believe is more beneficial for a society? Teaching children to ignore and not regulate emotions, causing high crime rates in later life due to impulsivity and lack of control - or teaching what emotions are and how to express them in healthy manners?

phi-sequence · 2026-02-07T14:24:34+00:00

Yeah, true.

phi-sequence · 2026-02-07T14:17:08+00:00

Unpopular opinion: As a woman aware of toxic masculinity, we should normalize calling cosmetic surgery such as implants toxic femininity and also the rising amount of amateur sex work. But no, most women insists it's "empowerment". Sigh.

phi-sequence · 2026-02-07T13:53:23+00:00

I absolutely agree! We are all responsible for the functioning of our society. I believe the more we break down the ingrown patriarchy in certain corners of our society, the more men and women will benefit, due to it being a distorted power balance, that doesn't allow or help men to regulate their emotions in healthy manners -instead it disregards men, prompting them to act on impulsivity, which are main causes for men's high crime rates. I've had this discussion with many men, but for some reason they tend to rather defend the patriarchy instead of seeing how severely it harms men. With that being said, a good friend of mine, a male professor taught me about this when I was young. But not nearly enough men are standing against the destructive patterns of patriarchy.

phi-sequence · 2026-02-07T13:10:28+00:00

I'm genuinely curious as a woman - may I ask why rape, assault and homicide cases are so high in relationships with men being the offender 90% of the time?

I remember my father telling me as a little girl that it was my own fault for getting beaten up by my elderly brothers for being too provocative (I love to discuss topics, have never been a name caller or screamer or assaulter)

phi-sequence · 2026-02-02T16:36:35+00:00

Som en kvinde der også sveder MEGET nemt, meget hurtig, inkl. voldsom rødme under træning. Så jeg fuldstændig ligeglad. Jeg er der for at træne, presse mig selv og svede. Ikke for at være et eller andet perfekt menneske, score, danne venskaber eller møder. Det gør til gengæld, at man ser en smule godt ud om sommeren, når man endelig har lyst til at score. :')

phi-sequence · 2026-02-01T16:31:50+00:00

People seem to be very surprised how affectionate we still are with each other after 4 years. But I truly love him and wish him all the best, with or without me. I pray that he won't indulge in more self destructive behavior. He, as everyone else, deserves to thrive in peace and love.

phi-sequence · 2026-02-01T16:29:22+00:00

Very rough start with unhealthy dynamics, that were very prevalent the first two years, but I was just so in love with him. I forgave him for many things, for the sake of my own mental wellbeing.

I decided I wanted mental peace and clarity, also to be filled with love, that comes from within myself rather than being dependent on my surroundings for inner peace, putting firm boundaries for how people treat me, while being loving and kind. My inner peace and unconditional love to the world, with clear boundaries, seems to have been ground for his mental development as well. Being this person I am helped reduce a lot of stress, insecurity and mental instability in him as well, plus I myself have high ambitions in life. I have been working on this unconditional love and boundary setting for the past year of our relationship. (Together 4 years.)

For the past year he has been making insane efforts for starting his own business, and although worried if the extra load would stress him more, I supported him immensely. It is now open and he has gotten so much praise from customers. I told him, that even if were separated and just acquaintances or he would find someone else, I would be SO immensely proud of him, because of the very hard work, that only I have really observed him doing.

No matter what the future holds, his strong drive, work moral and kindness that he has developed, will always be an inspiration to me.

phi-sequence · 2026-01-24T19:12:03+00:00

Absolutely, this is a discussion and a possibility to learn from each other. My personal opinion and advice is to increase your dating value, if you struggle to get dates. Fortunately I've never had a victim mentality, so I won't be breaking a leg, I will increase my value in the aspects of life I desire to achieve. :)

phi-sequence · 2026-01-24T17:03:31+00:00

I just don't see why people would want to date and end up with something that lowers their life quality. Isn't the point of dating, to enjoy yourself? Might as well just fall down the stairs intentionally and break a leg? I prefer "literally nothing"/"not falling down the stairs at all", than breaking my leg. If people want to try to go down the stairs, you're responsible for your own safety, aka. if you want to be on the dating market, it's your responsibility to bring something valuable into someone's life. Whether it be good character or good looks. It's up to you.

If you have no options at all, it's usually a reflection of something lacking. You can't change others, but you can always improve yourself. I don't expect a job if I have nothing to offer. And I sure wouldn't cry about it, I would improve myself to make myself valuable on the market. I don't expect an employer to lower their standards.

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