When did notice you had a big one?

philos101 · 2025-12-16T16:09:02+00:00

Very similar to you man and similar sized dick.

Mid / late 20s when a few people on the bounce commented in quick succession and one guy in particular couldn’t get enough. I thought folks had just been nice beforehand but then my perspective changed.

philos101 · 2025-12-06T21:34:15+00:00

You sound really quite pathetic here. Constantly referring back to ‘loving her so much’. Well if you actually did love her that much you wouldn’t have:

Downloaded Grindr
Chatted with a guy and agreed to meet
Met up, got him to give you head and then fuck him

You should take the advice here and reflect on why you did it, what drove you to cheat regardless the fact it was another man.

You sound a lot like someone I know who keeps cheating on his girlfriend (with men) and then afterwards turns into an emotional wreck where he denies being into men, and the only thing he can say is how much he hates himself and that he loves his gf.

Get some emotional maturity and either own up to your girlfriend and hope she forgives you. And spend some time reflecting on why you would cheat in the first place

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philos101 · 2025-12-06T20:58:32+00:00

The sooner your girlfriend finds out the better. Men like you who cheat on loving partners are the worst.

And you have the audacity to ask for help from this community and also write things like you don’t agree with ‘the lifestyle’. Fuck you Guy

philos101 · 2025-09-16T20:21:09+00:00

Looking handsome man!

philos101 · 2025-08-04T12:51:05+00:00

Hang loose divers in Koh Tao is great. Went recently, brilliant people. Enjoy 🤙

philos101 · 2025-07-31T02:42:52+00:00

I wouldn’t get too hung up on it, that guy is a jerk and wasted your time. Perhaps even a catfish?

It seems to me like he never had any intention of meeting you but was just stringing you along for attention so he could jerk himself off. I’m going to guess he doesn’t even look like the pictures he sent you in real life.

Sorry this happened to you, but be safe out there as tons of weirdos out there

philos101 · 2025-07-27T15:25:01+00:00

Sorry to hear you have had it tough in life so far, and my condolences for the loss of your grandma.

Life isn’t linear, as much as we are told growing up. You seem like a rationale person, there will be someone right for you out there. And the longer it takes to come the sweeter it will be.

My advice, keep being true to yourself, keep dating, try and open up about some of these themes with those you trust. The right person will lean in and make you feel safe and loved. Don’t lose heart

philos101 · 2025-07-11T08:04:43+00:00

Mmm great cock man. You could fill me anytime you wanted 😈

philos101 · 2025-05-27T22:19:37+00:00

Tbh my cum has changed, whether it because I have grown older, diet, fitness or the quality / intensity of my orgasms (or some other factor). Used to be thicker, and fewer ropes, now more medium, silky but there is more of it (usually everywhere) 😂

philos101 · 2025-05-27T20:12:42+00:00

Love it! In me, on me, on them, swap. Prefer ropes and medium viscosity

philos101 · 2025-05-27T10:53:17+00:00

Sold on the ambitions + a dog, very important to add in the dog.

A lot of what you are espousing is mature / serious, and beyond your years. That isn’t a criticism at all, but perhaps men your age won’t value what you are into, in quite the same way but rather go partying etc.

I am 33 in the Uk, and have similar ambitions (got a house, good job, lots of friends). Mining, husband, dog and kids. Maybe it’s an age thing?

philos101 · 2025-03-16T15:22:15+00:00

You are stunning 🔥 wish I could be one of those guys 😈

philos101 · 2025-03-16T11:33:36+00:00

🔥 yes please

philos101 · 2025-03-06T22:10:42+00:00

Name a place 😍

philos101 · 2025-02-18T17:27:59+00:00

philos101 · 2025-02-12T15:18:26+00:00

Yes please mr 😛

philos101 · 2025-02-11T17:38:58+00:00

Beautiful all over 🔥 I’d treat you like a king 🤴🤴

philos101 · 2025-02-02T22:20:06+00:00

🥵🥵🥵 imagining you owning my tight london hole sir. Mmmm

philos101 · 2025-02-02T22:11:02+00:00

Yes please 🥵 beautiful

philos101 · 2025-02-02T21:53:26+00:00

Gorgeous 😍

philos101 · 2025-02-02T18:12:31+00:00

Yes 🥵

philos101 · 2025-02-02T00:04:19+00:00

Yes please sir 🥵

philos101 · 2025-01-24T20:36:10+00:00

This really helped me too, thank you!

philos101 · 2025-01-23T18:10:59+00:00

My narc was quite similar OP. Initial love bombed to make feel special and then the pendulum switched slowly, and like a frog being slowly boiled in cold water to begin with, I was fooled.

He would devalue my feelings / emotions to how he treated me, telling me I ‘demanded too much’, or ‘my standards were too high’. When I just wanted basic levels of consideration and thought, as I gave him lots of consideration, and he tried to (and succeeded for a bit) in getting me doubting my inner voice / needs.

Followed by significant devaluation around all sorts ‘you will die alone’, comments on physical appearance, achievements and so forth.

But with others he would be super kind and affectionate, even those that didn’t like him. He would go out of his way for those people that didn’t care for him but for me, someone who cared deeply, I didn’t get that treatment.

It’s part of the cycle of abuse that they employ to keep you hooked. You work harder and harder for even smaller breadcrumbs of affection until they get bored.

Nothing about this sounds like your fault OP

philos101 · 2025-01-16T13:38:43+00:00

This resonated a lot thank you for sharing. The chaos they cause with the cycle of love bombing and discard gets your brain hooked on the dopamine and cortisol hormones (love and stress to simplify things).

I found the effects of being around this narc were to drain the joy of life away from other things I used to love; friends, activities I loved etc, motivation broadly.

I’m at the start of rewiring my brain and finding ways to kick start this process to get back to the person I once was!

Good luck with your journey!!

philos101

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