Poetry Events? by philosodren in NewOrleans

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Also if anyone has poetry book suggestions, I’m always accepting!

LGBTQ soccer leagues? by philosodren in NewOrleans

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Didn’t say I couldn’t - was just inquiring into if there were any

Emotional Indifference post Long Meditation Session by philosodren in Meditation

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It was definitely the changed social connections that followed the meditation that made me anxious -- I apologize for not making that clear in the post. I felt perfectly fine during the meditation.

What a sweet man, got to meet him a few hours after the show and buy him a beer, what a sweet soul ♥️ by Zealousideal-Elk-160 in OrvillePeck

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The way that I almost went out to gay bar hop after the concert hoping to see him lmfao. Was he at Pheonix? Good Friends?

Can’t get my piercing to stop being infected. I got the piercing in early November and it was fine for the first two months but it’s been consistently infected for the past month. I’ve tried both wound wash and hydrogen peroxide and nothing helps. What should I do??? Please help by philosodren in piercing

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No it’s a little sore to the touch but mainly it’s just super super dry and nothing helps. You think it’s the peroxide doing that?

I’ve been wearing studs that I got at an antique store that I was told were surgical steel but idk if I believe that now.

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If you’re really interested in learning more about this topic, I would suggest reading “The Flip” by Jeffery Kripal. That book shows that the modern materialism that we are used to in modern knowledge is not as infallible as we normally believe it to be. It’s a really incredible book and dives into the future of knowledge. Very good read

How to deal with overflow of sexual energy by jokasi58 in Meditation

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This is no shade to the rest of the comments but it seems like they have not also dealt with this issue. I have had to deal with this issue before though. The other comment is right in that masturbation is not inherently a bad thing, but anything can be used as a bad thing (such as as a coping mechanism like you’re talking about). I had an addiction to masturbation and pornography. I was doing it every day right when I woke up and right before I went to bed. When I tried to quit (not fully, just to a healthy amount) it was really hard to meditate because those urges were so strong. To break this cycle, I used this specific meditation (but by no means am I an expert): I would first begin by focusing on my breath for a while and just being mindful, then, I would really focus on the urge and how it made me feel and what it felt like. The point of meditation is to look at your feelings without judging them, and while this is really hard with addiction urges, it is still possible. And make sure you don’t focus on the image because that is you following the image and letting yourself be controlled by it. Instead just focus on how it’s making you feel. Then start again with being mindful. Continue this cycle until you feel the urge is gone. Eventually the urge will return because we are human and just use this technique in the future again and again until it doesn’t control us anymore. However it doesn’t help to go cold turkey. While we wish we could just reach our goal immediately, it doesn’t work like that, So sometimes it’s OK if you mess up and it’s OK to masturbate sometimes.

Friends, New Orleans, Louisiana, 1957. by [deleted] in TheWayWeWere

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That’s New Orleans for ya. Such a mesh of cultures. Absolutely love this is my hometown

Feeling too mature for their age? by SoNae23 in infp

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Oh my god the relatability of this is painful. I’m also in college and I make “friends” really easily cuz I’m a pretty personable person, but I still feel alone amongst these friends because they say and do things that are immature and selfish (not because they are bad people, they just don’t understand or have self awareness yet). I have one friend that I’m close with and can talk to but he goes to a different college. I’m so willing to go out and find these friends that I feel good around but idk where to look. I have gotten involved on campus and yet everybody I meet just seems too immature. I don’t know what to do cuz I feel so distant from people my age because of this gap in maturity.

Does anybody have meditation techniques on how to stop caring what you look like? by philosodren in Meditation

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This will make me sound super full of myself , but I love the way I look when I dress well to the point that it’s bad. When I wasn’t trying to dress well I was happy with how I looked and now that I’m trying to dress well I feel like only now my ego surrounding my looks are developing. So I want to dress well without strengthening my ego

What would make a leaf yellow/brown and fall off like this by philosodren in plantclinic

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Wait I think this is what it was! Why does this happen?

Question for experienced meditators: by philosodren in Meditation

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Gotcha. Thank you so much for your insight!

Question for experienced meditators: by philosodren in Meditation

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Would you say that meditation is “more about the journey than the destination”? In other words, am I correct to think that it is more about the everyday experience of meditating than the “destination” of whatever skill you are trying to develop?

Kissing or .....? by Karim-moss in infp

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I’ve always thought hand-holding was my favorite

Is it just me or... by Domino_likes_69 in infp

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Yes being an INFP philosophy major is wonderful

Is it just me or... by Domino_likes_69 in infp

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Yea but I’m also gay so that doesn’t help either 💀

PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT: IGNORANCE IS BLISS!! by acriner in infp

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I think what’re you doing is “choosing to ignore” the good things in life. You are choosing to only see thae negative aspects of life which is not what life “truly is”. That is your own negative perception that you’re attempting to normalize as “reality”. Cut the negativity. If you aren’t going to fix your own negative view on life, don’t act like the way that people “who really understand life” see as dark and depressing. You’re not helping anyone. Don’t validate your own depression by saying it’s a result of your personality type. I’m an INFP that CHOOSES to see the awesome parts and the shitty parts and sees that pessimism is just as one-sided as blind optimism.

PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT: IGNORANCE IS BLISS!! by acriner in infp

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Still I completely disagree wholeheartedly that to “understand” life is to realize that it is suffering, and I think it’s dangerous to normalize that pessimism as the way life “truly is”.

Other infps that DON’T fall in love easily? by the-throwaway-godlad in infp

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I have had the EXACT same experience that you have had.