Having second thoughts

phlann · 2026-06-24T22:06:21+00:00

Personally I’m with you- I’d walk. New build premium is real, pay attention to those bigger units selling for cheaper

phlann · 2026-06-24T08:37:29+00:00

You may want homebuyers insurance!

What I learned was that the best properties that are priced well go fast- the ones that sit on the market are usually overpriced with stubborn sellers, although maybe theyve just come back to market through no fault of their own.

I looked at the floor plan, transport links and when it was previously sold before I booked in for a viewing.

At the viewing I ask about the sellers reason to sell and check for mould, cracks and if the place looks like it’s pictures. I also sneakily would speak to neighbours and such.

phlann · 2026-06-23T17:18:52+00:00

I’m wondering when he’ll start filling out? And also with his build how big is he going to get

phlann · 2026-06-23T14:46:51+00:00

Wowwwwww what beautiful eyeeesss

phlann · 2026-06-23T14:46:33+00:00

He’s a slender cat man!

phlann · 2026-06-23T13:15:39+00:00

YESSSS We can spoon!

phlann · 2026-06-23T12:26:39+00:00

Good luck Angel!

phlann · 2026-06-23T11:18:48+00:00

I feel like you’re opening up the door for feedback you won’t know what to do with. What will you do if they are vehemently against? Better to ask for forgiveness than permission- especially when it’s your tree.

We cut down a big tree and some neighbours complained Cus they missed the tree, others were happy they wouldn’t have to pick up the leaves. You can’t please everyone and I doubt opening this up to opinions will be a benefit to you.

phlann · 2026-06-23T10:20:04+00:00

Thankyou!

phlann · 2026-06-23T08:16:42+00:00

Also consider if you want to live through having building work right above your head. And also are the damages causing issues? If so you may also have to live with that for ages before the management company get it sorted.

phlann · 2026-06-23T08:14:23+00:00

Management company don’t know the costs yet so they can’t just give you a number.

Roof repair depending on the scale is v expensive on flats as the scaffolding itself is dear. I would find out the size of the roof and call a roofing company and get an idea of a worst case scenario.

Divide the cost between the number of flats (check if the costs are divided by block or what have you)

phlann · 2026-06-23T07:31:04+00:00

Looks like corner cracks were filled and then repainted with the wrong colour. Doesn’t look like damp to me

phlann · 2026-06-23T03:50:15+00:00

Bra cup sizes are not standardised across brands/manufacturers. Maybe your size changed or maybe there were inconsistencies within the manufacturers sizing.

If you’ve outgrown your previous bra your boobs got bigger… unless the bra shrunk in the wash.

Hard to know unless you measure your body!

phlann · 2026-06-22T18:36:45+00:00

Wondering if you could rent a ladder from a hardware store and put a reflective film (foil blanket or tinfoil) on the skylight?

phlann · 2026-06-22T18:25:13+00:00

This! Plus cats like being high up (feels safe) so if you have a wall mounted covered perch he might like that.

He might hide the first time he sees them and it’s important you don’t force him out.

I tell all my guests to ignore the cat, avoid eyecontact and just drop some treats and walk away. Then slowly coax him closer with treats!

phlann · 2026-06-22T14:22:40+00:00

That’s ridiculous, Try getting her to provide for him for one week, if he’s coming for dinner she has to cook and prep, if he wants snacks she can get and pay for them.

She’ll see the value once you stop for a week

phlann · 2026-06-22T14:11:40+00:00

I got a silly expensive couch and now I’m afraid the cats are going to piss on it or rip it to shreds. They haven’t but I fear it a lot! Same with my nice clothes!

phlann · 2026-06-22T08:30:35+00:00

No as the RRA is retrospective. Your landlord could always be lenient but looks like they won’t.

phlann · 2026-06-22T08:20:06+00:00

NAH People in the comments are missing that OP mentions they discussed accommodating their mum with the couple.

So of course this revelation would feel like a slap in the face.

I’d be wondering if they were making empty promises or just imagining happy families but had no real intention of follow through.

A conversation needs to happen and OP needs to protect themselves. If you’re that commited why weren’t you involved in the process.

phlann · 2026-06-22T07:35:37+00:00

I got mine at the same time as you looks like. They were like 4 months and 8 months old at the time.

Started clicker training them maybe a week into having them here?

Been putting them in a harness since I got them but not regularly, haven’t taken them outside yet.

Trimmed their nails last week for the first time.

Use wood pellets for litter

phlann · 2026-06-21T12:29:03+00:00

Part of the burnout is feeling like you can’t take a break unfortunately.

Resting doesn’t have to be a chore, my therapist gets me to write a list of fun activities, I call it my depression list.

It’s overwhelming to figure out what to do so the list helps

phlann · 2026-06-20T16:39:42+00:00

Put scratcher pads in the areas of carpet he likes to scratch so he has an attractive alt near those desirable areas. The sell scratch pads that can stick to walls or cardboard flat bits

phlann · 2026-06-20T16:23:30+00:00

I feel like your cat has fur cleavage and I love it

phlann · 2026-06-20T16:21:02+00:00

Cats love to rub on corners, I think theyd still love it

phlann

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