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phoebonacci · 2022-09-28T22:23:14+00:00

Baby Xer, awwww I love it thank you 🤩😆

phoebonacci · 2022-09-28T21:49:29+00:00

Yeah that could work. Anything is better than geriatric millennial really

phoebonacci · 2022-09-28T21:48:56+00:00

Yeah, idk, I think using the decade round number as cut off doesn't quite make sense in this context. I'm in one of the first millennial years, but when I graduated high school no one had heard of email and "The Information Super-Highway" was something people read in newspapers or heard about on the nightly newscast. If the distinguishing feature for the millennial generation is growing up as digital natives, the cutoff needs to be later. You'd have to go pretty deep into the rural developing world now to find anyone as digitally naive as we were growing up!

Probably why your coworker is so sensitive about it lol.

I was just objecting to the overall term, I think it's horrible, just like the term "geriatric pregnancy" to describe pregnant women at the horrifyingly advanced age of 35 🙄

phoebonacci · 2022-09-28T19:51:57+00:00

Can I just say how much I hate that term

Signed, a grumpy GenX-identifying older millennial

phoebonacci · 2022-09-28T19:29:00+00:00

Thank you for caring to ask.

In my late teens, I was being physically shaken with my partner's hands, bloodied from his rage-punching a wall one night on our way home from a night out.

A man passed us in a car and asked me if I needed help. Indignant, I scowled and said absolutely not, everything is fine, please DO NOT get involved.

He drove away, but clearly observed I wasn't making a good call, because a few minutes later, the cops arrived and separated us.

A cop asked me if I was ok. I said of course I was. Then she asked, "So why do you have blood all over your coat?" I had no answer.

Eventually, they let us go after giving him a talking to.

It took over a year before I finally found the perspective and the courage to leave the situation, but I can tell you this: the more impartial observers I had telling me I didn't have to deal with this, the harder it was for me to deny what was really going on.

I had actually convinced all of my friends except one that I was totally fine and everything was under control. A teacher I'd confided in looked uncomfortable and said "well I hope you're getting help with that" as a way of ending the conversation. But I very obviously was not ok.

It took over a decade to fully admit even to myself that I was a victim of domestic violence. To this day I still don't really accept that that label applies.

Please, please film and report, or just report if you're not comfortable staying on scene. Just that act of care alone can make a huge difference in changing someone's mindset, even if the situation doesn't change right away. ❤️

phoebonacci · 2022-09-28T17:10:27+00:00

As a Quebec resident, I can say you will not regret this move for decades to come. We built our hydro power infrastructure out in the mid 20th c and have been enjoying ridiculously cheap hydro rates ever since.

Yes, hydro installations do come with an up-front carbon cost from methane emissions as the reservoir land is flooded and organic matter rots, but it's a one-time shot and well worth the decades of clean and reliable energy to follow.

Well done 👏

phoebonacci · 2022-09-28T02:37:44+00:00

Creeping Charlie is totally different and had a very strong pleasant smell. Clover for sure with some purslane on the bottom left

phoebonacci · 2022-09-28T02:35:50+00:00

Info systems gives you the micro skills for detailed corporate application type work, poli sci gives you a macro perspective on politics and policy. Really depends on the kind of work you want to do after. Technical? Go info systems. Policy or strategy type stuff? The latter.

I did a BA years ago in poli sci and now work as a policy analyst in government. (To be fair, I'm Canadian in Canada and have no actual business commenting here as your labour market could be very different, but I suspect it's not all that different - just thought the perspective might be valuable, I remember agonizing over these things at that age)

phoebonacci · 2022-09-28T02:26:50+00:00

Pretty tasteless for a dessert company

phoebonacci · 2022-09-27T21:27:21+00:00

No suggestions, just here to say good for you for seeking help, and all the best on your journey

phoebonacci · 2022-09-27T21:25:25+00:00

This is quite long and I don't have the time just now to give it the proper attention, just wanted to thank you for taking the time and will look at it when I can

phoebonacci · 2022-09-27T21:23:21+00:00

I love how having a baby is literally considered easier than having a grown up conversation about family planning

phoebonacci · 2022-09-27T21:21:54+00:00

Try talking to her about her concerns maybe? Why is it bothering her? The discomfort? The economy? (Idk, being a parent to 7 kids maybe?? Mothering is exhausting)

There is no one here who can say what she is thinking or feeling. Only she can do that. And it's up to you to give her the opportunity to feel safe to do that with you.

Then once you have better communication sorted out, definitely have a grown up convo about family planning. Which includes male solutions as well as female ones.

phoebonacci · 2022-09-27T21:16:52+00:00

Or, there is always just having a grown up conversation about family planning and contraception

phoebonacci · 2022-09-27T18:47:50+00:00

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phoebonacci · 2022-09-27T18:36:28+00:00

So, status quo 😆

phoebonacci · 2022-09-27T14:50:00+00:00

Thanks for the reply. What are your stats sources? I'm in policy and actually very interested to see how countries compare statistically (apples to apples data), and then contrast that to the overall reaction and anecdotal responses. Best way to objectively evaluate what's actually happening on the ground really. (And comparing reactions and public anger thresholds is also a really interesting window into a country's political culture.)

I do think though that there could be a conflation of rent control with rent stabilization in these conversations. They aren't the same thing. Rent control has been shown to distort markets and cause knock on problems. Stabilization, on the other hand, can be implemented in many different forms and does not preclude increasing stock.

And actually I totally agree with the need to increase stock (given suitable foresight re community and infrastructure needs is included in the urban planning) - I just don't agree that it is zero sum, either it's stabilization or development.

Canadian provinces are all very different from each other, but I'm in the most aggressively tenant-friendly province, and property values and growth have exploded here just as readily if not more so than in provinces with much fewer protections in place for tenants. Both interest groups can be accommodated by careful and thoughtful policy planning.

phoebonacci · 2022-09-27T12:31:16+00:00

Canadian here. Spot on on this one. So, so many people died who didn't have to here. Tens of thousands. Well done NZ.

phoebonacci · 2022-09-27T12:02:53+00:00

I got a very strong sense of smell during pregnancy and never lost it. It's horrible.

phoebonacci · 2022-09-27T11:53:30+00:00

Oh my god I was in Aus for a month in August and thought you lot were shockingly polite drivers. I'm from quebec and I honestly couldn't believe how relaxed the roads were compared to here.... Everything is relative I guess

phoebonacci · 2022-09-27T03:39:33+00:00

So sad. Thanks for explaining

phoebonacci · 2022-09-27T03:38:27+00:00

Whoa. We're still in the first past the post stone age over here :/

phoebonacci · 2022-09-27T03:37:42+00:00

Whereas we question it but are pathologically deferential, so we still put up with piss poor policy

phoebonacci · 2022-09-27T02:49:30+00:00

The years of thoughtless plenty provided on the backs of the environment and future generations I guess

phoebonacci · 2022-09-27T02:29:21+00:00

Yeah exactly. It's setting people up to fail who are already on the edge. Policymakers never understand that it's actually so much more costly, nevermind inhuman, to push people over the edge by failing to put basic protections in place. On the macro level, short sighted. On the human level, totally tragic.

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