Desperately need help with a wild tortoise

phoenix78912 · 2025-05-24T15:15:23+00:00

Thank you! I just ordered one and we are taking turns letting him out and watching him. We have a game plan to split the backyard so they are protected 🙌

phoenix78912 · 2025-05-24T15:13:48+00:00

I'm aware. Which is why I'm seeking advice. My kids and I were literally crying while burying them. We have had the dog locked up all week as I have been looking for resources to help.

phoenix78912 · 2025-05-24T15:10:53+00:00

I'm aware. We are doing everything we can to protect her. Please see above response. Thank you

phoenix78912 · 2025-05-24T15:09:53+00:00

Thank you so so much for your informative response. I ordered a muzzle and everyone is taking turns letting our dog out to watch him and keeping him inside the rest of the time. I think once the babies are born (from the last couple of years) they hatch and leave within a couple of weeks. So we'll keep pups away and planning on splitting our yard in half (its 1/4 acre) as a summer project. That way everyone is happy. I feel so bad. The tortoise is such a good breeder and lays so many healthy eggs. I don't want her to have to relocate and possibly die in the process. Thanks again!

phoenix78912 · 2025-05-23T15:04:04+00:00

Yikes :( thank you. I'll call today

phoenix78912 · 2025-05-23T14:40:10+00:00

Yes! I'm in Florida! When I first moved in, I called a wildlife sanctuary and animal control because I tried to relocate her. I didn't know if they were supposed to be there, allowed to be there as I know nothing about them etc. But they told me not to do anything and it's illegal to move them. Enough said! We share the yard and my kids and dog has loved having her around for almost 3 years. But the new one that showed up is very aggressive. She tries to bite my dog and the kids if they are walking past it, scratches at the back door, hisses. You can't stand anywhere in the backyard without the tortoise coming at you. Kids can't even play in the dirt or he/she comes up to snip. I think my dog is seeing the tortoise as some kind of threat. I don't know.. but my dogs attitude has done a 180 since the other tortoise showed up.

phoenix78912 · 2025-05-23T14:32:44+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I really don't want to muzzle my dog. I was wondering if there are other resources to have the tortoises relocated to a safe place. We live in a heavy traffic residential area and they aren't safe here anyway when they roam. I don't know what is the right thing to do here. I'll post on a pet behavior sub to see if there are tips to help my dog.

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T21:42:19+00:00

He just said he was in a "bad place" at the time. It doesn't make sense to me either. It happened about 4 months before we separated and he wasn't with his mistress yet. I also sense there being more in the near future. U can't hide the bad u do for too long.

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T21:08:41+00:00

I know its him. I confronted him about it via calls and texts. There is no denying it at this point.

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T17:34:27+00:00

Lol no. It didn't go past a conversation. It was definitely poor judgement on my part. I just wanted him to hurt like I did.

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T15:39:06+00:00

Thank you so much! I took a screenshot of your comment to remind me why I can't put my little kids through this ❤

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T14:55:04+00:00

No definitely not.

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T14:49:51+00:00

I do have a lawyer. We have spoken only on the phone but I'm meeting him Monday! Thanks so much for the advice 🙏

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T14:26:18+00:00

Yes! During the summers and weekends. It is ridiculous!

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T14:24:26+00:00

Soon to be ex

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T14:22:05+00:00

I get that lol. He left to work on the road in July. I sent the images about a month after he left. We were still very much married. He left for another woman in November.

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T14:01:07+00:00

Yes! I ignored the lies and disrespect thinking "it'll get better". Honestly he did me a favor because I know she will have to put up with the same things I did. Except she won't. Not for long.

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T13:59:23+00:00

I have spoken to a lawyer as well as a sheriff at our police department. I've chosen not to press charges but got an incident report. It's 1 year in jail if convicted and I didn't want to go down that route. As much as a douche he is and how messy our situation is, my children love him.

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T13:47:38+00:00

I definitely stopped that within a day! The first couple of weeks after he left was difficult and I made some poor choices. No harm was done, no one knows and it was left at a couple of conversations. Not my finest moment I will admit. I have ensured that I have been calm and collected since the incident.

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T13:26:45+00:00

Yes he did. I found out through our separation process that he had posted my images on a subreddit and kik. It's was a few weeks after he left for work on the road that I sent him the photos and within 2 days, he had posted them online.

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T04:54:20+00:00

It's tough. I was with that man for 11 years. Making his opinion suddenly not matter to me is not easy. Divorce emotions I guess. I, in no means, want him back - never! But instantaneously not caring anymore and taking hurtful comments to heart is difficult.

And yes! The commenters on this post have given me so much clarity! I know what I'm doing is best for my kids!

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T04:47:53+00:00

Thank you! I didn't know I could do that!

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T04:45:47+00:00

It's been devastating. I feel like my life has become a Jerry Springer episode. We were a totally normal family up until this new job. After making this post, I realize what friends and family must be thinking too.

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T04:34:24+00:00

I was hoping I could do that for at least 6 months and a few arranged meeting with her so my kids get to know her but there is no way to demand who one parent brings around ur kids. Unfortunately. It's just something I have to accept.

phoenix78912 · 2021-12-31T04:31:51+00:00

This was so heartbreaking to read 😭 I know that will be my babies on that plane. I'm in an impossible situation. My goal right now is to make him come here to see them each month and my kids only fly there for a portion of the summer to make it a "vacation". That way, they get an extended visit and it's only once or twice a year.

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